The Marriage Conversation

You may be surprised to know that marriage failure has a lot to do with the model or paradigm you live within, more perhaps than it has to do with poor choice of partner. Your paradigm informs your perception – your expectations, your images of satisfaction, and your willingness to work on this marriage.

Arguments are power struggles and power struggles occur in the absence of true or ‘good’ authority. Arguments are useless because they aren’t really aimed at solutions. They are concerned with winning or losing. Good authority recognizes authority in others. If you are going to change your relationship with a teenager you’ll be wise to recognize […]

Stonewalling, passivity, avoidance are all relationship stoppers. This podcast is about changing the game and opening a new pathway to talking about difficult stuff. You can recreate a style of conversation and in doing so, recreate your marriage.

We may think we know our partners better than they know themselves. That conceit lies behind a whole lot of frustration when communication is the issue within marriage. Anticipating what will be said is a communication stopper. Here’s a story for you.

The way you see the world and the way your partner sees the world inevitably will be different. Getting your hands around that idea will change your conversations from adversarial to collaborative.

Money makes the world go around, or so they said in the stage play Cabaret. While it may or may not be the root of all evil it is the root of much conflict within marriage. Here’s our introduction to this dicey topic.