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  • The High Cost Of Addiction: A Financial And Emotional Perspective With Ryan Skinner

    “The more disciplined I am, the more freedom I have.”

    Episode summary:

    In this episode, Nick speaks with Ryan Skinner, an entrepreneur, financial advisor, and coach. Ryan shares his journey of recovery from addiction and how it has transformed his life. They discuss the importance of spirituality, routine, and discipline in his recovery and personal growth and the importance of finding a mentor or coach to guide you on your path to self-mastery.

    What to listen for:

    • Discover how Ryan transitioned from a background of low self-esteem and unconventional jobs, such as working as a stripper in college, to building confidence and becoming a successful entrepreneur.
    • Explore the pivotal moment in Ryan’s recovery when he chose to return to jail to receive treatment instead of taking a plea deal, marking a turning point in his life and sobriety.
    • Discover Ryan’s philosophy of keeping a high vibration by not becoming attached to material success and instead prioritizing humility, service, and spiritual growth.
    • Gain insight into how Ryan’s experiences with addiction, recovery, and personal transformation have shaped his approach to helping others in business and life, illustrating the profound connection between inner growth and outer success.

      • “If you’re somebody who’s in recovery… when you have that spiritual connection, if you do something and you put that block between you and that source, it just fucks you all up.”

      • How our spiritual connection plays a critical role in our recovery.
      • What happens when negative actions create barriers between us and source.
      • How disconnecting from God (source) can have a disruptive impact on our overall well-being.
      • Recovery isn’t just about sobriety; it’s about nurturing a deeper connection to something greater.

        • “Do something you can do so you can build something you love to do. You can’t just find a job you love. You have to build it.”

        • What it’s like to build a fulfilling career knowing that it requires creating opportunities, not just finding them.
        • Success and passion come from constructing something meaningful over time.
        • The importance of taking actionable steps towards building the work you love.
        • Exploring patience and persistence as essential pieces in creating a job that aligns with us.

          • “What really helped me, for me, was a 12-step program… I never knew that that was the key to the kingdom of life.”

          • How the 12-step program can be a transformative path for recovery and life.
          • Exploring how solutions we need can often be found in unexpected places, like a recovery program.
          • Understanding how frameworks, like the program, an unlock deeper life insights.
          • Recovery isn’t just about overcoming addiction; it’s about discovering the keys to a fuller life.

            • About Ryan Skinner

            With a proven track record of insightful thought leadership and dynamic presentation skills, Ryan brings a unique blend of expertise and charisma that captivates audiences. His extensive experience in finances has allowed him to deeply understand the challenges and opportunities within the industry, making his presentations both relevant and impactful. Ryan’s ability to distill complex concepts into relatable anecdotes and practical takeaways ensures that attendees, regardless of their background, leave the event with a clear and enriched understanding of the subject matter.

            • https://crackingthecodewithryanskinner.com/
            • https://www.linkedin.com/company/crackingthecodewithryan/
            • https://www.instagram.com/crackingthecodewithryanskinner/

              • Resources:

              Check out these other episodes about addiction and recovery

              • Episode #3 w/ Tim Kassouf: Superman Shares His Secrets About Addiction, Recovery, And Faith
              • Episode #4: w/Mike D’Agostino: Life Beyond The Edge Of Suicide And Depression
              • Episode #67 w/ Dr. Robb Kelly: Alcoholism May Run In The Family But It Doesn’t Need To Run Your Life
              • Episode #70 w/ Sean Robinson: Going Dry And Overcoming Habitual Drinking
              • Episode #91 w/ Nick McGowan: How Sobriety Helped Me See My Alcohol Addiction In A New Light 
              • Episode #116 w/ J.K Emezi: How To Stop Struggling With Secret Compulsions And Not Let Your Porn Habit Define You

                • Are you wondering what your purpose is in this world? Check out our “The 3 Steps to Pinpointing Your Purpose and Charting a Clear Course to Aligned Living”. https://chooseyourcalling.com/

                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today! https://bit.ly/nickclaritysession

                Thank you for listening!

                Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089

                Listen to other episodes here: https://chooseyourcalling.com/author/nickmcgowan/

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                Guest Inquiries right here: [email protected]

                – Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show”

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                30 min
              • Survival And Transformation: Unpacking A Five-Time Cancer Survivor’s Journey With Shariann Tom

                “It’s the pit that becomes that transformative place that is the hardest.”

