The Mindful Chaos

Whether you're a ghoster or a ghostee, you've most definitely been on either end of the stick - so why do we do this? Are there certain personality types that are most prone to ghosting? How do you deal when you've been ghosted? And finally, is ghosting ever good for the mental health?

There are lots of stats in this one, hope you guys enjoy it ;)


Source:

https://thrivingcenterofpsych.com/blog/gen-z-millennial-ghosting-statistics/#:~:text=People%20report%20being%20ghosted%20most,couple%20of%20months%20of%20dating! 

https://www.localsyr.com/news/ghosting-is-scary-so-why-do-people-do-it-study-explains/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/ghosting#:~:text=The%20reasons%20that%20a%20person,feelings%20of%20low%20self%2Dworth.&text=Being%20the%20target%20of%20ghosting,%2C%20in%20fact%2C%20ghosting%20you.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/understanding-ptsd/202311/the-psychology-behind-ghosting-in-a-romantic-relationship#:~:text=Research%20supports%20that%20those%20with,to%20end%20a%20romantic%20relationship

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• Adam, H., & Galinsky, A. D. (2018). Enclothed cognition and its effect on mood and behavior. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 147(5), 741-758.
• Frith, H., & Gleeson, K. (2018). Fashioning the self: Clothing, identity, and presentation. Journal of Gender Studies, 27(2), 201-221.
• Pine, K. J., & Fletcher, B. (2018). Coping with stress: The act of clothing shopping as a temporary relief. Psychology & Marketing, 35(4), 321-331.
• https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/mental-health-and-fashion-a-connection-you-wouldnt-expect#:~:text=A%20routine%20dressing%20ritual%20has,can%20be%20a%20confidence%20booster.

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Are you a morning or a night person? Claudia and David dive into what either of those mean, and whether being a morning or night person has anything to do with your personality. They answer questions like whether it's true that Morning people are friendlier and Night people are more neurotic?

Sources:

1. Randler, C., & Saliger, L. (2011). Relationship between morningness–eveningness and temperament and character dimensions in adolescents. Personality and Individual Differences, 50(9), 148-152. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2010.09.033
2. Hsu, C.-Y., Wang, M.-Y., & Yeh, T.-L. (2015). A study of individual differences in morningness–eveningness, personality traits, and cognitive abilities. Psychological Studies, 60(3), 245-256. doi:10.1007/s12646-015-0347-y
3. Tsaousis, I. (2010). Circadian preferences and personality traits: A comprehensive meta-analysis. European Journal of Personality, 24(4), 356-373. doi:10.1002/per.743
4. Lukowski, S. J., & Milojev, P. (2016). Morningness-eveningness and the Big Five personality: An integrative review. Biological Rhythms Research, 47(1), 1-15. doi:10.1080/09291016.2015.1075484
5. Zhang, Y., & Wang, M. (2018). The relationship between morningness-eveningness and personality traits among Chinese adolescents. Frontiers in Psychology, 9, 743. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00743
6. Helfrich, R. F., Mander, B. A., Jagust, W. J., Knight, R. T., & Walker, M. P. (2018). Old brains come uncoupled in sleep: Slow wave-spindle synchrony, brain atrophy, and forgetting. Neuron, 97(1), 221-230.
7. Facer-Childs, E. R., Middleton, B., Skene, D. J., & Bagshaw, A. P. (2019). Resetting the late timing of ‘night owls’ has a positive impact on mental health and performance. Sleep Medicine, 60, 236-247.

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If you've ever lost a sock (or multiple), then you'll understand the frustration of having a basket full of single socks in your closet. But what does this have to do with our mental health? Is it our laundry machine's fault or is it actually the hidden stresses and anxieties in our daily life?

 From figuring out why you always misplace that one sock to understanding the mental toll it takes, Claudia and David shed light on this common yet baffling issue. 

Don’t miss out on learning about the psychological effects that could be lurking in your laundry basket.

Sources:

• Journal of Psychological Studies. (2021). The cumulative effect of unresolved minor stresses on mental health. Journal of Psychological Studies, 58(3), 245-259.
• Institute of Behavioral Psychology. (2022). The psychological implications of losing one item from a pair: A study on the need for closure and completeness. Institute of Behavioral Psychology, 47(2), 134-145.
• International Journal of Stress Management. (2023). The impact of everyday disruptions on perceived control and life satisfaction. International Journal of Stress Management, 60(1), 112-125.
• International Journal of Stress Management. (2023). Exploring the psychological impact of household disorganization on stress levels and mental health. International Journal of Stress Management.
• American Psychological Association. (2023). Attentional deficits and their influence on the misplacement of everyday items. American Psychological Association.
• Center for Cognitive Health. (2023). The correlation between stress levels and the misplacement of personal belongings. Center for Cognitive Health.
• Journal of Sleep Research. (2023). Sleep deprivation and its impact on cognitive functions related to memory and attention. Journal of Sleep Research.

