Episode Highlights:
Understanding the third principle of Polyvagal Theory: Co-Regulation
Why journaling or writing in a dysregulated state can be harmful
Exercises to practice co-regulation for creative flow
Episode Recap:
Welcome back to The Muse Master Podcast! In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of co-regulation, the third principle of Polyvagal Theory, and explore why traditional advice on journaling might not always be helpful.
Key Takeaways:
1. Recap of the First Two Principles of Polyvagal Theory
Principle 1: Hierarchical Nervous System Evolution
The nervous system evolved in stages: Freeze → Fight or Flight → Safe & Social.
Our safe and social state includes all previous states.
Principle 2: Neuroception
An automatic, subconscious process that scans for safety, danger, or life threats.
Our nervous system adjusts in microseconds to keep us in the most optimal survival state.
2. Understanding Co-Regulation
Co-regulation is the biological need for safe connection with others.
It is built into our nervous system from birth and relies on cues of safety:
Prosodic voice (rhythm & intonation)
Eye contact
Hand & body gestures
Safety is not just the absence of threat but an embodied feeling of safety.
3. Why Journaling Alone May Not Help
Writing in a dysregulated state can reinforce feelings of distress rather than resolve them.
Common advice, such as “write to your inner critic” or “the page holds everything,” can backfire when used as a primary tool for emotional regulation.
Writing is powerful after regulation, not as a replacement for it.
Writing is not therapy—therapy is therapy.
4. The Power of Co-Regulation in Writing and Life
When we regulate ourselves with the help of another person, we:
Shift into a safe and social state faster.
Strengthen our relationships.
Enhance our creative expression without using writing as an emotional crutch.
Co-regulation can be challenging but is essential for long-term well-being and creativity.
Love Your Nerve Segment: The 8-Minute Catch-Up Exercise
A simple yet powerful practice to bring co-regulation into your life:
Find a trusted friend or family member you feel safe with.
Establish a mutual agreement to reach out with “Do you have 8 minutes?”
This phrase signals a safe space for vulnerability and emotional support.
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