“Everything is figureoutable.”

It’s one of those phrases that sounds simple, maybe even cliché until life actually puts it to the test. 

When something breaks, when plans fall apart, when you have no idea what to do next, that’s when this phrase either falls flat… or becomes your lifeline.

But here’s the thing: being stuck isn’t always about the situation. It’s about perception. Most of the time, you’re not actually stuck, you just haven’t found the next step yet. And that’s okay.

You’re not supposed to have it all mapped out, you’re supposed to participate in the unfolding.

 And even if you can’t see it yet, you’re already on your way there.

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Let’s be real, Monday has never done anything for us. Every week it shows up uninvited, ruining the vibe like that one friend who reminds everyone how early they have to wake up tomorrow.

Sunday night? You’re romanticising your life, journaling, skincare, main character energy. Then suddenly it’s 11:59 PM and boom, anxiety parade.

But here’s the truth: the world isn’t out to get you.

On this Friday Reflection episode, lets shift the narrative to maybe monday is just… consistent and maybe that’s something we can use.

Every Sunday night, humanity collectively experiences the same emotional crisis. The clock strikes 7pm, and suddenly… the world goes quiet. The group chat goes silent. And there it is, the Sunday Scaries.

You’re coming off the freedom of the weekend, maybe still tired, maybe already overwhelmed by what’s ahead. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with you for not being instantly productive.

But what if we reframe it? maybe it’s not Monday that’s hard. Maybe it’s the expectation that you need to wake up as a brand-new version of yourself every week. So let’s take that pressure off. You don’t need to conquer Monday. You just need to meet it gently.

Mondays are tough...so here's an episode that will hopefully ease you into your Mondays a bit easier.

Today's Friday Reflection is light hearted.

We will not be journaling our thoughts or convince our minds to do better. Today, we are just accepting that sometimes life can be hard and it can suck.

In the dating world, it is often easy to blame ourselves for it not working out or the fact that we get ghosted or maybe we haven't met THE ONE and time seem to pass so fast.

Today, we are just sitting with the acceptance of effort. We need to accept ourselves before we expect others to accept us. Sometime, we need to just sit in solitude that love is a challenge but it doesn't mean we don' stop trying.

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This week, I am delighted to be talking to my special guest, my lovely friend Tallulah Marshall Venter.

She is joining us on the podcast today to speak about the dating world and her experiences with dating.

Dating is often not easy, especially as it seems as if the expectations have become higher, hook-up culture has become the norm, and trying to find your match feels like a stretch.In this episode, we dive into the nightmares of dating, how to navigate through the online dating apps vs real-life dating experiences, and of course, how to stay optimistic through it all.

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This week, we explored the fear of being “too much” and still not enough. Maybe you noticed places in your life where you shrink yourself or moments when you worried you were taking up too much space.

It’s a hard tension to live in. And yet, naming it is already healing.

So today, I want you to take a breath and check in with yourself.

Where did you feel like you were “too much” this week? And where did you feel like you weren’t enough?

You will never be too much for the right people. And you will never be not enough for the life meant for you.

You don’t have to shrink, and you don’t have to perform. You are allowed to exist in your full self messy, radiant, human.

You’re not too much. You’re not enough. You’re YOU and that’s more than enough.

I’ll meet you back here on Monday.

Today we’re talking about something tender, something that so many of us carry but rarely put words to: the fear of being too much and at the same time, still not enough.

It’s this quiet tug-of-war inside us, where one part of us worries that we take up too much space, ask for too much, feel too deeply, dream too loudly and the other part worries we’ll never be quite enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not successful enough, not whatever enough. It’s exhausting. It’s confusing and it can make us shrink ourselves just to feel safe.

Here’s the truth: you will never be too much for the people who are meant to see you. And you will never be not enough for the life that was meant for you. You are both expansive and tender, imperfect and radiant. The only person who gets to decide if you are “too much” or “not enough” is you.

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On Monday, we talked about sparkle. Not the fake, polished kind, but that quiet inner glow that feels real. And how sometimes, it goes dim. Not because you’ve failed, but because you’re tired, growing, or carrying more than you can hold.

So today, I want to ask you:

Where this week did I feel a tiny spark? Maybe it was laughter. Maybe it was sunlight. Maybe it was five quiet minutes to yourself.

And also, Where did I notice the dimness? Where did I feel like I wasn’t myself?

 You don’t have to chase your sparkle. You don’t have to fix yourself to glow again. Light has a way of finding its way back in often through the smallest cracks.

Thank you for pausing with me. For choosing to reflect instead of rushing.

You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

And if you’ve made it here, you’re already in the Club.

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When was the last time you felt your glow? Your Sparkle? Your shine?

There are seasons when we don’t feel shiny at all. We feel flat, tired, muted. Like the brightness has been drained out of us. And sometimes, that feels scary. Because we remember a time when we did glow, and we wonder: where did that person go?

But here’s the gentle truth: your sparkle isn’t gone. It’s just resting. It’s waiting. It’s asking you to slow down and notice what makes you feel alive again.

 Getting your glow back isn’t about a makeover, or reinventing yourself overnight. It’s about tiny sparks. The little things that remind you who you are.

So maybe this week, instead of asking “Why don’t I feel like myself anymore?” … try asking: What’s one tiny spark I could give myself today? It doesn’t need to be big. It just needs to feel real.

Because your sparkle isn’t lost. It’s still inside you. Waiting. And the moment you choose to see it again, even in the smallest flicker… it starts to glow.

On Mondays' episode, we talked about The Grief of Growing Up.

How growing up isn’t just about milestones and independence, it’s also about letting go of versions of ourselves, friendships, and even dreams that once felt so close

Remember: grieving doesn’t mean you’re broken, or ungrateful. It means you’re human and you’re allowed to feel both the ache of what’s gone and the hope of what’s to come.

The beauty of growing up is that even as we let go, we also get to choose what we carry forward.