The NeuroSpicy MomPod

Your child knew how to do it yesterday. So why can't they do it today?

This week, I'm joined by Stephanie Kerwin, founder of Village of Littles, to explore how nervous system overload affects neurodivergent children's access to skills, communication, and emotional regulation.

We're talking PDA, school expectations, sensory overwhelm, and why supporting your child's nervous system doesn't mean abandoning boundaries.

Because sometimes what looks like defiance is actually a nervous system asking for support.

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Find Stephanie at villageoflittles.com and @VillageofLittles.

Maybe my social media isn't as random as it looks! ✨

This week on The NeuroSpicy MomPod, we're exploring the surprising connections between neurodivergence, narcissistic abuse, workplace challenges, poverty, and nervous system safety.

Most importantly, we're talking about moving beyond shame and self-blame to find understanding, support, and community. Because healing was never meant to happen in isolation. 💜

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📚 Research referenced:

• Dr. Louise Taylor (2025)

• Nancy Doyle (2020)

• Anderson et al. (2025)

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Welcome to Season 5 of The NeuroSpicy MomPod!

In this deeply personal premiere, Austen Marie reflects on a seemingly simple question from a cleaning client: "How has neurodivergence affected your life?"

The answer turns out to be far more complicated than she imagined.

From growing up with undiagnosed neurodivergence and childhood trauma to navigating an abusive marriage, workplace mistreatment, autistic burnout, financial instability, and motherhood, Austen Marie explores how neurodivergence has shaped nearly every aspect of her life.

This episode examines the intersection of neurodivergence, C-PTSD, domestic abuse, chronic stress, and poverty, including why leaving an abusive environment doesn't necessarily mean having the resources or safety needed to heal.

Austen Marie also explores the difference between intelligence and capacity, the hidden financial costs of neurodivergent accommodations, and the shame that comes from struggling in a society that equates productivity with personal worth.

Finally, she shares her vision for Healing Hearts Homesteads, a future community dedicated to providing safety, stability, and opportunities for healing to women and children escaping abuse.

In this episode: Neurodivergence and relationships, complex PTSD, coercive control, workplace burnout, nervous system regulation, financial trauma, disability accommodations, and rebuilding a life centered around safety.

If you've ever wondered why doing everything "right" still hasn't been enough, this conversation is for you.

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Thank you for helping us normalize neurodivergence, one conversation at a time.

What if, instead of judging ourselves for the things we struggle with, we got curious about why they’re hard?

This week on The NeuroSpicy MomPod, I’m joined by Josh, co-founder of re-RIGHT, for a conversation about what it actually feels like to move through the world with a neurodivergent brain...especially when you spent most of your life without knowing you had one.

Josh is late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD, with lived experience of Tourette’s and dyslexia, and we get into the messy reality of looking back at your entire life through a completely different lens after diagnosis. We talk about the grief and relief of late diagnosis, the mental health impact of masking, autistic burnout, executive dysfunction, nervous system regulation, and what happens when you’ve spent so many years becoming the person who gets the least amount of pushback that you’re not entirely sure who you are underneath it anymore.

We also dive into PDA (Persistent Drive for Autonomy) and what demand avoidance actually feels like from inside the nervous system, including why something you genuinely want to do can suddenly feel impossible the second your brain registers it as a demand.

And one of my favorite takeaways from our entire conversation:

✨ Give yourself permission to be the detective instead of the judge.

Instead of “Why am I so lazy?”
What is making this task difficult for me?

Instead of “Why is my child being defiant?”
What is their behavior communicating?

Instead of immediately assigning judgment, what happens when we get curious?

Josh also shares why he created re-RIGHT, a neurodivergent-informed platform designed to bridge the gap between learning about neurodivergence and actually knowing how to use that information in your everyday life.

🧠 Connect with Josh + follow re-RIGHT:

Instagram: @joshfromreright

Website: re-right.org

Follow Josh to learn more about autism, ADHD, PDA, masking, neurodivergent mental health, and the development of re-RIGHT.

Whether you’re late-diagnosed, self-identifying, questioning your neurodivergence, parenting a neurodivergent child, or simply trying to understand your brain with a little more compassion, this conversation is your reminder that your struggles are information, not evidence of your worth.

