The Partnership Podcast

On Episode 21 Trey and Lauren break down two recent conflicts that existed solely in their minds. They discuss finding their way back to one another and the importance of taking responsibility for their personal feelings. 

Lauren stumbled into an old porn wound last week and Trey shares how the tone of her question made him feel judged and threatened. They then move into their favorite topic of sexual privacy and how they can continue to support and protect one another as they continue to reprogram their minds and habits. 

Lauren ALMOST makes it through a second episode with no tears, but conversations about the beautiful expansion of her business, Sex Ed For You, and the changes it is bringing about in her personal life, lead her to a breaking point. They discuss how, in their own ways, they're both mourning prior patterns and coping mechanisms. 

They close with a conversation surrounding how tricky it is to live with and be partnered to someone who is growing. In Trey's words, “partnership is work!” 

If you're ready to get to work on your partnership, click here to book a free consult with Lauren. https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult⁠ She loves equipping couples with tools to communicate and celebrate their partnership!

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Episode 20 is here and it marks Lauren’s FIRST episode without tears! Perhaps it’s because these two spend most of this episode flexing their acting muscles by pretending to ask one another for new and exciting sexual things in the bedroom. Wanna see Trey blush? Make sure to watch the video on Spotify or YouTube!

(Fun fact! Did you know Trey was an actor/SAG member for years? While he’s appeared in numerous films and television shows, this episode showcases his finest work! Kidding! Kinda.)

Lauren shares that clients often ask her how to bring up new things to their partner that they'd like to try sexually and the next thing you know they're role playing. There's laughter and awkwardness, but no tears! At minute 4:21 Lauren invents a Step-Wise Model for Bringing up Sex Requests to a partner and hilarity ensues!

Help these two celebrate their 20th Episode by liking, subscribing, sharing, rating, and leaving a review wherever you get your podcasts!

If you’re ready to request new things from your partner, but need a little help,  click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: ⁠https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult⁠ She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Episode 19 almost went unshared. It's messy, unrehearsed, raw, and necessary. In their warm up conversation,Trey began telling Lauren about the ways in which he's pushing into the discomfort of growth in this season - habits he's attempting to curb and new disciplines he's hoping to develop. This reminded Lauren of the work so many of her clients are doing right now and so she began to ask how partners can be helpful when their partner is growing - and that conversation just kept rolling.

In this intimate episode Lauren and Trey discuss the inherent vulnerability in growth - for both the person growing and the people in their orbit. They discuss how bearing witness to a partner's growth can threaten our security and make us question our own foundations.

You'll hear them brainstorm questions partners can ask of one another when they want to support NOT hinder growth. And how growth can bring out the best and worst of the people around us.

Lauren shares a recent failure and how this colleague pushed into a clarifying conversation with bravery and vulnerability - resulting in a deeper and more trusting connection than before.

When we say this episode is messy, we mean it. Lauren's camera dies two thirds of the way through (see the hidden easter egg message at minute 31:55!) - but the wrap up was too good not to share. 

If you’re ready to talk about messy topics like these with your partner,  click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren:⁠https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult⁠ She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!

Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip!⁠

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

This episode begins with a silly little confession from Trey and leads into a deeper dive of the many health benefits of masturbation when used as a purposeful tool. Lauren believes that it's time to let go of the misinformation that continues to leave people feeling guilt and shame about a normal expression of the sexual self.

The REAL content of this episode revolves around the taboo of menstruation and period sex! As a menstruating person, Lauren has experienced GREAT period sex and hilarious period sex and she gets down and dirty with Trey as they talk about it all! What was intended to be a silly and lighthearted discussion on how to incorporate an intimacy blanket like The Layer (https://getthelayer.com/products/the-layer - use sexedforyou at checkout for 10% off!) into your love-making became a much deeper discussion on the taboos that continue to surround menstruating people.

Lauren and Trey brainstorm workplace emergencies and deconstruct chauvinistic slurs aimed at people who menstruate, and how as humans we can all do better. You'll watch as Lauren breaks down as she and Trey discuss this topic for VERY FIRST TIME! Trey explains his perspective on those who fail to use empathy for those in their lives who menstruate.

