Nine to Kind's Admin Night is officially here! Before we get into what it actually is...we need to chat about the "trend of community. Brands are selling it, events are everywhere, and if you felt a little skeptical about all of it I totally get it.

That skepticism is why I almost did not do this and what it took to get me to move forward. We get into what paying to be in a room with people actually gives you, why adult friendship feels so overwhelming, and how lower intimacy relationships are more valuable than we give them credit for.

Admin Night was built for the chronically responsible person who needs a space to show up without being the one holding everything together. We are talking emails, taxes, adulting tasks, good drinks, real conversation, and zero pressure to perform. The formula is simple. Novelty plus community plus accountability plus nourishment. This episode walks through how that came together, why the serendipity of the right people in a room cannot be manufactured, and what incorporated self care actually looks like on a random Tuesday night.

// // // // //

Register for June's Admin Night HERE

Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren

Shop Nine to Kind

Follow Lauren on IG

Follow Nine to Kind on IG

Welcome to Possibility in Practice!

I wanted to offer quick tutorials and skills that truly support you creating your own "Nine to Kind." This week we review a pros/cons format that give you a well rounded look at what's at stake or potential benefit.

May has become December 2.0 for many of us, without the context of stress that the holidays have. By the end of the episode, you will be able to look at these difficult decisions with objectivity and hopefully have less on your schedule for the month.

The 4 Column Framework:

What are the PROS of opting in?

What are the CONS of opting in?

What are the PROS of opting out?

What are the CONS of opting out?

What you will notice is that the questions are simple but the answers speak to the layers of nuance we are navigating daily.

Is there a specific tool within the Possibility Planner you want to understand better? Do you have a scenario that you are wanting to see what skills would be helpful to apply? Message me on IG or email me for future episodes!

Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren

Nashville! Our first in person event is set to happen in June. Admin Night is body doubling and happy hour all together. For details and to get on the waitlist click HERE.

Shop Nine to Kind

Follow Lauren on IG

Follow Nine to Kind on IG

Our society loves us some toxic positivity doesn’t it?! Because of our culture that thrives on weaponizing gratitude and demean “negativity” we are often not taught how to sit with feelings like pessimism.

People often find it odd of just how pessimistic I can be, especially as someone who instills hope in others for a living. The thing is...pessimism can truly be a guide if we learn how to be in a healthy relationship with it.

This week's episode gets into how we are bypassing important information and feelings all in the sake of "good vibes only" and how possibility can be exactly what turns our relationship with pessimism into a healthy one.

// // //

Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren:

Nashville! Our first in person event is set to happen in June. Admin Night is body doubling and happy hour all together. For details and to get on the waitlist click HERE.

Shop Nine to Kind

Follow Lauren on IG

Follow Nine to Kind on IG

Overthinking is cute and all until is has you in a mental paralysis with no change in sight. This week I recount my most recent bout of overthinking paralysis and offer learnings from the other side. You will learn my 4 step process to shifting so that you have a go to process for the next episode of rumination!

Join Nine to Kind for Admin Night!

Gather with fellow overthinkers and overdoers for a night focused on compassionate accountability and community support for completing avoided tasks. Waitlist members get a special little happy along with first dibs on tickets.

Join the waitlist HERE

How we can connect:

Nine to Kind on Substack

Lauren Ruth Martin on IG

Nine to Kind on IG

Shop Nine to Kind

Week by week I am realizing that Nine to Kind is about something bigger than scheduled self care. Building a "Nine to Kind" is deconstructing hustle culture by reshaping the role of work, hobbies, and sustainability in my life.

This transition into embodiment has highlighted how deep chronic responsibility can go. Chronic Responsibility and Productivity Guilt have snuck their way back in through the push to monetize interests and shapeshifting hobbies into to a more palatable form of burnout.

In the spirit of intention, I had to make structural and financial sacrifices. We dig into reflections around the reclaiming of time, reducing guilt driven overcommitment and how to incorporate autonomy building rituals into existing routines.

Mentioned in this episode:

Alexa Martinez: @alexacoaches on IG // Alexa's Website

How we can connect:

Nine to Kind on Substack

Lauren Ruth Martin on IG

Nine to Kind on IG

Shop Nine to Kind

Theme of the Episode: Rebuilding Nine to Kind with Artisan, Values Aligned Marketing

After a week of vulnerable updates, I share yet another vulnerable update on the brand rebuilding process. We discuss my broader move away from stressful social media centric marketing toward more values aligned, high touch “artisan” marketing that prioritizes connection, events, and community over transactions.

The reality is that Nine to Kind was never meant to be just a productivity planner brand...but more so a practical, self compassion focused collective for chronically responsible helpers who want to slow down and release productivity guilt.

