A conflict of wills gets you stuck. This approach will help you move forward towards a more productive conversation.

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New Neuroscience Reveals 7 Secrets That Will Make You Emotionally Intelligent by Eric Barker

Conflicted: How Productive Disagreements Lead to Better Outcomes by Ian Leslie

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Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately.

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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue

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Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately.

Show Notes:

Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue

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A scapegoat gives individuals and society someone to blame. This episode unpacks the family systems principles at work.

Show Notes:

A Cow, A Lantern, and a Myth: Mrs. O'Leary and 19the Century Immigrants in Chicago

The O'Leary Legend

Scapegoating minorities is an unfortunate reality of history by Grady Atwater

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Self-differentiation is different than being selfish. This episode explains the difference.

Show Notes:

Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness by Scott Barry Kaufman and Emanuel Jauk

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Authenticity is the path to developing as an effective leader. This episode breaks down how this relates to leadership through self-differentiation.

Show Notes:

Discovering Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George, Peter Sims, Andrew N. McLean, and Diana Mayer.

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Understanding emotional process enables leaders to know when they should engage in a conversation and when there is something else going on. This episode explains the difference.

This is the audio of Chapter 5, "Process Not Content," from my book, If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast.

Show Notes:

If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer

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When we are uncomfortable with another, we often avoid dealing directly with that relationship by triangling a third person or issue. Understanding how triangles work and how to deal with them is essential to healthy functioning.

This is the audio of Chapter 4 on Triangles from my book, If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast.

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If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer

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The difference between happy and unhappy people is how they respond to pain and suffering. This episode unpacks the family systems concepts involved.

Show Notes:

This Is The Most Fun Way To Make Your Life Awesome by Eric Barker

The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By by Dan P. McAdams

Episode 128: How to Grow Stronger Emotionally

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Emotional cutoff is not uncommon in families, congregations and organizations. This episode helps you recognize it and manage it.

Show Notes:

Emotional Cutoff The Bowen Center for the Study of Family

Episode 103: The Magnet Theory of Emotional Distance

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