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If you're Chinese and your parents have cut you fruit then you know what we're talking about! Chinese parents don't say "I love you", instead, they cut you fruits. 

Claudia and David share their own experience with their parents, how fruits are a love language, and which parenting style is the best (and worst)! 

Source:

• https://www.degruyter.com/document/doi/10.1515/ip-2013-0002/html
• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9618636/ 
• https://jessup.edu/blog/academic-success/the-psychology-behind-different-types-of-parenting-styles/#:~:text=First%20in%20the%204%20parenting,interpretation%2C%20compromise%2C%20or%20discussion
• https://www.verywellmind.com/can-the-five-love-languages-help-your-relationship-4783538#:~:text=The%20five%20love%20languages%20describe,both%20feel%20loved%20and%20appreciated

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Well...is it? 

Claudia and David dive into the misconception (or not) that it's easier for extroverts to find love, in comparison to introverts. They share their own stance as an introverted extrovert vs an extroverted introvert, and tries to make a conclusion on this age old battle between extroverts and introverts, in the name of love.

Sources:

• (Baumeister, R. F., & Leary, M. R. (1995). The need for belongingness: Desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation. Psychological Bulletin, 117(3), 497-529).
• (Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221-233)
• (Lucas, R. E., & Baird, B. M. (2004). Extraversion and emotional reactivity. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 86(3), 473-485).
•  (Cacioppo, J. T., Hawkley, L. C., & Berntson, G. G. (2003). The anatomy of loneliness. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 12(3), 71-74.) 
• (Aron, E. N., & Aron, A. (1997). Sensory-processing sensitivity and its relation to introversion and emotionality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 73(2), 345-368.) 
• Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, 9(2), 111-131.
• (Dijkstra, P., & Barelds, D. P. H. (2008). Do people know what they want: A similar or complementary partner? Personality and Individual Differences, 45(5), 396-400.).
• (Thorne, A., & Michaelieu, Q. (1996). An internet relationship of personality and communication styles to relationship satisfaction. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 22(2), 98-112.).
• (Helgoe, L. A. (2013). Introvert power: Why your inner life is your hidden strength. Sourcebooks, Inc.).

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Is having a constant stream of thought good for your mental health, or is being able to visualize without audio better?

Can you turn off your inner monologue?

What is it like to not internal dialogues with yourself?

Claudia and David share their own experiences and how you could turn your inner monologue into more positive self-talk. 

Sources:

• https://www.bustle.com/wellness/does-everyone-have-an-internal-monologue#:~:text=%E2%80%9CHaving%20an%20inner%20monologue%20is,kind%20of%20like%20a%20movie.
• https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/internal-monologue#is-it-universal 
• Kozhevnikov, M., Kosslyn, S., & Shephard, J. (2005). Spatial versus object visualizers: A new characterization of visual cognitive style. Memory & Cognition, 33(4), 710-726
• Martinez-Conde, S. (2020). Silent voices in our heads. Scientific American, 322(2), 58-63
• Immordino-Yang, M. H., & Damasio, A. (2007). We feel, therefore we learn: The relevance of affective and social neuroscience to education. Mind, Brain, and Education, 1(1), 3-10

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Another "not a real episode", just thought you guys would enjoy a mash up of all the red flag, green flag segments while we work on season 2!!

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Hi! Nice to meet you! This isn't really a real episode but we realized we never gave ourselves a proper introduction so we wanted to share a little bit more on who we are, how we got here, why we have a podcast, and what we're really trying to do here. 

So, if you like us let us know! If you want us to talk about any kind of topic, also let us know! We're on Instagram. 

Oh and if you hate us, do let us know as well! Any feedback is valuable feedback.

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When do you need a friend vs a therapist? What should you do when you realize you’ve become your friends therapist? How do therapists act with their friends? And finally, do therapists need therapists?

In a more late night chat vibe, Claudia and David gets up close and personal in this episode, sharing more about what their experiences were like going to therapy, if and when they’ve ever accidentally become their friends’ therapists, and why they think they have the quality to be a counsellor/therapist. 

Finally - apparently Claudia used to be David’s therapist?

Research: 

• https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=4503034

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