The Pausing Porn Podcast

In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I talk about one of the biggest challenges in recovery, which is your urges. I’ll explain what an urge actually is, what it feels like, and I’ll also walk you through how I learned to sit with urges instead of fighting them and how that mindset shift completely changed my recovery. By the end of this episode, you’ll see that urges are just messages from your brain, not commands, and you’ll know how to face them with awareness and control.

Relapse is one of the hardest parts of porn addiction recovery. For years, every relapse left me feeling weak, hopeless, and ashamed. I thought it was proof that I was broken. But today, if I relapsed, I’d respond completely differently.

In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I share exactly what I would do if I relapsed right now. You’ll hear how my old cycle of secrecy, shame, and distraction kept me trapped, and how today I’d respond with accountability, self-compassion, and reflection instead.

We’ll talk about why relapse happens, how to break the shame cycle, and the practical steps that can turn relapse into growth instead of defeat.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “What do I do after a relapse?” this episode will give you perspective, encouragement, and a framework for moving forward in your recovery journey.

In this episode I share one of the hardest parts of my recovery journey from porn addiction: the loneliness and shame that kept me trapped for years. I open up about confessing to my partner in 2020, relapsing the very next day, and how secrecy drove me deeper into isolation. I talk about the cycle of guilt, why shame fuels disconnection, and how my early attempts at support often left me feeling misunderstood. Eventually I found real change through accountability, community, and honest connection. If you have ever felt alone in your struggle with porn, this episode is for you.

Is masturbation relapse, or can it actually be part of recovery? In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I explore one of the most debated topics in the NoFap community and porn recovery space. I look at the arguments against masturbation, the potential benefits that science points to, and what healthy masturbation can look like when it is practiced with intention. I'll also share my personal story of going from compulsive use tied to porn, to experimenting with mindful masturbation, and finding a way to reconnect with myself. Toward the end, I introduce the Sexual Hunger Scale, a practical tool to help you check whether your desire comes from genuine connection or from emotional escape. By the end of the episode, you will have a deeper understanding of how to make an informed choice that supports your recovery, your values, and the kind of life you want to build.

Have you ever promised yourself, that was the last time only to relapse hours later? If so, you’re not weak, you’re human. In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I break down why willpower alone will never set you free from porn addiction, and what science says you need instead.

We’ll cover:

• Why almost everyone starts recovery with willpower (and why it fails).

• The science of dopamine, stress, and conditioning that makes urges so powerful.

• Why shame and secrecy push you deeper into the cycle.

• Practical tools that actually work: systems, accountability, emotional regulation, replacement habits, and building a bigger life.

If you’ve been stuck relying on streaks and self-control, this episode will show you a better way forward.

Social media is one of the biggest double edged swords in recovery from porn addiction. It can help by connecting you to supportive communities and inspiring content, but it can also trigger relapses, drain your time, and keep you stuck in old cycles.

In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I break down the role social media plays in recovery, both the benefits and the risks. I share my own story of how social media fueled my addiction, why I eventually deleted my accounts, and how I was later able to reintroduce it in a healthier way.

If you have ever relapsed because of something you saw while scrolling, or if you are wondering whether to quit social media, set stricter boundaries, or continue using it with more awareness, this episode will help you reflect and make the right choice for your recovery.

In this episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I talk about one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in recovery. Change doesn’t happen from knowledge alone, it happens when you take action. For years I thought reading, learning, and planning would be enough, but nothing shifted until I actually started applying it. I’ll share parts of my own story, the role accountability played, and why stepping out of just planning mode is what really moves you forward. My hope is that this episode inspires you to take that next step in your own recovery journey.

In today’s episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I share the top 3 benefits I’ve experienced since gaining a life free from porn. While everyone’s recovery journey is unique, I dive into the powerful changes I noticed in my mental health, my friendships, and how I use my time. Living porn free doesn’t just remove a habit, it creates space for real growth, connection, and purpose.

If you’ve ever wondered what life without porn could look like, this episode will give you a glimpse into the freedom and clarity that recovery brings.

Have you noticed your porn tastes change over time? Sure you have. If you are anything like I was, you've probably been consistently seeking novelty for awhile now. There's a reason for that by the way.

In todays micro episode, I discuss why your porn tastes have changed over time. These are the reasons why some of you find yourself watching porn that does not align with your values, or maybe even your sexuality. I hope this episode helps you guys out.

Have you heard of them yet... porn blockers? These are they apps, software's, browser extensions, or router filters that are made to prevent you from accessing porn. Sounds like an easy way to recover right? In a perfect world you could install porn blockers on all your devices and you'd never be able to watch porn again. If only it were that easy.

In this micro episode of The Pausing Porn Podcast, I answer the question if these blockers really work, if they worked for me, and who they'd be most likely to work for. I hope you enjoy!