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“. . . it's worth recognizing that there is no such thing as an overnight success. You will do well to cultivate the resources in yourself that bring you happiness outside of success or failure. The truth is, most of us discover where we are headed when we arrive. At that time, we turn around and say, yes, this is obviously where I was going all along. It's a good idea to try to enjoy the scenery on the detours, because you'll probably take a few.” – Bill Watterson, Author of Comic Strip, Calvin & Hobbes
Results tell stories. We often see the result and not the whole journey. Sometimes you may see someone else’s success and wonder if you will ever achieve yours. You may have gotten stuck in comparing and seeing others competition. When you are focused on how to beat out someone, you lose focus on why you started in the beginning. First of all, there is enough for everyone. You can not serve everyone and neither can the person you are comparing yourself too. You can get further ahead by championing others and raving about their successes.
To start turning your results around, you need to realize a change has to be made. These changes may have been brought to your attention before and you ignored them or did not take them seriously. The world brings it to your attention through your results and suddenly you hear about a spouse leaving with the kids because the workaholic partner never had time for them, debts continue to rise, or you get high blood pressure because you are not taking care of yourself. Things tend to break down around you if you do not give them your time and attention.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
What results am I now aware of?
Where did my results go off track?
How did I contribute to this?
What lessons have I gained from this?
What do I want my results to look like?
What do I need to continue doing?
What do I need to stop doing?
What can be done differently?
Who can I ask for support?
What resources do I need?
Some common issues in leadership, business, personal situations are:
* Avoiding confrontation and difficult conversations.
* Neglecting to pay attention to the numbers (finances).
* Having more fun than working on what matters most.
* Mixing business money with personal money.
* Working in a hobby thinking it is a business.
* Spending time with people who matter the most.
* Focus on greatest return on investment.
* Discovering health problems.
Communication. If there are issues in interpersonal relationships, they need to be tended to in a timely manner. Otherwise, it can lead to deep hurts or blow up in your face. Ultimately, it impacts results.
* Think about your contribution to the matter.
* Take time to address conflict by focusing on the facts and removing emotion. When emotions are high, you will not be able to think rationally and may say something you later regret.
* Gain an understanding of the other persons perception and share yours. Was there some miscommunication that can be clarified?
* Clarify misunderstanding and set expectations should a similar event happen in the future.
* Show appreciation with a handshake, hug, kind word, or written note, if appropriate.
Money. Money. Money. It needs your attention. Best case scenario is having more money coming in than going out. The more money you keep, the more you have to work with and have in your bank account. If you have a started a business, it is important to keep your business money and personal money separated. Once they start mixing it is too hard to unravel.