Does having sex with someone really create a soul tie? Do your souls really become merged or do you store a part of them inside you forever? Let's debunk this Purity Culture Myth that also exists in the conscious sexuality and neo-tantra world too. I am covering this from a more spiritually minded perspective for people who come from Purity Culture, rather than evidence-based, because when you come from this belief system, it's not about having scientific proof. Expect references to woo terms here.
Why there are MANY crossovers with Purity Culture and conscious sexuality and neo-tantra
Why Purity Culture teachings are really heteronormative and assume that the only, "real" sex is Penis In Vagina sex
Why you can own your own personal values in sex and relationships
Debunking the study that was mis-cited on social media that you store the DNA of every male you have had sex with
How do you define what your soul and spirit are?
Why all spiritual and religious teachings are completely subjective (yep, I'm a heretic!)
WHEN in sex does the soul tie happen?
When Christians find loopholes
Why are you giving a penis so much power?
Sex brings up emotional messiness and that's normal
The mental and emotional baggage we already have around sex
Are you perceiving it to be a soul tie when it's just the meaning you are putting on it?
If everyone around you is telling you it's a soul tie, how much does it become a self fulfilling prophecy?
"The only real sex is conscious sex"
The root of a lot of relationship unhappiness is when you put all your fulfillment on one person
Why you don't need to have sex with someone to feel a soul connection
Why Purity Culture and a lot of conscious/wellness teachings have roots in American Protestant values
If soul ties are a thing, is it such a bad thing?
Do you need to energetically clear out your ex?
All religions and spiritual teachings start off as somebody believing they have the ultimate truth
Why are you letting somebody else's interpretation of the "truth", be yours?
Why you don't have to have any kind of sex that doesn't work for you
When you feel shamed by society for wanting to have a committed, monogamous relationship and don't want to have casual sex
Why all (consensual) sexual and relationship preferences are valid and part of being human"Humans have been getting into messy sex and relationship situations since the dawn of humanity because this is what it is to be a human. You can have the exactly the same amount of emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual messiness with somebody you are in a committed relationship with or married to."
"How much do you actually believe your soul, your essence, your core self, a part of you that is eternal and divine and holy, could actually be touched by somebody else and linked to somebody else?"
"How much of this concept of a "soul tie" is somebody elses interpretation, somebody else's morals and bias that is being passed off as a "divine truth" when it's not?"
"Part of being sex positive and erotic intelligence is understanding that people are wired very differently in sex and relationships and it's all valid."
"You do you, own your sexual preferences."
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