                Episode summary:

                In this episode, Nick speaks with Shariann Tom, CEO and founder of the Cancer Journey Institute, about her experience with having cancer five times and the importance of mindset and self-mastery in navigating the journey. They discuss the challenges of facing cancer multiple times, the need for support and understanding from others, and the power of listening and being present for someone going through cancer. Shariann emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself, making choices that align with our values, and finding strength and purpose in facing adversity. 

                What to listen for:

                • Cancer is a common and traumatic experience that affects many individuals and their loved ones.
                • Having a support system that truly understands and listens to the person going through cancer is invaluable.
                • Staying true to yourself and making choices that align with personal values and desires is important.
                • Facing cancer multiple times can be a transformative journey that allows individuals to discover their authentic selves and find their purpose.

                  • “But what really took me down was the energy level, the will to live, just all of that just felt like it tanked.”

                  • The mental and emotional drain can be even more debilitating than the physical symptoms, feeling like there’s a dark cloud hanging over you, making it hard to see any light.
                  • When your will to live is tested, one’s motivation to fight and keep going disappears.
                  • You might feel numb, detached, or like you’re on autopilot and finding it hard to connect with yourself and others, but you’re not alone
                  • Hope can feel so far away when you’re constantly in a low-energy state. 
                  • Having a strong support system of people who can lift you up and remind you that it’s okay to feel this way and that you’re not alone in this struggle is crucial.

                    • “Nobody else knows what my body’s feeling. And I’m making a choice. ”

                    • Only you can truly understand your own body and what it’s going through.
                    • It’s important to trust your own instincts and feelings about your health.
                    • Taking control and deciding what’s best for you and your health is empowering.
                    • How important it is to be in tune with our body.
                    • Advocating for yourself is crucial; it’s okay to say no to treatments or advice that don’t feel right for you.

                      • “What are your values? What’s important? And then, well, let’s go a little deeper and we’ll dig to find what’s that real purpose. That thing that you do, only you, in the way that you do it.”

                      • What truly matters to you in life? Take time to reflect on your core values. 
                      • Identifying what’s important helps you prioritize your time and energy. 
                      • Focus on what brings you fulfillment.
                      • Everyone has a unique purpose. 
                      • Discovering your purpose is an ongoing journey.

                        • About Shariann Tom,

                        Shariann is a 5-time cancer survivor and master coach trainer who created a movement where cancer individuals see cancer as the unexpected pathway to living their best lives. Shariann knows a thing or five about going through the cancer journey because she traveled it 5-times and is the creator, co-founder of The Cancer Journey Institute, and co-author of the book “The Call of Cancer: A Loving Pathway to Wholeness, Healing, and Transformation”.

                        • https://www.thecancerjourney.com
                        • http://www.linkedin.com/company/the-cancer-journey
                        • https://www.instagram.com/thecancerjourney/
                        • https://www.amazon.com/Call-Cancer-Pathway-Wholeness-Transformation/dp/B09K1HRJ91 

                          • Resources:

                          Check out these other episodes about cancer survival:

                          • Ep.16 w/ Stacey Jenkins: The Character Builder Of A One Two Punch
                            • https://chooseyourcalling.com/the-character-builder-of-a-one-two-punch/
                            • Ep.106 w/ Terry Tucker: Cancer Doesn’t Define Your Life, You Do, Embrace The Suck
                              • https://chooseyourcalling.com/cancer-doesnt-define-your-life/

                                • Are you wondering what your purpose is in this world? Check out our “The 3 Steps to Pinpointing Your Purpose and Charting a Clear Course to Aligned Living”. https://chooseyourcalling.com/

                                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today! https://bit.ly/nickclaritysession

                                Thank you for listening!

                                Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089

                                Listen to other episodes here: https://chooseyourcalling.com/author/nickmcgowan/

                                Watch Clips and highlights: www.youtube.com/channel/UCk1tCM7KTe3hrq_-UAa6GHA

                                Guest Inquiries right here: [email protected]

                                – Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show”

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                                41 min
                              • How To Heal From Burnout Through Internal Reflection And Self-Care With Dr. Nekeshia Hammond

                                “You deserve to have emotional health. You deserve to be emotionally healthy. You deserve to have joy. You deserve to be happy.”

                                Episode summary:

                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Dr. Nekeshia Hammond, a psychologist and burnout prevention expert. They discuss the importance of self-care and reflection in preventing burnout, emphasize the need to unlearn the go-go-go mentality, and prioritize mental health and well-being. While it’s not always easy, practicing self-care and reflection can lead to a healthier and more fulfilling life, so they discuss strategies for preventing burnout and finding healing. 

                                What to listen for:

                                • Unlearning the go-go-go mentality and prioritizing self-care is essential in preventing burnout.
                                • Taking a minute daily for self-care and reflection can significantly impact mental health and well-being.
                                • Setting non-negotiable boundaries and practicing self-care are key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life.
                                • Set boundaries with technology and social media to prevent burnout.
                                • Find small moments of self-care throughout the day to recharge and reset.
                                • Seek professional support to address deeper issues contributing to burnout.

                                  • “It’s life-changing when you put things into play to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.”

                                  • We must understand the importance of addressing all aspects of health—physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual—for overall well-being.
                                  • There’s the transformative power of proactive self-care routines and practices.
                                  • Dr. Hammond’s personal journey underscores the effectiveness and necessity of these practices.
                                  • Comprehensive and daily self-care can prevent burnout and improve life quality.
                                  • Sustainable health practices can contribute to long-term well-being and resilience.

                                    • “It all goes together. The physical affects the mental, the mental affects the physical.”

                                    • Your physical and mental health are deeply connected.
                                    • Improving your physical health can boost your mental health and vice versa.
                                    • Balanced care is crucial for feeling your best.
                                    • Combining mental and physical health practices leads to better outcomes.

                                      • “All of us need our non-negotiables, whatever that looks like for you.”

                                      • It’s vital to set personal boundaries to take care of yourself.
                                      • Everyone’s self-care needs are different, so find what works best for you.
                                      • Consistent self-care practices are essential for maintaining balance.
                                      • Identify and stick to your non-negotiable priorities to keep burnout at bay.
                                      • Setting and honoring your own self-care standards is empowering.
                                      • Developing sustainable habits is key to long-term health and well-being.

                                        • About Dr. Nekeshia Hammond

                                        Dr. Nekeshia Hammond is a respected psychologist, executive coach, and founder of Hammond Psychology & Associates. She is known for her expertise in mental health, burnout prevention, and leadership development, and she’s an international speaker and bestselling author. Dr. Hammond’s insights have been featured on NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, and Essence Magazine, as well as platforms like Corporate Counsel Women of Color and TEDx, focusing on mental wellness and leadership balance.

                                        • https://www.HammondPsychology.com
                                        • https://www.linkedin.com/in/DrNekeshiaHammond
                                        • https://www.instagram.com/Dr.Hammond

                                          • Resources:

                                          Check out these other episodes about burnout. 

                                          • Ep.28 w/ Susan Landers: Battling Burnout
                                            • https://chooseyourcalling.com/battling-burnout/ 
                                            • Ep.131 w/ Luis Baez: How To Handle And Successfully Navigate Career Burnout
                                              • https://chooseyourcalling.com/how-to-handle-and-successfully-navigate-career-burnout/

                                                • Are you wondering what your purpose is in this world? Check out our “The 3 Steps to Pinpointing Your Purpose and Charting a Clear Course to Aligned Living”. https://chooseyourcalling.com/

                                                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today! https://bit.ly/nickclaritysession

                                                Thank you for listening!

                                                Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089

                                                Listen to other episodes here: https://chooseyourcalling.com/author/nickmcgowan/

                                                Watch Clips and highlights: www.youtube.com/channel/UCk1tCM7KTe3hrq_-UAa6GHA

                                                Guest Inquiries right here: [email protected]– Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show”

