The Purpose Circle

By Adaora Lumina MbeluEducation Self-Improvement

The Purpose Circle episodes

October 04, 2020Get Out Of That Box | Jimmy "PJ" Odukoya | EP 33
In this episode of the #SwitchOnPodcast, I speak with Jimmy Odukoya aka Pastor J who is the Son of Pastor Taiwo and Late Pastor Mrs. Bimbo Odukoya. A Pastor, Singer, Rapper, Dancer, Model, Actor, Image consultant (Style & Image) Conference Speaker, Poet, and Businessman, this Renaissance man does it all.
PJ and I talk about his journey as a multipotentialite, and the lessons he has learned so far. We also discussed the importance of being comfortable with who you have been called to be versus fitting into expectations or narrative others may have of you.
Show Note:
[1:32] PJ talks about growing up, academics, and creative expressions

[3:47] PJ's journey into music making as side gig

[8:09] Your talents are God's gift to you and what you do with them is your gift to God

[9:40] If you decide that you are going to do A, B, C you got to do it excellently well

[13:19] You have to multitask but you have to be focused else it will all suffer

[36:15] You can have passion, but you need to have talent and you need to bring value

[49:12] We talked about old music genre and its ability to take you on an emotional journey

[52:16] PJ talks about his fitness journey and the lessons like, discipline, resilience, consistency etc he has learned so far
1 hr 5 min
September 24, 2020Introspecting and Looking Inwards | EP 32
Becoming a better person isn’t always about learning new things; sometimes it’s about stripping yourself of layers and unlearning internalized beliefs and mindsets. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as Tolu and I speak about our stories and experiences. We also share practical tips and benefits of introspecting, looking inwards, and unlearning.
Show Note:
[2:10] Some people are afraid to look inwards because they’re worried about what they’re going to find, and live in denial, not acknowledging their flaws.

[3:00] Tolu shares his experience about a recent flaw he discovered about himself, and how he handled it.

[4:50] Adaora shares her experiences about how she has been introspective and what she has learned about herself from her history.

[8:44] Adaora speaks about her many experiences with unlearning beliefs and mindsets.

[11:42] Tips on how to introspect, look within and unlearn behaviors and beliefs, especially as we live in a fast-paced world these days.

[14:05] Benefits of introspection and looking within.
22 min
September 23, 2020How to Handle Co-Parenting | EP 31
When you go through a separation or divorce, they tell you in the court to make your child the primary focus in decision making. I also said this in my video about handling divorce. However, it’s really hard to raise a healthy child, if either parent is unhealthy. There’s so much pressure on the parent that’s the primary caregiver - insane pressure to always be on “best behaviour”.
So today, if you’re a co-parent that is watching this, I’m going to share 8 ways you can help the parent who is the primary caregiver.
Show Note:
[0:45] How to get rid of the assumption that you can take care of your child(ren) better than the co-parent who is the primary caregiver.

[2:12] How to manage financial contributions as a co-parent.

[3:52] How to manoeuvre communication with your child(ren) about the co-parent.

[5:26] Solving challenges concerning your child(ren) with your co-parent without caring who gets the credit.

[6:59] Navigating the mistakes of your co-parent.

[8:23] Managing the expectations you have of your co-parent.

[9:47] How to be considerate towards your co-parent.

[11:42] How to respect boundaries and manage communication with your co-parent.
16 min
September 21, 2020Social Media and Anxiety | EP 30
Many studies show the link between social media use and different mental health challenges we go through as humans. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as Tolu and I share our individual stories about social media-induced anxiety and tips on how to deal with it.
Show Notes:
[3:40] Adaora shares her personal experience with social media anxiety, particularly as a content creator.

[4:22] How to manage relationships and communication with other social media users.

[8:31] What to do when your content and posts do not go as viral and popular as you expected.

[10:05] Protecting your mental health and space, and creating healthy boundaries on social media.

[13:27] How social media amplifies your insecurities and anxiety, and how to deal with online bullying vs constructive criticism.

[24:42] Adaora and Tolu share practical tips on how they’ve gotten over their social media anxiety.
35 min
September 18, 2020Denola Grey: Confidence Is A Journey | EP 29
On this episode of the #SwitchOnPodcast, I speak with Denola Grey - a Nigerian-born, multimedia freelancer, with a successful career in Acting, Fashion Consultancy, on-air presenting and digital content creation.
Denola and I talk about mindfulness, forgiveness, building confidence, vulnerability, and kindness.
Show Notes
[5:47] Mindfulness lies in unlearning a lot of the things that we've learnt over time and learning who you are outside the trauma of growing up.

[8:52] Over time, I’ve learnt that my sensitivity is not a weakness, and living in a country like Nigeria, I’m learning how to not take things personally.

[16:50] Dealing with Impostor Syndrome, I’ve learnt that confidence is a journey.

[18:42] “Every single time I’ve been through a serious meltdown, what comes after it is a newer, improved, more fearless version for me.”

[23:40] “Manifestation is not about an end goal; it’s about inviting the feeling that you think that end goal is going to give you into the present

[40:04] “I don’t think locally anymore, the world is so small now, with everything digitized. I think globally now.”

[42:03] Denola shares his favourite mantra

[43:17] Denola discusses how looking good influences his feelings, actions and life.

[43:25] “Your inner reality reflects your outside world
48 min
September 18, 2020How to Stop Feeling Drained | EP 28
Are you continuously using phrases like I am exhausted, I am tired, I'm drained while there are many reasons why you may be feeling drained it may be excessive work, a tough relationship, the lethargy that comes with poor health it could be anything to be honest, not being yourself can be an underrated cause of exhaustion.
In this episode, I share some tips you can put to practice to help you be more excited, pumped and joyfully about life.
Show Note
[1:13] Be honest about your feelings and desires with people and situations.

[2:25] Let go of judgement; people judging you, and you judging others.

[3:47] Understand and communicate your values, to stop feeling triggered.

[5:16] Create a support system for your mental health that works for you.

[6:24] Your intuition is like seeing with your soul, everything doesn’t have to be black or white.

[8:00] Allow yourself evolve, unlearn and grow, and communicating these changes to your friends.

[10:39] Let go of your self-righteousness and unhealthy expectations you have for yourself
14 min
September 05, 2020Letting Go of Friendships | EP 27
In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora Tolu and I speak about how beautiful friendships are. How our friends make life better, support us in good and bad times and vastly improve the quality of our lives.
However, when friendships go sour or become toxic, they could be damaging.
Show Notes
[1:34] No, you’re not overthinking it: it’s possible for your friend to be a good person, but the friendship toxic to you and to the person.

[2:09] How to handle one-sided friendships where the efforts are largely unreciprocated.

[3:56] How to identify if you’re compatible with your friends; when there is no compatibility, it spirals into greater issues and arguments.

[4:42] Outgrowing friendships in certain phases of your life.

[6:38] Having tough conversations with friends and knowing when to let go momentarily for the person to evolve and grow out of their issues.

[14:10] The various levels of friendships: Acquaintances vs inner circle friends.
21 min
September 02, 2020Do What Makes You Happy | EP 26
“Do whatever makes you happy”, “life is too short”, “you only live once! #YOLO”.
As exciting and fulfilling as all these sound, sometimes doing what makes you happy isn’t always as transparent as it seems.
In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu and I have a conversation about the Idea of doing whatever makes you happy in the light that happiness is very relative.
We talk about how these choices affect the different areas of life including Health, Relationship, Career etc.
Show Notes:
[3:46] Happiness in your Health, Career and Business: eating junk food just because it makes you happy doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Do what you know is right as opposed to doing what makes you happy. Simply, do what will make you happy in the long-run.

[8:07] Practicing self-awareness, and asking yourself, “why is this making me happy? Is there something I’m not seeing?”

[11:26] Prioritizing short-term happiness over long-term rewards: just because it’s tough doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Do what you need to do so you can do what you want to do.

[13:40] Stooping to conquer; the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, sometimes you have to be patient; time is a great storyteller.

[15:14] On Relationships: doing what makes you happy shouldn’t be at the expense of someone else.

[15:56] Happiness is infinite and not tied to a particular thing.

[21:38] Question whatever makes you happy.
23 min
August 30, 2020Tobi Bakre: Growth Is A Process | EP 25
In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, I speak with Tobi Bakre - Actor, Model, Host, Compere, Artist, and Photographer. We discuss everything from Multipotentiality to Character Building, Setting Boundaries, Learning & Growth.
SHOW NOTES
[4:30] Tobi, 2018 Big Brother Nigeria Housemate, speaks about his game plan going into the show.

[7:00] “One of the life lessons I’ve learnt is that sometimes, I don’t have the answers: I look for people with bigger minds whose judgements I can trust. That was my strategy before entering the house.”

[15:46] “I’m in a space where I’m thinking about having a family… My goals for the next 3, 4 years are outlined; I want to have my own thing”

[20:31] “After coming out of the house, I started exploring different things, and a lot of people warned me to focus, master and be known for one thing… I decided I was going to risk it and explore many things because I felt alive doing that”

[31:47] “Looking back to where I came from if I had remained where I was, the best that would have happened - which would have been magical, would be getting promoted in two years as a Banker. I’d choose my present life over again.”

[43:47] “One mantra I live by is to always be good to people; being good has a domino effect.”

[45:00] “I’ve shown up at engagements thinking “I’ve got this, I don’t need to prepare or rehearse”, and then I’d show up and get burnt. I’ve learnt to always do my homework across acting, hosting and everything else I do.”

[52:27] Tobi shares his third tip for productivity; #ChopLifeGang and how he unwinds, relaxes to get back to work stronger and better.
Watch Episode HERE:
59 min
August 28, 2020Let's talk about the Status Quo | EP 24
In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu and I dissect the Status Quo and how limiting, old-fashioned and self-contradictory it can be across social, cultural and religious cultures.
Show Note:
[4:45] We begin by talking about a documentary, featuring a prison in Germany where every day, they attempt to rehabilitate the prisoners to make them a better version of themselves.

[8:03] The Social Status Quo: Concepts like “If you are friends with someone, you naturally should be friends with their friends or else you’re seen as Snobbish.”

[14:56] The Relationship Status Quo: The socio-cultural pressure that comes with timings and gender roles.

[24:25] The Religious Status Quo: The place of worship you are expected to attend and religious observations.

[31:28] The Finance, Founder and Business Status Quo.
45 min

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Welcome to The Purpose Circle, a podcast dedicated to exploring how to live more authentically in this world. Hosted by Adaora Lumina Mbelu—a Bright Light, Chief Storyteller, and Purpose Driver—this…

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