It was such a delight to chat with someone I have fangirled over for years, the one and only sex historian Dr. Kate Lister!

In this episode we covered everything from our ADHD diagnoses and how we live with it, working in (and recovering from) academia, spotting predators in tantra, why studying sex is tricky, gay subcultures, and why we should all keep a sex diary and time capsule for future historians to study. Warning, we laugh a lot and say many inappropriate things.

Treat yourself to this chat with me and the woman who calls herself “The Forrest Gump of Academia”.

CW: Contains mentions of SA a few times.

In this episode we cover:

Contact Kate here:

Follow her podcast, Betwixt The Sheets, from History Hit

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Website: www.drkatelister.com

Instagram: @drkatelister

TikTok: @drkatelister 

Buy her books:

A Curious History of Sex: https://amzn.to/4c9mJmf

Whores, Harlots, and Hackabouts: A History of Sex For Sale: https://amzn.to/3Rxrg9G

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How do you feel about porn? Is it something you enjoy, feel uncomfortable about, or have mixed feelings? I get it, because porn is a super activating topic, especially when we know the track record of the big porn companies and free tube sites aren't... brilliant. And yet, I'm always banging the drum that there is a whole world of alternative porn and erotica out there-- made by independent producers, with genuine care and concern for their performers, and catering to a different audience.

In this episode I'm so excited to chat with founder of female-focused, ethical porn company, FrolicMe, Anna Richards.

We cover:

My favourite quote from her:

Find FrolicMe here: https://www.frolicme.com/

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How do you market your work when you're a sexuality professional and constantly dealing with internet censorship?

What if the traditional marketing and business advice just doesn't apply to you because of the nature of what you do?

No we bloody well can't run paid ads easily, it's not just our mindset when we are always facing the very real possibility of our Instagram accounts getting banned with no warning, and our content usually performs less well than non-spicy content because of shadowbanning.

Or what if the very word "content" makes your bum clench in a non-consensual way and you don't want to be spammy?

Never fear, I've teamed up with my fabulous friend, colleague, and co-conspirator, Julian Marcus to explain how we do it.

He's a sexological bodyworker, bodyworker, and intimacy coach and also a brilliant videographer and website expert.

We're combining both of our different marketing expertise-- me with social media and writing, him with embodiment and videography-- to give our unique perspective on making marketing sexy again.

It's not about knowing all the keywords and performing the latest dance craze on TikTok, it's more playing to your own strengths and finding a creative outlet that works with your energy.

We're running the next content salon for spicy and censored professionals to help you find your own unique voice online to speak to the people you want to while it feeling like it's genuinely coming from you.

COME TO THE CONTENT SALON FOR SPICY PROFESSIONALS!

April 25th, 7-9pm BST/2-4pm EDT/11am-1pm PDT: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/content-creation-for-sex-pros-salon-tickets-877443586387?aff=oddtdtcreator

Learn more about Julian Marcus here: https://relationalbodywork.org/

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How do you heal from purity culture? How do you get to a place where the shame no longer affects you? How can you recover your sexuality and know deep in your bones that it is something good?

Yes the title is clickbaity and this episode is full of caveats about what healing is and isn't.

In this long-form episode I give my take on healing (and why there are no rules to it and I absolutely do not have a 5-step formula), 8 or 9 practical tips, some brilliant resources, and changing your mindset around what, "fully healed" actually means.

Points I cover:

Links and people I mentioned:

My best reading list for sex, intimacy, relationships, trauma, and more:https://lucyrowett.com/best-books-sex-relationships-pleasure-trauma-embodiment/

The Rebloom Method by Rachael Maddox

Happy Whole Way: https://www.instagram.com/happywholeway/?hl=en

The Divorced Virgin Project: https://www.thedivorcedvirginproject.com/

Incarnation Institute: https://www.incarnationinstitute.org/

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Yes I said it, I believe women and vulva havers in relationships should self-pleasure MORE! (And those not in relationships too)

Why? Because self-pleasuring/masturbating/w*nking is one of the most powerful acts of self love, self care, and self honouring you can do.

