“Is this okay?” “I get impatient with my children and don’t know what to do.” “My child has been biting their sibling every day and I can’t get them to stop.” All of these are completely normal questions I’ve gotten from parents about handling their children’s behavior. It can be so difficult to know what to do in the moment or how to implement behavior management strategies. That’s where I come in! This episode focuses on what positive, age-appropriate discipline looks like in early childhood. This included:
The impacts of common discipline and behavior management strategies (time out, spanking, redirection, offering choices)How biting/hitting/throwing is normal for young kidsThe importance of repair and connection during conflict or “discipline”Describing strategies to use in your own parenting:
Do not focus on control, focus on guidance and connection!During behaviors/conflict:Connect firstValidate emotions and be their calmClear limits with redirectionTake a break and ask for help - keep your child safeEspecially for toddlers:Ignore and redirectUse your attention to reinforce behaviorsRemove or block and redirectRepair asapModel how you regulate and repairLabel your emotions and how they feel/lookExplain how parents also have meltdownsIt’s ALWAYS okay to start over (whether it’s because of you or your kids)AfterUse storytelling or pretend play to process experiences and emotionsTeach children tools to handle their behaviorPreventionUse play, singing, changing location to change energy or end power strugglesGive yourself more time or change how you approach parts of your routine that often cause you impatience or frustrationOffer choices to give controlMaintain a routine and use visual schedule to helpCreate boundaries/limits that prevent power strugglesIt’s ok: Being Kind to yourself when things feel hard by Wendy O’LearyBreathing makes it better by Christopher Willard and Wendy O’LearyRoaring Mad Riley by Allison SzczecinskiThat’s My Truck by Dr. Becky KennedyThe whole brain child by Dan Siegel and Tine Payne-BrysonParenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel and Mary HartzellSupport my show! I’d love it if you would subscribe, rate, and review my podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to show your support of the show. Share to your stories and tag me so I can see you tuning in!
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