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                                                40 min
                                              • How To Embrace Your Challenges And Discover Your Purpose In The Process With James Madison
                                                “Self-mastery and creating the life you want is an inside job.”
                                                In this episode, Nick interviews James Madison, the co-founder of On Purpose Life, about finding purpose and living a life in alignment with one’s purpose. They discuss the misconception that purpose must be grand and how it can look different for everyone. James shares his own experience with procrastination and how he has learned to embrace it as a form of wisdom, as well as the importance of trust in oneself and the process of uncovering and replacing limiting beliefs. Together, they explore the distinction between stress and pressure, the importance of alignment, the need to break free from the hustle culture, and the significance of recognizing one’s unique gifts and talents.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                Procrastination can be a form of wisdom, allowing last-minute creativity and relevancy in presentations and tasks.
                                                Embracing instant gratification can lead to better results as it aligns with the urgency and relevancy of tasks.
                                                Understanding personal beliefs and mindsets, like overcoming the “I’m not good enough” belief, is crucial for breaking unproductive cycles and achieving fulfillment.
                                                Distinguishing between stress (needing change) and pressure (needing to step up) helps leaders use their talents effectively without burning out.
                                                Aligning with personal strengths and purpose transforms stress into productive flow, leading to greater satisfaction and impactful results.
                                                “Stress is like the round peg square hole, this can’t work. Pressure says, I just need to step up and do everything I already know how to do with all of my gifts and my talents.”
                                                Recognizing stress as a sign to reevaluate approaches and pressure as an opportunity to leverage one’s strengths.
                                                We can transform the perception of overwhelming situations by focusing on pressure as a positive motivator.
                                                Pressure can enhance performance by pushing us to maximize our capabilities.
                                                When we apply the distinction between stress and pressure, we can start to improve personal and professional outcomes.
                                                “Until we make the unconscious conscious, it will rule our life, and we will just call it fate. It is what it is.”
                                                When we understand the importance of bringing unconscious patterns into conscious awareness, we can take control of our life.
                                                Acknowledging hidden thoughts and behaviors empowers us to change our destiny.
                                                It is possible for us to identify and alter unconscious influences for better decision-making.
                                                Understanding the role of self-awareness in achieving personal and professional growth.
                                                “Saying yes to almost every opportunity is what got you here today. Saying no to almost every opportunity is what’s going to get you where you want to go in the future.”
                                                At times, saying yes to opportunities can play a crucial role in achieving current success.
                                                Understanding that selective decision-making (often looking like saying no) is key to future advancement and goal attainment.
                                                What happens when we understand the importance of prioritizing opportunities that align with our long-term objectives.
                                                Understanding our own needs for balance and setting boundaries to avoid burnout and maintain focus is crucial to long-term health
                                                A component of intentional growth can look like being mindful of which opportunities to pursue and which to decline.
                                                About James Madison
                                                James Madison is the CEO (Chief Energy Officer), Speaker, Trainer, and Coach at On Purpose Life, LLC. He helps successful senior leaders leave burnout and overwhelm behind to lead winning teams in the achievement of extraordinary results. James is passionate about helping people get clear on what they want and get out of their own way to create their wildest dreams! He believes that when you live “In Purpose On Purpose” you will never work another day in your life! All Flow, No Hustle is his mantra.
                                                https://www.onpurpose-life.com/
                                                https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesfmadison/
                                                Resources:
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                                                37 min
                                              • Exploring Generational And Regional Trauma From A Medium’s Perspective With Chris Wasko
                                                “Taking baby steps in a healing journey is important; rushing can cause you to miss vital steps”
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Chris Wasko, a spiritual counselor, psychic medium, and energy healer. They discuss Chris’s journey from working in the corporate world to becoming a spiritual healer, as well as his experiences with seeing spirits and delivering messages from the other side. Chris shares her insights on healing from narcissistic abuse and childhood trauma, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and taking small steps toward self-mastery, and they dive deep into the topic of generational and regional trauma, particularly in the Northeastern part region of the United States, and how it affects individuals and families.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                How challenging chapters and major life transitions can shift our life course and open up our purpose
                                                Understanding what is truly narcissism and knowing when to cut toxic people from your life
                                                Learning to be the person, partner, and parent for your children that is based on a healthy relationship with oneself
                                                How to tap into your very own special gifts, in Chris’s case, like being able to interact and see the spirit realm
                                                “My growth and development came from my own healing journey”
                                                Discover how personal healing experiences can lead to profound personal growth and transformation.
                                                Learn how healing from past trauma can enhance your connection to the spiritual realm.
                                                Understand the pivotal role self-healing plays in professional and personal development.
