Why do so many new mums feel like they’ve lost themselves after having a baby? In this episode, we’re talking openly about identity loss in motherhood, postpartum identity loss, and why so many women experience a deep motherhood identity crisis after becoming a mum.

For many women, becoming a mother brings an unexpected loss of self after baby. You might find yourself asking, who am I after becoming a mum? or wondering why you feel disconnected, invisible, or lost in this season. This episode explores why new mum identity shifts so dramatically, and why losing yourself after having a baby is not a personal failure, but a normal part of matrescence.

We talk about how identity change after becoming a mother is closely linked to the loss of time, autonomy, and social connection. When women feel invisible as a mum, experience loneliness in motherhood, or struggle with the mental load and invisible labour of mothers, their sense of self can quietly erode. This is why so many women describe motherhood and sense of self as one of the hardest postpartum emotional changes.

In this conversation, we unpack:

• Why new mums feel lost
• Why motherhood can trigger an identity crisis
• How postpartum emotional changes affect confidence and self worth
• The connection between motherhood mental health, burnout, and identity
• Why becoming a mum creates an identity shift, not a failure
• How to begin reclaiming identity after baby without guilt

If you’re an overwhelmed new mum, feeling lonely in motherhood, navigating motherhood burnout, or trying to understand why you no longer recognise yourself, this episode is for you. This is an honest motherhood conversation about becoming a mum without losing yourself, and about finding yourself in motherhood again in a way that feels realistic and compassionate.

This episode is especially for women searching for support around postpartum identity loss, motherhood mental health, and the emotional reality of early motherhood. It’s part of a broader conversation about real mum life, honest motherhood, and creating space for women to feel seen during one of the biggest identity shifts of their lives.

Topics include identity loss in motherhood, postpartum identity loss, motherhood identity crisis, new mum identity, matrescence, loss of self after baby, motherhood burnout, invisible labour of mothers, mental load of motherhood, motherhood and sense of self, reclaiming identity after baby, finding yourself in motherhood, and navigating motherhood without losing yourself.

You are not broken.

You are becoming.

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Postpartum is not just about caring for a newborn. It is about caring for the woman who has just been reborn too. In this episode, I talk honestly about what postpartum women actually need from the people around them, and why good intentions are not always the same as real support.

I share why postpartum support should focus less on advice and more on practical help, emotional safety, and being truly seen. From feeding the mum and protecting her rest, to believing her experience and easing her mental load, this episode is for partners, friends, family members, and anyone who wants to show up better during the fourth trimester.

This episode is also a reminder that postpartum recovery does not end at six weeks. It is a season of becoming physically, emotionally, and in identity. How a woman is supported during this time can shape her wellbeing for years to come. If you are a new mum feeling unseen, or someone wanting to support a postpartum woman without getting it wrong, this episode is for you.

In this episode I cover:

• What postpartum women really need from friends and family
• Why “let me know if you need anything” often is not helpful
• How to support a new mum without giving unsolicited advice
• The importance of practical help during the fourth trimester
• Why postpartum recovery is longer than six weeks
• How partners, family, and friends can reduce the mental load
• Supporting maternal mental health with care instead of comparison

Who this episode is for?

• New mums in the postpartum period
• Partners supporting a postpartum woman
• Friends and family visiting after birth
• Anyone wanting to understand the fourth trimester
• People building a supportive village around new mothers

postpartum support, fourth trimester, postpartum recovery, supporting new mums, postpartum mental health, life after birth, new mum support, motherhood podcast, real motherhood, maternal wellbeing, postpartum care, village support, motherhood without filters

If this episode resonated, please share it with someone who is supporting a postpartum woman. And if you are in this season yourself, you are not weak, behind, or failing. You are becoming.

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In this episode, I dive into highlight culture on social media and how it affects mums, women, and modern motherhood. From the early days of Facebook and Instagram to influencer culture and algorithm-driven perfection, I explore where highlight culture started, why it became so powerful, and how it shapes the way mums see themselves online.

I unpack the emotional impact of constantly comparing our real, messy motherhood to curated highlight reels, and why scrolling perfect homes, happy families, and “doing-it-all” mums can quietly lead to mum guilt, comparison, burnout, and self-doubt. This episode breaks down the truth behind social media perfection and reminds you that what you see online is never the full story.

Most importantly, this conversation offers practical mindset shifts to help mums protect their mental health while using social media, including learning to treat highlight reels as inspiration, not instruction, and letting go of the pressure to live up to unrealistic standards of motherhood.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing as a mum because your life doesn’t look good on Instagram, this episode is your reminder that real motherhood isn’t aesthetic. It’s honest, imperfect, and deeply valuable.

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What does it really mean to put your life vest on first as a woman and why does it feel so uncomfortable to do?

In this episode, we go beyond the overused self-care clichés and unpack the deeper truth: women are conditioned to self-abandon in the name of harmony, care, and love. Long before motherhood, many women are taught to absorb emotional labour, smooth things over, and prioritise everyone else, often at the cost of their own intuition, autonomy, and identity.

We explore:

Why women are socialised to be the emotional shock absorbers

How chronic depletion disconnects women from their intuition

Why exhaustion quietly limits choice and keeps women stuck

What it actually means to put your life vest on first, without guilt

This conversation isn’t about bubble baths or productivity.

It’s about self-trust, agency, and refusing to disappear.

If you’ve ever felt burned out, lost, resentful, or unsure of what you even want anymore — this episode will put language to something you’ve felt but maybe couldn’t explain.

✨ Putting your life vest on first isn’t selfish. It’s how women stay connected to themselves.

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On this episode I talk about the 3 things mums get judged for!

Mums are judged for parenting choices, do I breastfeed? Do I formula feed? Do I go back to work as soon as I have a baby? Can I afford time off work to spend with my baby? Do we do carrier naps? Are dummies ok? All the this we have to consider with great difficulty.

Mums are judged for thier lifestyle choices? Career? SAHM? Spend too much? spend too little? Dress nice? How can I dress nice as a mum? How can I take some time for myself as a mum? What is the home like? how to the children behave? What school are they going to? how many extra curricular activities is enough? how many is too many ..... GASP

There are more people in this world who will always have something to say!!! they just dont know how to stay in thier lane!

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In this episode, we unpack what people really mean when they say “it takes a village” and why so many mums today feel like they’re parenting without one.

A village isn’t just extra hands or babysitters. It’s a way of living and raising children that centres shared responsibility, collective wisdom, emotional support, and belonging.

Today, mums are often expected to do it all: recover physically, regulate emotionally, parent intentionally, contribute financially, and somehow still feel grateful... largely on their own. This isolation isn’t a personal failure; it’s a structural one.

This episode dives into:

• Why village-style wisdom exists (and why it’s often missing now)
• How knowledge used to be shared through lived experience, not perfection
• Why collective support benefits everyone, not just mums

Most importantly, we talk about how we can rebuild elements of the village in modern life by intentionally creating connection, shared care, and honest conversation now.

Because mums don’t need to be stronger.

This episode is a reminder that motherhood was never meant to be done alone...and that craving a village doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

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In this episode, I open up about why I created this podcast in the first place: to be what I desperately needed as a new mum. I wanted a space where the messy, uncomfortable, overwhelming parts of motherhood were spoken about honestly, so that any mum feeling lost, chaotic, or “not enough” would know it’s not her, it’s the season she’s in.

I talk about the damage of highlight-reel culture, especially in postpartum. Seeing influencers bounce back with abs at six weeks made me believe I should be able to do the same, without understanding the reality of having a baby in my arms 24/7, a mind in turmoil, a house in chaos, and zero capacity for self-care.

So is relatable mum content the answer? Or are we creating new and lower standards for women?

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On this episode we go there! I break down why we compare who has it harder and we take a deeper dive into who really has it harder, stay at home mums, working mums or the WFH mum! I wonder who will end up winning this comp!

Why do we feel the need to compare? Why do we want to show who is struggling more? is it to show who really has it harder? Or is it to satisfy our own need for validation. Was it really that hard for us? Or were we the ones who just couldn't cope as well as others?

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In this story-time episode of The Pooch, I share my journey to becoming a mum... twice.

Inspired by becoming a “cunty” (cousin-aunty) to twin nephews and by watching my cousin step into motherhood with such strength I thought I would ask the big question: How did you know you wanted to have a baby?

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