The Nicholas Ingel Experience.

My guests Tessa Whitfield and Victoria Webster have been running groups, eating psychology programs, workshops and support spaces together for the last two years. After much trial and error and learning what works and what doesn’t work, they have come together to build a community intended to help people connect with one another and make real changes in their relationships with food and eating. The idea for this community comes from a place of psychological research and evidence, but also because they both have personal experience on how powerful this kind of community can be.

The LABELS we receive in childhood can set a negative and painful tone for the rest of our lives, but they can also be our superpower. We need to see our negative childhood labels as our gift and use them.#mentalhealth #leadership #selflove #Tenacity #selfcare #selfesteem #mentalhealthawareness #happy #happiness #development #inspiration #motivation #workplacewellness #work #sales #salescoaching #leadershipdevelopment #empowerment #optimalhealth #optimalperformance #optimalwellness

The rate of men taking their own lives is alarming. I was honoured to speak with Men's Health Magazine's write Kieran Legg for his piece in the March/April 2023 editions of MHZA about what brought me to the bring and also what brought me back.  I am very grateful to have been able to contribute to this article in a small way because the topic is vital and we are not talking and sharing enough.  To quote Kieran, "We need to talk."  Please grab a copy or two  for your self and share it with someone as well.

Suicide, killing ourselves over the lies we tell ourselves, over the lies we believe to be true.

I want to share with you why we will get through this.  

If I go and get my gun, if I put it in  mouth, I taste that metal and the oil, if I stare straight ahead, shaking, if I squeeze the trigger the trigger as hard as I can, then they won, my abusers won and they finally took everything.  

No one wants to kill themself when they have other options, alternatives, prospects. No one puts a gun in their mouth when things are looking up, getting better.  

No one pulls the trigger when the end is in sight!  

When we have certainty, hope, belief that things will be ok, normal, like they were, in a week, a month even a year, heck even 3 years. 

Then we don't pull the trigger.  

But there is no end insight, every time we get a little bit of hope it seems to be ripped away, every time we think we will be ok something traumatic happens to smash us even harder.  

Why does it feel like there's is no end in sight? No hope? No certainty?  

This is how it felt leading up to me putting a gun in my mouth.  

This is what I believe it feels like for so many right now.  

This is why I wanted to share with you how I managed to get through my darkness and how I still do.   

We are all in pain, but we are above ground so we can do something about it.   

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Right now it may feel like there is very little we can control, and it can be terrifying. I wanted to share with you what I have been through the past few weeks, it started with having to come back on the first day of a desperately needed week long brake because I was exposed and needed to get home to isolate and  it ended with being stuck inside alone for nearly an month and then having to cancel the break I was so desperately looking forward to again.

This was a test of mental health and it taught me a powerful lesson.

I hope this lesson can help you.

I love you guys.

Ooooooss

We may know that we are good, that we deserve love, peace, success and serenity, but what happens if we do not believe we do.   I have come to realise that serenity is the result of working rally hard to move from what we know about ourselves but to believe to what we know about ourselves and believe.  #mentalhealth #mentalwellness

Our Pain is a tool that can either serve us or destroy us. How we understand it and how we view it can determine which.

The rioting, looting, chaos fear and anger that has gripped South Africa over the past few days has left many of us feeling powerless.  I wanted to share something that I use to cope with you guys today and I hope it helps.  #southafrica #mentalhealth #mentalwellness

I love you guys, be extra kind to yourself and others.

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Exercising has many benefits getting fitter, stronger and healthier being some of them, but it can also help us deal with our anxiety and stress as well as giving us the opportunity to go on a mini vacation.  In todays episode I share the experiences I have had in coaching 100s of addicts over the past decade, teaching them how to use training and exercise to take a mental break from their anxiety and stress.  I hope this helps you.