It's a gift you give to yourself that is separate from the intimacy you have with your lover, and in this episode I break it down.

If you want to learn how to do just that, then register for my next live workshop, The Self Loving Salon.

In this episode I cover:

The Self Loving Salon is a live self pleasuring workshop for women and vulva havers on February 27th. It's a Valentine's/Galentine's-ish workshop just for you.

⁠Get your ticket to The Self Loving Salon here.⁠

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Music by: Tom M at Filmstro (not me, I'm not that talented)

Do you wish you could just confidently ask for what you want in bed, but instead you freeze up? I've got you.

In this episode I cover the 5 main obstacles that women and vulva havers face in confident sexual communication that have nothing to do with being silly, a prude, or generally anything, "wrong", with you. And then I cover what you can do about them to make it easier.

Remember that sexual communication is like literally any other skill in sex and relationships-- a SKILL you need to learn and get better at, NOT because something is wrong with you.

The 5 mistakes are:

Listen to this episode and start practising! And if you want to go deeper into getting more confident, you'll love my audio course, Mastering Sexual Communication.

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Sex shouldn't hurt, and yet so many women and vulva havers suffer in silence about painful sex.

I spoke with April Maria aka Venus Libido about her own personal experience of having undiagnosed endometriosis, the frustration of battling the medical system, finding pleasurable sex on her own terms, and how you can still have great sex when you're experiencing pain.

Find out more about April here: www.venuslibido.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/venuslibido/

Join the waiting list for the Shameless Woman Immersion here: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/483496/105744095837685104/share

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From being stuck in her head, struggling to vocalize what she wanted, and sooooo much Good Christian Girl conditioning, to being able to FEEL, to know what her boundaries were, and feel pleasure.

I spoke with my former client, Shae Court on her experience working with me, which included why having multiple splooshing orgasms was not what she really needed, she needed to be able to feel first.

I hope you love this episode and it gives you a taste of what it's like working with me 1:1.

In this episode we cover:

Get your tickets to the last Soul Sex Circle of 2023 on December 11th-- sex positive women's circle: http://lucyrowett.com/soulcirclemonthly/

You can find Shae here: https://www.instagram.com/shaecourt/?hl=en

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Music by: Tom M at Filmstro (Not moi, I'm not that talented)

"When will I just be *there*?!! Fully healed?! Raging hot libido and orgasming everywhere? WHEN will this happen?!"

Ever felt that about your sexual healing journey? Or maybe about another kind of healing journey? You just want to be *there*, cumming easily, no more shame, completely uninhibited.

In this episode I talk about how to stop feeling frustrated about it and what to do instead. (AKA remember it's all there NOW, focus on pleasure, focus on turn on.)

I cover:

Books I mentioned:

Pleasure Activism, by adrienne marie brown

Shake Your Soul Song, by Devi Ward

Sex For One, by Betty Dodson

Call of The Wild, by Kimberly Ann Johnson

Ecstasy is Necessary, by Barbara Carrellas

The Rebloom Method, by Rachel Maddox

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Credits:

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Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

If you resonate with being a high achieving, overfunctioning woman, this episode is DEFINITELY for you!

I was delighted to speak with Tamu Thomas from LiveThreeSixty on what it means to be an overfunctioning, Type-A woman/person, how it shows up in life, business, love, and sex, and the healing power of pleasure.

In this episode we cover:

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Find Tamu here:

Her NEW BOOK! Women Who Work Too Much: Break Free from Toxic Productivity and Find Your Joy: https://amzn.eu/d/fLAG4YN

Membership:

https://live-three-sixty.mykajabi.com/membership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livethreesixty/?hl=en

Want to connect more?

For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: ⁠https://lucyrowett.com/⁠

Free video class on authentic sexual confidence: ⁠https://bit.ly/moreconfidentinbed⁠

Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant

Learn more about working together 1:1 here: http://lucyrowett.com/sex-intimacy-relationship-coaching/

Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.

Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: ⁠https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25⁠

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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro