The Naked Couple Podcast

I have wanted to write for many years, always starting and stopping, never having the courage to put myself out there, 
I was so scared of feedback and what people would think I couldn't complete any of the books I tried to write. 

It lead me to get down and giving up feel so disappointed with myself.

These days I am more confident and clear about what I want. I got over my fear of rejecting by being brave and telling people what I was doing. This led to me having to commit as I didn't want to make myself out to be a liar or failure,

As people knew I was writing I then asked them to read my first draft and give me feedback. Thank goodness I did, the feedback wasn't great and to have tried to publish would have been awful. 

Initially I was upset by what I had heard then I had a realisation that not everyone could be wrong and I need to change. 

As I type this I am on chapter 7 of 9 and on course for a much better book than I ever dreamed of. In this episode I talk about the journey I went on and how asking for help has made me so much better. 

I've had a rough couple of weeks and felt quite low. Life has taken over, a bit of sickness has crept in and I've not been able to motivate myself. However life is good in many ways and I am grateful. 
I am also grateful to own Bitcoin.  In this episode I talk about what Bitcoin is to me and how I justify investing in it. 

This is my debut for Felixstowe radio where Interview my life coach Hattie Voelcker. During the interview Hattie talks about how she transformed her life from being a Barrister and told he could not work anymore to becoming a successful life coach transforming lives for the better.

You can find out more regards to Hattie at https://www.findyourtruevoice.co.uk/about-me/ 

Do you ever feel that you are too hard on yourself? Do you give yourself credit for what you achieve and take time to appreciate what you have?

I’n today’s episode I talk about how I never gave myself any credit and never appreciated what I had as a result. 

I used to always want more, never stopping to see what I had and always felt like I was an underachiever because I compared myself to others. 

No Matter what I did I would see people with more and feel inadequate. 

I know I am not alone as many of my clients also feel the same, 

I client recently told me that he saw people on social media with so much wealth and happiness and although he knew a lot was fake, it still made him feel bad about himself. 

He felt the same as i di, he felt lost and inadequate. He wanted more and was unhappy that he wasn’t getting it. 

He went into a cycle of working harder, trying to get more, then he burned out, got frustrated and felt like quitting a loser. 

I’ve been there and I bet many listening have as well. The funny thing with my client was, when we deep dived into what he really wanted, He wanted a stress free, life, a small house in the country and the ability to spend time with his family and breed his dogs.

The life of fast cars, boats, mansions and money didn't actually figure in his plans at all. He just wanted a content and happy life.

He is very much like I was before I gained clarity in my life. I always thought I wanted to have a company that traded around the world. I wanted to be an international speaker, jetting off to far places.

I wanted to own a football club and I had dreams way bigger than most. However I never really wanted these things. 

I dreamed and got frustrated when I didn’t get them, but I never planned for them, I never worked towards them as they were not really what I wanted.

When I gained clarity, I like my client realised I wanted time with my family the most. I wanted Freedom and a stress free life more than anything. 

I wanted a business where I had wealth and I wanted to be able to invest and build wealth at my own pace. 

Don’t get me wrong I want to have lots of money, money is good, it helps you have a stress free life with choices. It gives you freedom. But I didn’t want to have it at the expense of my family.

If I was away travelling, speaking and working, I may earn more money but I would never have the time with the family.

For my client & I we both got down by comparing ourselves to other people, we looked at their lives and thought they had what we wanted. 

For us to improve our happiness we needed to go on a journey, we both looked into the future to see what we wanted, we asked ourselves what would make us happy.

You would have expected us to say, big houses, luxury yachts and cars, all the flash things we saw on facebook. But we both wrote down words like - 

Happiness

Stress free life

Family time

Contentment

Simple

Easy

Free

These words meant to us a lot, they symbolised how we wanted our life to be - My client wanted a little house in the country, he wanted to be happy, he wanted a nice business that gave him and his family a lovely life.

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I forgot it was Monday and forgot to record a show. Reason being I was having fun, enjoying myself. Before i would have worked all weekend and bank holiday's so I would have known what day of the week it was.

Nowadays I'm relaxed, in control of my life and almost stress free. I've worked hard to carve out a life of success and freedom and am so happy. 

In this episode I talk about what it means to me and my clients to have a stress free life.  

When investing in a business how do some people never get over working for themselves whilst some go on to found companies turning over 100’s of millions and trading worldwide? 

One man who did exactly that was former owner of the Jewellery chain Ratners. Ratner at the height of his success had approx. 2.5K shops and was on top of the world. 

I was listening to a live coaching session on Facebook. A young woman won the opportunity to be mentored by 2 men - Rob Moore and Gerald Ratner. During this mentoring session, Ratner said something that stuck with me - You will never get anywhere as a one man band.

Both men are hugely successful, Rob Moore has made a fortune in Property and training and Ratner made his fortune with the retail jewelry chain Ratners.

Ratner became quite infamous when he literally destroyed his business with one quote. This single quote was attributed to the loss of 122 million in revenue. I can remember the press were all over the poor man, he made an innocent joke about a cheap product he sold and he was hung by the media.