                                                Explore how personal healing journeys can inspire and empower others facing similar struggles.
                                                Recognize the interconnectedness of emotional, spiritual, and personal growth in one’s healing journey.
                                                “Managing triggers is crucial in a healing journey; it’s about understanding and working with them”
                                                Gain insights into identifying personal triggers that stem from past trauma.
                                                Learn the importance of understanding the root causes behind emotional triggers.
                                                Discover practical strategies for managing and working with triggers in daily life.
                                                Enhance your emotional awareness to better navigate and mitigate trigger responses.
                                                Emphasize that managing triggers is an ongoing process integral to continuous healing and growth.
                                                “Breaking cycles of trauma is necessary for change”
                                                Understand the significance of recognizing and identifying cycles of trauma in your life.
                                                Explore how historical and generational trauma can affect current behaviors and mindsets.
                                                Learn how breaking cycles of trauma can lead to personal empowerment and healthier relationships.
                                                Discover actionable steps to actively break and change destructive patterns rooted in past trauma.
                                                Highlight the importance of awareness and intentionality in creating lasting change and healing.
                                                About Chris Wasko
                                                Chris Wasko is a Spiritual Counselor, Psychic Medium, and Energy Healer. She helps people uncover and evaluate individual traumas and challenges. Her specialty is working with old souls and survivors of narcissistic abuse.
                                                www.chriswasko.com
                                                www.instagram/chriswaskomedium
                                                Resources:
                                                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today!
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                                                Nick McGowan (00:02.425)Hello and welcome to the Mindset and Self Mastery Show. I'm your host, Nick McGowan and today on the show I have Chris Wasco. Chris, how are you doing today?
                                                Chris Wasko (00:13.323)Great Nick, thanks. How are you doing?
                                                Nick McGowan (00:14.889)Good, good.
                                                36 min
                                              • Understanding The Role Of Shame In Personal Growth And Fulfillment With Furkhan Dandia
                                                “Therapy was something that really helped me navigate that point in my life. And then, as I was starting to heal childhood patterns and beliefs, I started to realize that all men, in a way, struggle with this.”
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Furkhan Dandia, an engineer turned therapist, about his journey and the intersection of engineering and therapy. They discuss the importance of therapy as a tool for personal growth and the need for a holistic approach to healing. Listen in as they explore the role of spirituality in the healing process and the concept of viewing challenges as opportunities for growth, as well as the importance of patience, self-compassion, and perseverance in the journey of self-discovery and personal development.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                How a challenging chapter transitioned Furkhan into therapy and deep healing
                                                Takeaways and notable insights from podcasting and our own personal mental health journeys
                                                The ways therapy can help and also how it can assist in additional therapies
                                                How we can show ourselves grace during life transitions and enjoy the ride towards healing
                                                “As an engineer, my go-to default is to jump into problem-solving. As a therapist, you don’t wanna do that.”
                                                Engineers are trained to approach problems with immediate solutions.
                                                Therapy requires a different mindset, focusing on listening and understanding first.
                                                The distinction between technical problem-solving and human-centric therapy.
                                                The importance of patience and empathy in therapeutic settings.
                                                How transitioning from engineering to therapy involves a significant shift in approach.
                                                “We as individuals already know what we need to do, and sometimes we just need to talk it out.”
                                                The power of verbalizing thoughts and feelings in gaining clarity.
                                                The role of therapists in facilitating self-discovery and self-awareness.
                                                Encouragement of personal insights and intuition through conversation.
                                                The therapeutic value of expressing emotions and ideas.
                                                Understanding that solutions often come from within oneself.
                                                “Therapy is like your coach. The coach will give you a play, but at the end of the day, you have to go out there and execute that play.”
                                                The therapist’s role in providing guidance and strategies.
                                                Emphasis on personal responsibility and action in the therapeutic process.
                                                The analogy of therapy as coaching highlights the collaborative nature of therapy.
                                                The importance of applying therapeutic insights in real-life situations.
                                                Recognizing that progress in therapy requires active participation and effort.
                                                About Furkhan Dandia
                                                Furkhan Dandia is a therapist, author, and podcaster. Furkhan’s journey of purpose began when he went through a divorce and separation. At the time, Furkhan was mired in an existential crisis despite having a successful corporate career as an engineer. When Furkhan started to seek therapy, he realized other men like himself also struggled similarly. That is when Furkhan decided his purpose was to become an advocate for men and their mental health.
                                                https://www.eunoiazen.com/
                                                https://www.instagram.com/eunoiazen
                                                https://www.linkedin.com/in/furkhan-dandia-ccc-mba-072a8a1ba/
