When faced with a difficult decision avoid the impulse to react, stay focused on your mission, weigh the downside risk, and look for stop signs. Then make your choice and own it.

Show Notes:

Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions

Chasing Daylight: Seize the Power of Every Moment by Erwin McManus

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A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why.

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Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast

The Non-Anxious Leader Network

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Family systems practitioner Jenny Brown uses the term maturity to describe self-differentiation. I take two paragraphs from her book and distill out three hallmarks of self-differentiation.

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Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life's relationships by Jenny Brown

The Non-Anxious Leader Network

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Not every decision is created equal. Knowing how to manage your decision-making energy will make you more confident, less anxious, and will leave you more energy for the big decisions.

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Successful people like Barack Obama and Mark Zuckerberg wear the same thing every day — and it's not a coincidence from Business Insider

The Choices Before Us: Can Fewer Options Lead To Better Decisions? from Hidden Brain Podcast

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The uncertainty created by the COVID-19 pandemic is like "the fog of war." Non-anxious leaders embrace this uncertainty in a way that helps those they lead do their best work.

Show notes:

A Crisis Leadership Lesson, an interview with General Stanley McChrystal, The Masters of Scale Rapid Response Podcast. This link has all episodes on one page. To find the McChrystal interview, scroll down. You can also download a transcript.

7 Successful Battle Strategies to Beat COVID-19 by Euvin Naidoo

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Working from home is even more challenging when it's 24/7 and you share the space with others. Understanding how to adjust your routines to make it work will get you through.

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This is my office cubbyhole in the basement.

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Self-acceptance comes from self-understanding and self-compassion. This is easier said than done. It begins with awareness and intentionality and ultimately leads to taking responsibility for self.

Show Notes:

The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D.

Therapists Spill: 12 Ways to Accept Yourself by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

This is my blog post that includes the Nick Saban quote, "So what? Now what?" Lessons from Lifelong Kindergarten.

Learn about Don Clifton and the strengthfinders movement.

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The COVID-19 pandemic has disrupted daily living for almost everybody. This kind of change requires us to understand loss, grief and how to manage anxiety.

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That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato

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In Matthew 28:1-10, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary, face change, uncertainty and fear. The parallels to the current COVID-19 crisis are unmistakable. Their response can help us find hope.

Show Notes:

That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato

The Liturgists Podcast: You Are Safe

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Finding a therapist or coach, doing a genogram and family timeline, and listening to family stories can help you work toward greater self-differentiation. It's a life's work.

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