The worse thing was, people knew Ratners sold cheap jewellery, you could buy gold earrings for under a £1 but the press went for him and Ratner was eventually sacked from the business he built. 

Since that speech, Gerald went on a journey to re-invent himself. He went from a £650K salary in the 1990’s to 7 years with no money,  He cycled to keep his sanity and slowly started to rebuild his life.

I read that he came up with an ingenious was to start a health club. He advertised in the paper her was opening and the membership was Free, 

500 people signed up to the club before it was open. He then went to the bank and said he had 500 members and needed a loan. 

He later sold the business for 3.9 million. So the man knows a thing or 2 about business and he is very open about the mistakes he has made.

He no longer has the business with hundreds of millions in revenue, however he has rebuilt a new online jewellers with an estimated revenue of 35 million. 

So whatever you think of the man, he is one of the ultimate re-inventors. But how did he go from hero to zero and back up again. 

Well for starters you need to understand the power of people, Ratner says, you will never get anywhere as a one man band and you have to delegate. During the interview he tells the student that she has to forget about people letting her down.

He goes on to say that people can be control freaks, have 1 store and be perfect, then go nowhere in life. Or you can have 2500 stores and make slime sacrifices. 

It wont be perfect or the way you want it to be completely, but it’s preferable to doing everything you want yourself, everyday in 1 store and going nowhere. 

Rob Morre then adds, ‘You will get pain in either area’ If you do everything yourself you have all the pain yourself, if people come in to help, you have the pain of managing these people and trusting them. 

Either way is painful, it just depends on if you want to grow or not. You basically need to make a choice

1. Go alone - control everything, make it perfect and stay on your own
2. Find the best people you can to help you, trust them, accept things may not be exactly how you want and leverage their time to help you do more.

Got some exciting news. I’ve been asked by a local radio station to present a weekly show. The show will be about how people re-invent themselves, build businesses and change their lives for the better.

I am currently working on the format and a guest list as I want to interview people for the show. 

Aim is to record it and use it within this podcast and post to youtube and other social media outlets. 

Hopefully it will inspire and educate which has always been my goal. 

So how did this happen? What did I do to get myself on the Radio? And how will it benefit the listeners and myself?

I believe the more you give the more you get back. I will show you in this episode why giving is so powerful and why thinking of others first is a must. 

When you listen you will find out the power giving has and how you can harness that power for your own benefit. 

This show is what I am all about, whenever i do something I always look at add value and never expect anything in return. I may know why I want to do something but very often I never know What I will have to do. 

But that never bothers me, unless I think it may be illegal or harm others I will usually give something a go if I know Why I’m doing something.

When I set up my care business I had no idea how to run a care company but I knew Why I wanted that business. I wanted to help the sick and vulnerable have a better life.

Same for my gym, I’d never worked in a gym or had any idea how to run one, but I knew I wanted people improve themselves. 

Even this podcast, I had no idea how to do it just why I wanted to do it. 

And thats when the magic happens, you know why you want to do something so you do it, 

You start and worry about how to do it later,

Just get started and see what happens. The more you do and the more you put yourself out there, the more you get back.

I always give as much as I can. I keep giving and see where it goes. The more people who know about me the more relationships I have with people, 

The more relationships the more opportunity comes my way. 

Eben the Radio show was because I built relationships with people at the station, they asked me to present and I said YES.

I have a little idea of what to do and I know why I want to do it.

If allowed I will add the show to this podcast so you can listen. Who knows what it will bring but I am sure it will bring more positive things to me because I have more opportunity.

The lesson is put yourself out there, work out why you want to do something and do it.

Dont worry about what and how, just give it a go.

The more you do the better you get, the better you get the easier it becomes. 

You will build relationships as people will notice you. 

Opportunities will come your way and you will be successful.

Mark Zuckerberg had an estimated worth of 82 Billion Dollars, What does he, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates do differently?

How do they see spend their money and invest for the future.

This episode sets out how they think about assets and liabilities and think differently to most people. 

Investing is often considered to be for monetary gain only. However, investing should be for much more than just money.

As there is no point in being the richest man in the graveyard I look at investing for health and lifestyle. I am always tweaking things to make them better and learn more.

My life is a constant investment where I look to improve everything. My running, my weight training and my eating is all part of my investment. 

In this episode I talk about why investing is important and how I make little changes to improve myself.  

Among us is a popular game with Kids and I must admit I enjoy playing it as well. The concept is there is a crew of players and amongst them is an imposter(s).

The aim is for the crew to work out who the imposters are before they are killed. My kids, friends and I often play the game in real life at the playground. It's fun and better than being stuck indoors. 

We get fresh air and exercise whilst enjoying ourselves. After a recent game, I was thinking about how the game translates to the business world. It hit me that whatever business was in there was always an imposter.     

In this episode, I talk about how I have dealt with imposters in the past, how I have used them and moved them on. 
Imposters will always be bad news and spotting them can be hard. If you are a business owner then you could learn thing or two from playing Among us.