The Nimi Toye Show

Ayo RAPHAEL is the president of Bold and Dynamic Rulers Initiative, he's a speaker, a writer, event host and a nation builder. Loving starts with the self. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. Our guest shared some good self love habits in this episode. Tune in, listen and share with someone.

*Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret - Ambrose Bierce*

Let everyone be quick to hear(be a careful, thoughtful listener), slow to speak( a speaker of carefully chosen words), and slow to anger (patient, reflective, forgiving). James 1vs19(AMP). Truth is we can save ourselves alot of pain and heartache if we follow one simple rule: slow down when you're angry or hurt. I shared 5 questions to ask yourself before you react in anger. Tune in and share with someone.

We know that the Nigeria we live in today gives us so many reasons to feel mental distress. I'm not about to increase the distress you feel by listing these reasons, but you know. I shared few tips on how to care for your mental health.

Anger is a normal emotion- but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your Health and your Relationships. Are you ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS.

When someone opens up about their mental illness (I'm gonna add, about anything, their struggles, pains and hurts). Don't debate it. Don't question it. Don't give your opinion. Respect their courage, sit next to them and say, tell me more, I'm here to listen. Lecturing doesn't save lives, listening does. Hannah Blum.

Calm down is something many of us hear when triggered or experiencing intense emotions, but the Truth is it isn't helpful. Being told to calm down sounds dismissive. It sounds a lot like you're being dramatic or overacting.

“It can be hard to forgive and let go but it’s important to remember that harboring the resentment and holding a grudge can hurt you even more. The word ‘forgive’ really means to give something up for yourself not for them.” –Jack Canfield

We've heard of the word sympathy. Simply put, sympathy is when we have common feelings of sadness or pity for and with someone else. Empathy has similar beginnings as sympathy, but it's quite different. While sympathy suggests that you share the feelings of someone else because of a similar experience, empathy implies that you've the capacity to imagine the feelings someone else had, but you haven't actually felt them yourself.

We'll never completely agree with another person on everything. Not even our partner or best friend. Of the nearly 8 billion people in the world right now, there's not a single person like you. That means there won't be anyone with your exact view point or perspective on life, politics, money, relationships or religion. You're uniquely YOU, and so it the person next to you. Even though we're all different, we owe everyone love.

How do you currently cope with stress and anxiety? Are your current coping methods helping you long term? Tune in and listen to this episode where I shared 8 coping skills amongst the several coping skills for stress and anxiety.