                                                Resources:
                                                Check out these episodes that tackle the topic of shame
                                                Episode #116  with J.K Emezi: “How To Stop Struggling With Secret Compulsions And Not Let Your Porn Habit Define You”
                                                Episode #125 with Ann Russo: “Exploring The Hidden Links Between Shame, Sexuality, And Religion”
                                                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today!
                                                Thank you for listening!
                                                Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089
                                                Watch Clips and highlights: www.youtube.com/channel/UCk1tCM7KTe3hrq_-UAa6GHA
                                                Guest Inquiries right here: [email protected]
                                                Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show”
                                                53 min
                                              • How To Handle And Successfully Navigate Career Burnout With Luis Báez
                                                “Excuses are the tools of idiots. And I’m way too smart to be fucking around with excuses.”
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Luis Báez, who shares his journey from growing up in poverty to working at top companies like Google and Tesla, and how he experienced burnout in the corporate world. There’s a major emphasis on the importance of self-mastery, inclusion, and the power of asking for what you want in life.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                Learn how determination and hard work can pave the way to remarkable success.
                                                Luis shares how breaking free from societal pressures and expectations can lead to a fulfilling and self-directed life.
                                                Hear a candid account of severe burnout experienced while working at Google. This segment highlights the critical need to balance career ambitions with personal well-being and recognize the signs of burnout before it’s too late.
                                                Self-mastery is about discipline and how you go about it, embracing the opportunity to write your own script in life.
                                                Trauma can either happen to us or for us, and it conditions us, prepares us, and makes us wiser.
                                                You only ever get what you ask for in life, and excuses are the tools of idiots. Embrace your uniqueness and take responsibility for bringing it to the world.
                                                “I have a blank canvas. I have a permanent blank check in life. And I am not subject to any pressures or any biological clocks.”
                                                Embrace life as a blank canvas, full of endless possibilities.
                                                Live free from societal and biological pressures.
                                                Take charge of your own life narrative without external dictates.
                                                Recognize the power to shape your destiny lies within you.
                                                Make bold, unapologetic choices that align with your true self.
                                                “I nearly killed myself for my career to prove myself to people that at the end of the day didn’t even impress me.”
                                                Be aware of the dangers of overworking to meet external expectations.
                                                Prioritize personal health and well-being over seeking approval from others.
                                                Understand that your value isn’t defined by others’ opinions or recognition.
                                                Reevaluate what success means, focusing on fulfillment rather than external accolades.
                                                Set healthy boundaries to prevent burnout and maintain a balanced life.
                                                “You only ever get what you ask for in life, period. You want that date, go approach that person. You want that check, go ask for it. You want that job, go get it.”
                                                Adopt a proactive approach in pursuing your desires and goals.
                                                Understand the importance of directly asking for what you want.
                                                Be your own advocate and confidently seek out opportunities.
                                                Avoid a passive mindset and take initiative in all areas of life.
                                                Recognize that taking action is key to achieving success and fulfillment.
                                                About Luis Báez
                                                Luis is a Revenue Enablement Strategist + Sales Coach dedicated to serving executives and sales leaders at businesses.
                                                In 2017, after years of working in some of the biggest Silicon Valley startups (think LinkedIn, Google, Uber, Tesla, and more), Luis began to teach impassioned business owners how to scale their revenues and impact by creating and selling high-end offers. During that time, he was also invited to speak about leadership and personal branding at business schools across the country, including Stanford, UC Berkeley, and Bard.
                                                Today, Luis is a published author through the internationally recognized Madecraft organization, which includes an incredibly popular LinkedIn Learning course on personalized sales that has been taken by over 20K people to date.
                                                http://luisbaez.com/
                                                http://linkedin.com/in/baezluis
                                                Resources:
                                                Check out these other episodes about career burnout
                                                Episode #28 w/ Susan Landers: “Battling Burnout”
                                                Episode #126 w/ Esther Zeledon: “Finding Your Purpose And Breaking Out Of The System”
                                                Resources:
                                                Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? Send Nick an email or schedule a time to discuss your podcast today!
                                                Thank you for listening!
                                                Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review!
                                                29 min
                                              • Experiencing Vibes And The Exchange Of Human Energy With Jason Del Gandio
                                                “Make room for the emotional, make room for the intuitive, make room for the vibrational.”