The episode connects this vision to accommodations, neurodivergence, and choosing an approach that fits how you operate, even if it’s slower, riskier, or less efficient.

What I referenced in the episode:

Off the Grid by Amelia Hruby, PhD (Podcast + Substack)

Sunday Forever

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Thanks

00:46 Podcast Format Update

03:54 Marketing Without Socials

06:45 More Than a Planner

08:41 Artisan Marketing Vision

11:02 Brand Example Sunday Forever

13:13 High Touch Marketing Tactics

15:23 In Person Events Roadmap

18:41 Accommodations and Neurodivergence

22:13 Middle Path and Vulnerability

Hi! I'm back to the Nine to Kind podcast after a break to share a life and business update. This wouldn't be without candor about the process of returning and a commitment to visibility in 2026. I give the behind the scenes peek into Nine to Kind's journey since 2023. One that has been humbling and perfectionism ridden triggering anxieties around money, debt, and self worth (despite it being part of the business building process).

The past few months have included affirming experiences like an in person market, a speaking gig, and interest in coaching. These experiences helped me realize I don't need to quit but there is a need to accept a slower, aligned pace. I share my difficulty internalizing successes (“life dysmorphia”) and how this next iteration is an exposure to being truly seen.

// // //

Links from the episode:

Nine to Kind on Substack

Shop Nine to Kind

Find me on IG

// // //

Timeline:

00:00 Welcome Back Update

02:41 Nine To Kind History

04:04 Q4 Pressure Spiral

06:43 Wins And Momentum

08:07 Quiet Season Reset

09:24 Therapy Or Personal Brand

12:26 Choosing My Way

13:46 Life Dysmorphia

19:03 Next 90 Day Focus

19:55 Podcast And Planner Vision

In this episode, licensed therapist Lauren Ruth Martin discusses the challenges of embracing contentment and joy amidst skepticism and overthinking. She explores the tendency to brace for impact when things are going well and offers practical tools to help listeners savor positive moments without feeling overwhelmed. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and emotional resilience in navigating feelings of joy and discomfort.

Want more? Read this ⁠BLOG⁠ on bracing and how to be more present in moments of joy and contentment.

Booking keynotes and workshops! Click ⁠HERE⁠ to learn more

Visit the ⁠Nine to Kind Shop⁠!

© 2025. All Rights Reserved Lauren Ruth Martin, LLC For general informational purposes only. Not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, illness, or disease. Content from this site or connected social media channels is not intended to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment.

In this episode of the Nine to Kind Podcast, Licensed Therapist Lauren Ruth Martin discusses the importance of mindful planning and the concept of exit plans, particularly in the context of feeling stuck in various life situations. She introduces the "mindful prepper" mindset and emphasizes the need for a flexible approach to decision-making, contrasting it with fixed and fatalistic mindsets. The episode encourages listeners to brainstorm without editing their thoughts and to explore various options when considering significant life changes. Lauren also highlights the importance of validating your desires and engaging in intentional survival mode to prepare for potential changes in life.

Takeaways:

Exit plans can help in feeling stuck in life situations.

RODBT Flexible mind allows for exploring options beyond fixed and fatalistic thinking.

Brainstorming without editing is crucial for clarity.

Scaling options helps in making informed decisions.

Engaging in intentional survival mode prepares for unexpected changes.

Exploring possibilities can lead to unexpected opportunities.

Get on the Sunday Check In Newsletter HERE

Want more? Read this ⁠BLOG⁠ on Survival Mode Self Care: 11 Areas Where You Can Begin Mindful Prepping

Booking keynotes and workshops! Click ⁠HERE⁠ to learn more

Visit the ⁠Nine to Kind Shop⁠!

© 2025. All Rights Reserved Lauren Ruth Martin, LLC For general informational purposes only. Not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, illness, or disease. Content from this site or connected social media channels is not intended to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment.

The Nine to Kind Podcast is back! In this episode, Licensed Therapist Lauren Ruth Martin discusses the importance of self-compassion, especially for perfectionists and overthinkers. She shares her personal journey of taking a break from the podcast and the challenges of running a product-based business. The conversation delves into the myths surrounding self-compassion, emphasizing the need to extend kindness to oneself and recognizing the unrealistic standards often imposed by society. Lauren encourages listeners to embrace their own playbook and prioritize self-care as a means to enjoy life more fully.

Want more? Read this BLOG on Self Compassion for Perfectionists

Booking keynotes and workshops! Click HERE to learn more

Visit the Nine to Kind Shop!

© 2025. All Rights Reserved Lauren Ruth Martin, LLC For general informational purposes only. Not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, illness, or disease. Content from this site or connected social media channels is not intended to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment.