The Peter & Tekky Show

In today's vlog:

• Growing up in an immigrant family without much money and the frugal habits I still carry today
• Realising that sometimes saving a tiny amount of money actually costs me more time
• Why hearing both sides of a story has changed how I judge people and relationships
• Questioning why people cheat instead of immediately deciding someone is a bad person
• Wicked, Come From Away and why I love things that completely shift my perspective
• Trying to slow down, notice the little things and be more present in everyday life
• Rethinking how I prioritise my time and what actually deserves my attention
• Why death, change and impermanence can make life feel more meaningful

In today's vlog:

• Why negativity can kill an idea before you even try it

• The difference between constructive feedback and unsolicited criticism

• Why I’ve stopped asking everyone what they think about my ideas

• Neuroplasticity, metacognition and changing the way you think

• Why van life and tiny homes make me question what a “normal” life is supposed to look like

• How unconventional relationships, homes and lifestyles can challenge the status quo

• Being more resourceful and learning to use what you already have

• Why sometimes you just need to start before you’re ready

Today’s vlog gets pretty philosophical:

• What metacognition is and why we should question why we think the way we do

• Why I hate fortune telling and how it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy

• Manifestation, confirmation bias and seeing what you’re already looking for

• Why learning about something is very different from actually doing it

• The real amount of effort required to achieve the things we say we want

• Why even extremely successful people fail far more often than they succeed

• Learning to reset quickly when something goes wrong

• Why staying curious about your partner might be one of the keys to a long-term relationship

Today’s vlog is another very random catch-up:

• Our $1,400 trademark quote and looking for another lawyer
• Why Peter hates asking people for things
• Food nostalgia and random F1 thoughts
• Why hate comments often come from different perspectives
• Watching everything at 2–3x speed and how it affects us
• A new idea for our clothing size labels
• Why people expect relationships to fit a certain mould

Today’s vlog gets unexpectedly philosophical:

• Watching a baby swimming lesson and debating whether putting children through discomfort helps them grow or can become trauma
• Where the line is between adversity that makes you stronger and experiences that have lasting negative effects
• How parents are supposed to know when to push a child versus protect them
• Responding to a comment asking why I talk about my ADHD so much
• Why getting diagnosed later in life changed how I understand myself
• Whether labels like ADHD and autism are useful, limiting, or simply shortcuts that help us communicate
• Peter’s thoughts on needing an actual diagnosis before using a label
• Why people naturally create labels, tribes and communities
• Whether our Asian/collectivist backgrounds might have influenced how naturally our four-person relationship feels to us

Today’s vlog starts chaotic and somehow turns into a relationship podcast:

• Trying to rescue a tiny, extremely fast lizard that got trapped in our sink
• Why we sometimes assume our partner did something intentionally when they didn’t
• What it means to approach disagreements in “good faith” instead of immediately blaming each other
• How ADHD creates misunderstandings around mess, chores and things that seem obvious to the other person
• Why “can you take the rubbish out?” can mean completely different things to two people
• Learning to focus less on whose fault something was and more on how to stop it happening again
• Why communication can be surprisingly exhausting
• How our own experiences affect the way we interpret other people — including the assumptions people make about our quad relationship
• Whether two people can interpret the same act of love completely differently

Today’s vlog is a mix of random life stuff and a couple of bigger conversations:

• Using Chai to annoy Peter
• What I’ve been learning about PR and public perception
• Why your intention isn’t necessarily how other people will interpret what you post
• How context changes whether something comes across as sexual or completely normal
• Making progress on Santai after the trademark problems and getting clearer on the brand direction
• Why understanding someone else’s perspective is often more productive than trying to prove them wrong
• Cultural differences between Peter and me, social expectations and some other random tangents

Today’s vlog is mostly us answering your questions and going down a few random rabbit holes:

• Why Peter doesn’t really enjoy hugs or physical affection in the same way I do

• What love actually means to Peter when the “honeymoon” feelings wear off

• Why Peter sometimes hangs back or looks left out when all four of us are filming

• The money, time and health dilemma — save everything for later or actually enjoy life while you’re young?

• Why buying a house doesn’t necessarily feel like the goal for us

• Whether younger generations are choosing experiences because things like home ownership feel increasingly out of reach

• Plus some random viewer questions, talking dogs, hate comments and how Peter and I somehow had the same crush in high school

What’s been on my mind today:

• What actually makes a relationship “good” — and why it doesn’t have to be perfect or argument-free
• Learning how to communicate, repair after conflict and grow together
• Why a long relationship isn’t necessarily a successful relationship
• Relationships, exes and why labels don’t always matter
• Rethinking how I’m approaching my clothing brand and our first drop
• Why making a good product matters more to me than trying to make money immediately
• Realising I’ve been rushing the process and wanting to slow down and actually enjoy creating Santai

Stayed in today to rest which was MUCH needed!