In this episode, we're talking all about approval-seeking—aka: why we do it, how it shows up in our lives, and why it hurts our self-worth.

So many of us are constantly looking for validation from other people to feel okay about ourselves. And I get it, because I’ve been there too—saying yes when I wanted to say no, apologizing for things that didn’t need an apology, or even stressing over something as simple as what nail color to choose because I was worried someone might disapprove.

In this episode, we talk where this approval-seeking really comes from,  why it chips away at our self-worth, and what to do about it! Because here’s the thing: approval-seeking isn’t who you are. It’s a habit you learned. Which means you can unlearn it.

Questions:

Where in my life do I notice myself trying to earn approval or validation? (What does approval-seeking look like for me at work… in my family… in my relationships… on social media… in my appearance…)

What situations trigger my need to be liked or accepted?

Whose approval do I crave the most? Why?

How do I feel in my body when I’m seeking approval and when I’ve done what others want me to do? 

In this empowering episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most common, sneaky self-worth killers: settling for less than you deserve.

We unpack:

• What settling actually looks like in real life (it’s sneakier than you think!)
• Why women are conditioned to accept “fine” instead of asking for more
• How settling erodes our self-worth over time
• 3 powerful exercises to help you stop settling and start standing in your value:

Prior Episodes Mentioned: 

Episode 264

Episode 266

Welcome to the first episode in a brand new multi-part series on self-worth!

In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that so many of us (especially women) struggle with: over-apologizing. Maybe you've said “sorry” for being busy, for setting a boundary, or just for existing—and if you’ve ever caught yourself shrinking to make others more comfortable, this one’s for you.

This episode builds on a self-worth journaling exercise from episode #246 so be sure to check that out if you haven’t yet! 

In this episode, I’m sharing all the real-time reflections from completing a 21-day poetry challenge with BookLeaf Publishing—a surprisingly powerful (and affordable!) experience that reminded me just how much small, consistent action can shift everything. From reigniting my creativity after burnout to reframing how I see my writing time as sacred, this challenge became so much more than publishing a book—it became a deep reminder of my worth, my voice, and my identity beyond productivity. Whether you’re a writer, a dreamer, or a woman in need of a reset, this episode will inspire you to start your own 21-day journey—whatever that may look like.

In this raw and empowering episode, I dive deep into a recent therapy breakthrough that made me realize something surprising: even after all my work on boundaries and people-pleasing, there’s still a part of me that questions whether I deserve to protect my time—especially for writing.

This conversation unpacks the difference between knowing what self-worth is and actually believing it. I share why our culture makes self-worth so hard to root in, how high-achieving women are especially vulnerable to tying their value to productivity, and a powerful question that can help anchor you back into your truth.

You’ll also hear the 3 things I deeply value about myself that have nothing to do with being helpful, productive, or perfect—and why identifying your own list could be the most freeing thing you do this week.

In this episode, I share a funny story from my own therapy, which opened the door for me-- and now you-- to think more in depth about boundaries and why they're so hard to set and uphold, especially for good girl people pleasers!

Have you ever looked around at your life and realized… you disappeared somewhere along the way? Me too, girl. In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to come back to yourself—especially after a long season of overgiving, overfunctioning, people-pleasing, or just surviving. Whether you’ve been chasing productivity, hiding behind perfectionism, or pouring from an empty cup, this is your invitation to return to yourself because you deserve it! 

Buckle up, girl! Today, we're chatting about navigating a stressful, overwhelming, anxiety-inducing season of life... instead of constantly focusing on all that negativity, we need to challenge ourselves to hold space for our struggle and our hope. You don’t have to fake positivity, but you can choose to let in the light. Even in the middle of chaos, goodness is still there—you just have to be willing to look for it. 

Turning 35 is a major milestone filled with powerful realizations! In this episode, we explore the top lessons women often learn by this age, according to ChatGPT! I, of course, chime in and give my 100% human reactions to these lessons, offering interpretation and my two cents! 

After a much-needed hiatus, I’m back—and so much has happened. In this episode, I’m catching you up on life lately, including one of the biggest updates: we bought a house!  I’m sharing what that process was really like, how it’s felt to balance excitement and overwhelm, and the unexpected life lessons that have come with owning a home. If you’re in a season of transition, growth, or just trying to keep your head above water, this one’s for you.