We hope you'll send this podcast to all who need it. Trey and Lauren both believe that until we can openly and honestly discuss menstruation and the role it plays in our relationships, we cannot fully embrace partnership. This podcast is for those who have sex with people who bleed, have children who bleed, and work with those who bleed.

Happy Women's History Month to all who menstruate and many, many thanks to THE LAYER (getthelayer.com) for sending us their incredible product that has greatly improved our period playtime! Use SEXEDFORYOU at checkout to receive 10% off of any of their incredible intimacy products! 

If you’re ready to talk about messy topics like these with your partner,  click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren:https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!

Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

Episode 17 unfolds differently than all the rest! When they embarked on this conversation Lauren thought they'd be discussing the power of self-actualization and the accessibility of self-help resources these days. But, as you'll see, the dialogue takes a much different turn. Lauren shares how, through the power of question asking, Trey encourages intimacy and makes her feel: un-known, exciting, and erotically expansive. 

Trey shares how he first picked up the classic book, HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE (https://amzn.to/3SzH6jp), written in 1936 by Dale Carnegie, and how it became a game changer for his interpersonal encounters. Lauren then draws a connection to the KINK world and how, contrary to appearances, the power lies with the submissive. Similarly, the power in conversation lies with the questioner who is RECEIVING the words of the responder. 

At minute 31 Lauren mentions, once again, one of their favorite books by Susan David, PhD:  Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. You can purchase it here: https://amzn.to/3IrIAri 

PSST: Find yourself wanting to listen to all the books Lauren and Trey recommend? Get a FREE TRIAL of Audible by clicking here: https://amzn.to/3m7VgMI

If you'd like to see if curiosity the key to YOUR intimacy,  click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!  

Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast  

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

Hold on folks, on Episode 16 Lauren is talking about her FAVORITE GAME for partnerships of all kinds! The Three Minute Game by the brilliant Dr. Betty Martin has revolutionized Lauren's work and you'll be able to feel her nerdy excitement as she and Trey share about their recent attempt at playing this game for research purposes. ;)

Trey shares how uncomfortable and vulnerable the game can be and his experience playing for the first time. He pushes into some difficult corners of the exercise and asks Lauren some hard "what if" questions that cause her to pause.

Noticing, trusting, and valuing our needs, wants, and desires can be the most difficult task of all. The Three Minute Game creates a boundaried container to practice serving, accepting, taking, and allowing!

If you'd like to know more about the HOW and WHY to initiate this exercise with your partner,  click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!

Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

Well, it's about damn time. Pop the popcorn, sit back, relax, and enjoy your front row seat to another CONFLICT. Episode 13 finds Trey and Lauren on day two of a conflict over DISHES and you don't wanna miss it. One party feels that their needs are being silenced and the other feels pressured to submit - buckle-up, friends, this is a wild ride.

The whole thing started because Lauren thought it would be a cute idea to pull a few cards from the Best Self INTIMACY Deck on their lazy Sunday morning in bed. (Get your own deck here: https://shrsl.com/3v7wp) What they stumbled into will not surprise our faithful audience, but hopefully, you'll be encouraged by the way this seemingly small issue escalated to anger, confusion, tally marks, and feelings of utter failure.

We see both Trey and Lauren express resentment over adult responsibilities demanded of them in childhood and how no matter how hard they try, these familial wounds keep popping up. Lauren's utter hatred of submission seems to paralyze her towards the end, leading Trey to choose to concede, just to make the argument stop. Audience, it's not pretty.

What would you have done differently? How can our conflict help you and your partners? Who is the more anal one in your relationship? (Yes, that's mean, but Lauren types this body text and Trey will never see this. :-)

WARNING: You will FEEL the tension in this episode. It's not pretty and nothing gets tied up in a pretty bow, AND we hope you see that you are NOT alone.

Do you and your partner ALSO have conflicts? Do you wish they ended in laughter and jokes like this one? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult to see how Lauren can help you get curious about the hows and whys behind your arguments: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult

Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast

Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.