Amy Dresner is the most brilliant, funniest, wildest writer
you’ve never met, she used to be a stand-up comic and is still funnier than one.
If you want to hear from someone who took it ALL THE WAY; that would be Amy-
rehabs for meth, coke, and alcohol, psyche wards, and that’s not even counting
the food issues and sex addiction… but she swapped all that for Yerba Mattes, vaping nicotine, and writing for "The Fix" and
advice columnist Amy Alcon, among others. I know Dresner well, because I’m lucky, and now you will know
her too, if you are worthy. The first classic quote we get from her is “You can’t be
full of dick and full of sadness. Be sad after, when they don’t call you again,
but you can’t be sad during it.” I think I will get that stitched into a pillow.
We delve into “daddy issues,” and where hers
came from, if she has any. Amy discusses vulnerability and the line between that
and just being a drama queen, and we segue into how she developed a sex addiction
after her marriage ended, but also (paradoxically) came into her own sexually.
She owns her mistakes, her peccadillos, and we discuss what makes us get
attached to men, as opposed to "just sex." Dresner talks about the most annoying
thing men and women do, then shares about being sentenced to “community labor”
because of that little “knife incident” and that time she ran into an ex while
sweeping the streets with other felons. At some point when we’re talking about
her seizures and Yerba Matte habit (it's a tea, people) I admit that sometimes I worry about her,
which is apparently a common reaction from her Alanon friends who need to “stay
in their lane.” Amy gets so real and deep about accepting people, no matter
what their path, I’m reminded again why I love her. It took a bunch of dick
jokes, but we get to the beautiful empathic, vulnerable core of being alive. Also,
of all the different kinds of therapy (we’ve both had shit tons) what helped us
the most? We finish off about amongst other things, shame vs. restraint, Tinder
in Brooklyn, having overwhelming emotions and why “damaged people” are
dangerous. Strap in, it’s going to be a bumpy night.