Stay curious, my NeuroSpicy baddies. 💕✨

Postpartum mental health is finally getting the national attention it deserves, but what does postpartum look like when you're already living with a NeuroSpicy nervous system?

This week, we're looking at the research connecting ADHD and autism with increased rates of perinatal depression, anxiety and stress, and exploring why sleep deprivation, sensory overload, executive dysfunction, hormonal changes and the sudden loss of familiar routines can make postpartum uniquely challenging for neurodivergent mothers. We’ll also talk about what neurodivergent-informed postpartum support could actually look like and the small ways we can better care for the moms in our communities.

If motherhood ever made you wonder, “Why does everyone else seem able to handle this except me?”...this conversation is for you. ✨

What happens when we forget that the rights we inherited had to be fought for?

This week, we’re following the imaginary string through Aktion T4, American eugenics, Buck v. Bell, forced sterilization, the disability rights movement, Section 504, the ADA, and the rhetoric and policies raising alarm for neurodivergent and disabled Americans in 2026.

This is a heavier episode, but an important one because knowing our history gives us the context to recognize patterns, protect our rights, and understand why informed participation matters now more than ever.

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Sources & Further Reading

• NPR — Kennedy says an autism registry is coming. HHS says it won't be a registry.
https://www.npr.org/2025/05/08/nx-s1-5391310/kennedy-autism-registry-database-hhs-nih-medicare-medicaid

• United States Holocaust Memorial Museum — Euthanasia Program and Aktion T4
https://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/article/euthanasia-program

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In this episode I'm joined by Lee Alberts, a late-diagnosed AuDHDer, disability justice advocate, and future mental health counselor, for one of my favorite conversations we've had on the podcast.

We dive into what late diagnosis can uncover, why so many neurodivergent girls were missed growing up, the overlap between autism, ADHD, trauma, and chronic illness, and how learning to understand your brain can completely transform the way you understand yourself.

✨ Find Lee on Instagram: @NEUROSPOONIE

If you have a question for Lee and don't have Instagram, you can always message me on Patreon and I'll gladly pass it along.

📚 Books mentioned in today's episode:

• Unmasking Autism by Devon Price

• NeuroTribes by Steve Silberman

• Self-Care for Autistic People by Dr. Megan Anna Neff

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I'm so glad you're here. 💛

What if changing a child's life doesn't begin with perfect parenting but with one safe relationship?

In this episode of The NeuroSpicy MomPod, we're exploring the groundbreaking Kauai Longitudinal Study, one of the most influential resilience studies ever conducted, and the neuroscience behind why one caring adult can change the trajectory of a child's life.

Together we'll unpack how childhood relationships shape the developing brain, why social rejection activates the same neural networks involved in physical pain, how repeated messages become a child's inner voice, and why resilience isn't something we're born with, it's something that's built through connection.

Whether you're a parent, teacher, coach, caregiver, or simply someone who wants to better understand the human brain, this episode is a reminder that being a safe adult may be one of the most important things you'll ever do.

Research discussed in this episode:

• Emmy E. Werner's Kauai Longitudinal Study on resilience and protective relationships.

• Sam Goldstein's discussion of resilience and the importance of supportive adults in childhood development.

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Why can two people hear the exact same words and walk away with completely different understandings of the conversation?

In this episode of The NeuroSpicy MomPod, we're putting on our teacher hats and diving into the neuroscience of communication. Together, we'll explore the difference between top-down and bottom-up thinking, how our brains construct meaning, and why neurodivergent and neurotypical people can interpret the exact same situation in completely different ways.

We'll unpack the psychology behind predictive processing, schemas, assumptions, and clarifying questions, while connecting the science to real-life experiences in relationships, parenting, friendships, and the workplace. If you've ever been told you're "too literal," struggled with vague instructions, or wondered why communication feels so much harder than it seems to for everyone else, this episode is for you.

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I'm so glad you're here. 💛

Why can you feel lonely even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode of The NeuroSpicy MomPod, we explore the hidden connection between neurodivergence, chronic isolation, autistic burnout, ADHD, and nervous system regulation. You'll learn why loneliness isn't the same as being alone, why connection can feel so exhausting, and how to build relationships that feel safe instead of draining. If you've ever wondered why your nervous system chooses solitude even when your heart longs for community…this episode is for you. 💛 For the video episode and to support this neurospicy, single mama, subscribe on Patreon today!