This episode covers a repeatable process for developing positive habits to improve your spiritual, physical and professional lives.

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The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan

The Healthy Habit Revolution: The Step by Step Blueprint to Create Better Habits in 5 Minutes a Day by Derek Doepker

The Power of Small Wins by Teresa M. Amabile and Steven J. Kramer

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Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space. The magnet theory helps to understand what this looks like and how to do it.

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Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity

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Emotional intensity can serve as a clue to the emotional process in a system. This episode starts with examples in child-focused families and then shows how this can help the non-anxious leader.

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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue

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The children's story, Bread and Jam for Frances, has all the components of family systems theory. This episode breaks it down.

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Bread and Jam for Frances by Russell Hoban

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Non-Violent or Compassionate Communication not only helps us to express our unmet needs, it also helps us to listen to others to identify their unmet needs.

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Episode 99: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication - Part 1

Family Systems Book Study in The Non-Anxious Leader Network

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Marshall Rosenberg developed Non-Violent Communication to better express our own needs and better understand the needs of others. This episode looks at how this complements family systems theory and can help non-anxious leaders communicate more effectively.

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The Center for Non-Violent Communication "Feelings Inventory"

The Center for Non-Violent Communication "Needs Inventory"

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Edwin Friedman maintained that paradox and playfulness were important to maintaining a non-anxious presence. The leverage of the dependent and the conflict of wills are key concepts to understanding how this works.

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Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman

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Discerning and communicating vision is your most important role as a leader. Doing this well creates focus, as well as reduces anxiety. Understanding family sysytems theory will help you deal effectively with resistance.

A note: near the end I say "A little humilty never helps." I meant to say, "A little humility never hurts." 

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Resilience not only promotes growth, it enables a leader to maintain a non-anxious presence when facing challenge. Understanding resilience will help you do this more effectively.

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Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response

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Moral convictions are important. However, if they aren't managed properly they can have negative consequences. Understanding how they work can help you avoid the negatives so you can be a non-anxious leader.

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Moral Combat - Hidden Brain Podcast

Moral Conviction by Linda J. Skitka, Ph.D.

Episode 85: Facts, Beliefs and the Non-Anxious Leader

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