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Jason Del Gandio, A Temple University Professor, about the concept of vibes and the exchange of energy between people. Jason shares his expertise in studying the theory and practice of social justice, as well as his passion for understanding the vibe, and explains how he got into studying vibes and the different contexts in which vibes are experienced, such as on a first date, during heated arguments, at sporting events, and at musical concerts. They discuss the importance of being aware of one’s body, surroundings, and other people in order to tune into the vibe and how vibes can affect relationships, leadership, and decision-making.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                Vibes are the exchange of energy between people and can be experienced in various contexts, such as on a first date, during arguments, at sporting events, and at musical concerts.
                                                Being aware of one’s body, surroundings, and other people is important in tuning into the vibe.
                                                Distinguishing between intuition, emotions, and vibes can help in understanding and experiencing the vibe.
                                                Softening our perceptions and judgments can allow us to be more present and open to the vibes around us.
                                                Self-mastery involves understanding and controlling the vibes we give off and take in.
                                                “The vibe is the exchange of energy between you and other people.” 
                                                Vibes represent the transfer of energy that occurs when people interact, highlighting the dynamic and reciprocal nature of human connections.
                                                The concept of a vibe underscores the importance of interpersonal dynamics and the intangible aspects of social interactions.
                                                Vibes often encompass emotional and psychological elements, affecting how people feel and behave in each other’s presence.
                                                People may not always be consciously aware of the vibes they emit or receive, but these energy exchanges can significantly shape their relationships and interactions.
                                                “How might I become more aware of the vibe and start playing with my vibe?”
                                                Awareness of the vibe involves heightened self-awareness, recognizing one’s energy and how it influences others.
                                                Developing observational skills to notice subtle cues in others’ reactions and behaviors can enhance understanding of the current vibe.
                                                Actively playing with one’s vibe suggests being intentional about the energy one projects, adjusting it based on desired outcomes or interactions.
                                                Mindfulness or reflective practices can help individuals tune into their emotional and energetic states more effectively.
                                                “Our bodies are constantly vibing on one another, pointing to a certain kind of interconnection between human bodies.”
                                                The exchange of vibes is a continuous process, occurring constantly in all interactions.
                                                Vibes are not purely mental or emotional but also physical.
                                                The idea of bodies vibing on one another underscores the deep interconnection between individuals, pointing to a fundamental aspect of human relationships.
                                                A group’s collective energy can influence individual members, shaping the overall atmosphere and dynamics of the group.
                                                About Jason Del Gandio
                                                Jason Del Gandio has a PhD in Communication Studies and has been studying the vibe for 30 years. He is a published author, an award-winning teacher, and an engaged intellectual. For his doctoral work, he developed his own philosophy of the vibe referred to as “bodily emanation.” He has published essays on the topic in both scholarly and popular presses. His latest project is called 20MinuteVibe, which is an educational space for learning about the vibe, offering videos, essays, and self-paced video lectures for those who are intellectually curious and progressively minded.
                                                https://20minutevibe.com/
                                                https://www.instagram.com/20minutevibe/
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                                                40 min
                                              • Disruption As The Catalyst For Liberation With Karmen Michael Smith
                                                “I’m called to be gay because I’m here to minister to the Q plus community because no one else wants to talk to”
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Karmen Michael Smith, who shares his journey of self-discovery and healing as a queer black man growing up in a religious and conservative environment. He talks about the challenges he faced in finding acceptance and belonging within his family and society. They explore the process of healing and self-acceptance, including therapy and self-reflection, emphasizing the importance of asking questions and being a catalyst for transformation. Karmen shares about his journey of self-discovery and healing, from childhood trauma to finding his calling as a minister to the LGBTQ+ community, and encourages others to embrace disruption as a catalyst for liberation and self-mastery.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                Being different can be challenging, but it can also be a source of strength and connection.
                                                Healing and self-acceptance require facing and processing past traumas and societal pressures.
                                                Asking questions and being a catalyst for transformation can lead to personal growth and positive change.
                                                Finding community and support is essential in the journey of self-discovery and healing. Finding the right therapist is crucial for effective therapy.
                                                The process of healing and self-discovery is similar to the stages of grief.
                                                Redirecting anger can be a powerful tool for personal growth.
                                                Embracing disruption can lead to liberation and self-mastery.
                                                Your experiences and struggles can inform and shape your calling.
                                                Ministering to marginalized communities requires understanding and empathy.
                                                “Healed people go on to heal people.”
                                                When someone heals from their past traumas or struggles, they often develop a deeper understanding and empathy, enabling them to support and guide others on their healing journeys.
                                                Personal healing transforms individuals into beacons of hope and strength for others, showing that recovery and growth are possible and inspiring others to seek their own paths to healing.
                                                Healed individuals often form or contribute to supportive communities, fostering environments where collective healing can occur, and everyone feels understood and valued.
                                                By healing themselves, people can break cycles of trauma and negative behavior patterns, preventing these from being passed down to future generations and promoting healthier relationships.
                                                Those who have healed become role models, demonstrating resilience and the possibility of overcoming adversity, which can motivate others to embark on their healing journeys with hope and determination.
                                                “It gets worse before it gets better. The stuff that you’ve been repressing and locking away has to come up in order to get out.”
                                                Healing often requires confronting painful and repressed emotions, which can initially intensify feelings of discomfort and distress but is necessary for true emotional release and recovery.
                                                The journey to healing involves an emotional catharsis, where hidden and buried emotions surface, creating a temporary increase in emotional turmoil before leading to a sense of relief and clarity.
                                                Allowing repressed emotions to come to the surface requires vulnerability and courage, but this openness is essential for breaking down emotional barriers and achieving deeper healing.
                                                Recognizing that discomfort is a part of the healing process helps individuals persevere through tough times, knowing that these feelings are temporary and part of the pathway to improvement.
                                                By allowing repressed emotions to come to the forefront and be released, individuals can transform their emotional state, leading to long-term benefits such as reduced stress, better mental health, and increased emotional stability.
                                                “It’s okay to be upset about that. And then also come to a realization that that anger has to go somewhere, and you can direct it in some way that serves you.”
                                                Validating feelings of anger and upset is crucial,
                                                44 min
                                              • Unlocking The Key To Personal Growth By Processing Our Childhood Traumas With Jeremy Stegall
                                                “To notice that you feel some kind of way and to ask in the moment, what is going on? Why am I pissed off right now?”*
                                                In this episode, Nick speaks with Jeremy Stegall, a writer, coach, and speaker, who shares his journey of self-discovery and personal growth through hockey. He discusses how hockey provided an outlet for his aggression and frustration, allowing him to channel his energy and develop a strong work ethic. Hockey helped him understand the importance of knowing our own identity and persona, both on and off the ice. They both discuss the significance of self-awareness and the impact of childhood trauma on personal development and overall, Jeremy’s story highlights the transformative power of sports and the journey of self-mastery.
                                                What to listen for:
                                                Understanding one’s identity and persona, both on and off the ice, is crucial for personal growth and self-mastery.
                                                Self-awareness is key in recognizing patterns and blind spots, leading to personal development and the ability to show up fully in every area of life.
                                                Childhood trauma can have a significant impact on one’s behavior and emotions, and addressing it is essential for personal growth and healing. Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth and overcoming limiting beliefs.
                                                Systemic issues can impact individual experiences and create fragmentation within oneself.
                                                Challenging societal expectations and embracing self-expression are essential for personal fulfillment.
                                                Processing childhood traumas and understanding their impact on present emotions is a key aspect of self-mastery.
                                                Sports, like hockey, can provide an outlet for aggression and frustration, allowing individuals to channel their energy and develop a strong work ethic.
                                                “You gotta keep leaning in. I don’t even care if you don’t know what it is or how it’s gonna look on the end of the day, put it out there, because something is happening.”
                                                Discover why continuously leaning in and engaging is more important than waiting for perfect clarity.
                                                Learn how embracing the unknown can lead to innovation and discovery.
                                                Understand the value of taking proactive steps even when outcomes are unclear.
                                                Explore the importance of having faith in the process and how consistent engagement fosters progress.
                                                Find out how continuous effort creates momentum and brings about change, often in unseen ways.
                                                “When I look back, I can see the journey, I can see the progression, I can see the repeating thoughts.”
                                                Reflect on past experiences to recognize personal growth and the path taken.
                                                Identify repeating thoughts and patterns that offer insights into habits and areas for improvement.
                                                Appreciate the importance of the journey and how each step contributes to overall progression.
                                                Discover how seeing one’s own thoughts and progression over time signifies self-awareness and mindful living.
                                                Learn how recognizing past progress can motivate and highlight the importance of repeated efforts for development.
                                                “Get up more times than you fall down.”
                                                Understand the importance of resilience and getting back up after setbacks.
                                                Dive into why persistent effort and the willingness to try again are crucial for success.
                                                Reframe failure as a natural part of the process and an opportunity to learn.
                                                Explore the significance of determination and grit in rising after each fall.
                                                Shift focus from failures to the act of getting up, valuing effort over immediate results.
                                                About Jeremy Stegall
                                                Jeremy Stegall is an author, coach, and speaker with Where the Change Happens Coaching. Beginning his blog, Where the Change Happens, in 2018, Jeremy’s writing has now provided readers in over 30 countries the tools to process questions we all have about making personal development growth a consistent habit. In 2020, he self-published his first book, Where the Change Happens, which has found international success, and in 2022, Jeremy self-published his follow-up, After the Divorce: From Looking Back to Leaning In. Jeremy continues supporting clients in shifting how ...
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