The Phoenix Frequencies

How many times did you get a wake-up call and ignore it? 
How often have you tried to change a habit or pattern in your life? Life can give us warning signs in relationships, social interactions, or physical health symptoms.
How often did you end up in the same situation, like marrying the same person only with a different birthday? 
The same job or team that you just left with great relief, only another company? 

What if you have to choose: it is life or death?  If you phoenix out and life is given, you can choose how to design it in a new frequency. 

There are frequencies that can be counterproductive to your chosen path: regret, shame or self-blame. 
Regret, shame or self-blame you didn't act before.  
Those frequencies will hold you back or even loop you into your past behaviour. 
It's up to you. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

On Valentine's Day, so many of us speak about love, and in a sincere or commercialized way, love has become a tricky thing. What if you are missing out on someone else's expression of love?  What if this day is full of expectations or disappointments?
What if you would receive a card with the words you say to yourself when you don't reach your own expectations? Would you receive that card with joy and love?
Many religions hijack Self-love as a sin. But love, expression and experience of love can become a source for a ceasefire within ourselves.
You don't need to approve all behaviour and actions of other people and yourself: you can always add love.
Happy Valentine's Day. 
If you want to read or hear more about love without adding an agenda to it, Nienke recommends her favourite resources: 
Love for no Reason  by Marci Shimoff and Being the Source of Love by Sheva Carr

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Brené Brown was interviewed by Lewis Howes. It made Nienke wonder, "Where have I been trying to fit in and compromising myself to feel accepted in a way I thought I belonged?"
With phoenix frequencies, she realized: I belong to me, and if I can feel, at any time, comfortable with that, I am free to be myself without any pressure.
Where do you compromise your true self to fit in? Where do you compromise yourself so you feel you belong to your family, friends or workspace, community or even country?
Do you dare to start with yourself? Don't put the key to your belongings into someone else's pocket.  You own it, yourself!

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Perfectionism, unrealistic expectations, emotional attachment, feelings of worry, anxiety or guilt might look as if you care about something or someone. The reality is different. It shows your óvercare. This podcast is also a tribute to Denis Campbell, who died in 2021. 'Show Me You Care' was his last book and source of inspiration for this podcast. How do YOU show you care? In care or overcare? It is up to you if you know the difference after this podcast. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

How we perceive our quality of life can be very different. It goes beyond the popular term mindset.  
No matter how small it seems to others, we can all add life to our days rather than adding days to our lives. Nienke's gran Emma became nearly 99 years old. Till the day she died, at least she tried to add value for herself and others by adding life qualities to her days. She had a healthy and empathic style of interest. Although her self-esteem wasn't high based on her own opinion, she shared: with a child's hand to guide where they don't dare, I can move mountains and rise above myself: being at service. Sincere listening to each other fueled her well-being.

How do you live your days?

If there comes a phoenix moment in your lifetime, it can be a start to redefining the qualities of your new life. The other option is adding day by day till your last day. What is your legacy, then? 

In the rat race of working life, we often forget we truly have a choice in how we design our days. If you come from a place where you don't listen to what you need to keep up your energy to sustain, you are just a concatenation of your days. 

If you take a pause and listen, what do you, really, want? What do you let be in the way to reach that? These are just some questions to contemplate.

Special thanks for the inspiration to dr Sander de Hosson, who is a real advocate for the quality of life of his patients even if there is no longer a cure possible. Care is what we all can add till the last breath.
You can read Nienke's book, My Life with Emma, Moving Mountains in Silence to read more about Emma. Kindle $1 on Amazon 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Surrendering to what seems 'circumstantial' isn't the same as giving up. If you allow yourself to let go of the mental occupation, it is just a pathway to grow yourself.
In this episode, Nienke shares how her trip to the other side of the world, against all odds, to be nurtured by a dear friend shifted her perspective. It is never the circumstance itself that seems like a blockage.  It is your attitude about it that can make the difference. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

 If you think just reading more and more materials or listening to more podcasts will bring you where you want to go, you might like learning. The tangible personal transformation is about doing and applying what you learned.  
And if nothing is shifting and you self-sabotage, look for the reason.
That's starting to look for Self-knowledge. Leave thinking a book only will make your inner shift, on the shelf. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

If you are sensitive to picking up what is happening around you, taking on the unpaid job of becoming the canary in the coal mine in human areas can become habitual. But what if the air is toxic? If you tumble over, you don’t get applause as the canary. In this podcast, Nienke shares how she added her Phoenix Frequency to shift from toxic to fresh breathing air and quit the job of being a sensor for other people's responsibilities. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Sophie grew up believing that she was a bad girl and no one could possibly love her!  She was very good at proving herself right and left a trail of moderate destruction behind her!  Very luckily, she met and married Steve, who caused her to start questioning this belief and ignited a curiosity in her about what was out there.  What was life really about?  Why were we here?  What was the way out of suffering apart from the obvious escapist strategies which she employed in the past?  Her quest led her down many interesting paths.  Her life was studded with grief and loss, but her understanding that she could somehow learn from these experiences led her to accept whatever experiences arose fully.  In this, we can create miracles.  In accepting the fire in her house as a blessing (in deep, deep disguise), that is what it became.

More about This bog life project. Corstown Bridge community Bog Project, near Ardee, Co Louth
Sophie Tebbitt on her personal Instagram page
Sophie on Facebook.
Louise Kay- Channeling or her podcast on Spotify
HeartAmbassador and HeartMastery coaching

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

A new beginning starts with the reality of transformation. It is an active process, not just a thought or desire for change in your world.
Change can be redone, flipped back to the old perspective. Transformation is irreversible. While you transformed, it is a point of no return, like a phoenix. 
The only thing to do is to surround yourself with the fitting frequencies by choice. No one can do this for you. The beginning of all transformation starts within yourself.  From there, you can step into your new bold reality you want to create and facilitate for the world. Starting with yourself, every day again.

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com