The Messed Up Counsellor

I look at the process of change and loss which is a core issue for most human beings. I explore ways to understand the process and what might be helpful to move through it to get to the other side.

What makes us different? Is it ok to be different? Exploring our differences and celebrating them so that we can be differently abled and not feel inadequate.

Possibly the most important and eventful aspects of our lives: building quality connected relationships. I explore the importance of good quality relationships and how to help restore them when they go wrong or face difficulties.

What is insecurity? Where does it come from? Is it normal? How does it affect us?

An exploration of my first book: The journey, the mistakes and lessons I  learnt in the process.

We all overstep this process at times in our lives, and do things which we think will be helpful, only to find the person we are helping feels controlled. The only way to understand if you have gone from help to control is to ask the other person how they feel, and if they wanted you to do that for them.

You know the feeling of being targeted, bullied, isolated, and put down by someone? Why do people do that to others? Well, what I share may shock you. Using my personal experience and professional awareness, I hope I can give you a different view of this and a new way of reacting to it.

This is becoming more of an issue every year, with some children experiencing multiple separations. In this episode I share some ways to help all parties respect and value each other.

We can't always avoid the things that bother us. However, we can often deal with why something is bothering us, and this might be a more realistic and practical resolution to the issue at hand.

What’s this thing called feelings in relationships?

In this podcast I explore communicating feelings. I often see people whose emotional vocabulary is so limited (or non existent) that they struggle to communicate how they feel in a meangingful way.