The Marriage Conversation

What happens to us sometimes happens for us. What we call wounds can be the impetus to self realization. I don’t mean to be an ‘airy – fairy’ optimist here. I do mean to encourage you to take a second look at those experiences you perhaps have felt victimized by and see how you can […]

Consciousness is partly distilled wisdom. It is the capacity to take one’s own experience together with the experience of others and create a third thing. Consciousness summarizes, focuses, points. We are always distilling miles and miles of information – emotional, intellectual, spiritual, psychological and physical – and using it to make sense of our complex […]

The stream of experience, the wealth of learning, the vast resources of memory – all are contained ‘in a nutshell’ in our stories. Stories help us feel our commonality, community, and communicate images we count on to survive. Stories pull us, push us, startle us, perplex us. Life without stories would be flat lined indeed.

We are wonderfully made. We have all kinds of radar for picking up information that we’d otherwise miss. We also have a vast capacity for imagining, for creating clues to guide us. Trouble is, most of the time, we aren’t tuned in to the clues or the signals that our hard wiring offers.

“A prophet is not without honor, except in his own country.” So an ancient saying goes. Those we are closest to often suffer from familiarity in this way: it’s hard to see their gifts, hard to gain perspective, hard too to even hear them – when what they are saying doesn’t fit our habitual way […]

We look at the world the way we always have. A new perspective – a really fresh look – is hard to come by. Yet, relationship viability requires this competency. We must be able to re-contextualize, to re- imagine chronic challenges if we are to have any possibility of moving on and through them. To […]

Spirituality is deeper and far more relational than religion. Spirituality connects you to the Source of Being. Spirituality also connects us to each other. It is about the deepest resonance of life itself.

Grief is part of life. How you enter it, relate to it, share it, as well as what you learn from it – determines what you give back to the world. Giving back to the world may be the most important gift grieving and loss offers.