What happens when the “money talk” in marriage goes sideways—like, full-on flop-to-the-floor dramatic? In this candid and often hilarious episode, your favorite husband-wife duo unpacks the deep emotional layers tied to money in relationships. From childhood money stories to budgeting meltdowns (yes, there was floor-throwing), they get real about how financial conversations became less contentious and more connective over the years.

This isn’t a budget spreadsheet how-to—this is the emotional psychology of how couples navigate money, power, autonomy, and values. You’ll hear about their first budgeting disaster, secret spending (ahem, Kohl's card), revenge buying, and ultimately how they found peace through shared vision, regular money dates, and understanding each other’s financial triggers.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why 57% of divorces link back to money—and what you can do to avoid becoming that stat
• How to identify and reframe your childhood money stories
• The difference between budgeting for control vs. budgeting for connection
• What “revenge spending” looks like and why it’s more common than you think
• How to use “green light, yellow light, red light” decisions to prevent resentment
• How to start having safe, emotionally intelligent money talks with your partner

Key Takeaways:

Money isn’t just about dollars—it's about emotional safety and autonomy

Consistent, low-stress money check-ins can be intimacy-building

Sharing a financial vision helps couples stop fighting and start dreaming

Timestamps:

00:01 – Why money is the #2 reason for divorce

03:00 – The first budgeting fight (feat. a dramatic floor dive)

10:00 – How childhood shaped their views on money and control

16:30 – Spending vs. saving vs. shared vision

25:00 – Secret spending, autonomy, and “beauty budgets”

34:00 – Revenge spending (and how they caught themselves)

39:00 – Using the green-yellow-red light system for decisions

44:00 – How they made budgeting fun with sushi and values alignment

49:00 – This week’s Happy Well Homework challenge

Thanks for listening! Reminder: there are still tickets available for the Breakthrough Live Summit happening this Friday, May 16th. Kristen and Scott will guide participants through exercises designed to create breakthrough, clarity, and forward momentum. Find out more and grab your ticket here.

In this raw and candid behind-the-scenes episode, Kristen and Scott peel back the curtain on what it’s really like to start something new — together. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, changing careers, or simply stepping into a new life chapter, this conversation is for you.

They dive into the high hopes, uncertainties, and unexpected lessons that come when you're building from scratch — all while doing life alongside your spouse. With very little prep and a whole lot of heart, they share stories about startup challenges, unexpected arguments (like co-working chaos and company names!), imposter syndrome, hiring a team, and staying grounded when the doubts creep in.

This episode will inspire you to embrace uncertainty, trust the messy middle, and stay true to yourself even when reinvention feels scary.

• Why uncertainty is a sign you're growing, not failing
• The surprising emotional work behind launching a startup
• How working with your spouse can be hilarious (and humbling)
• What to do when imposter syndrome tries to sabotage your momentum
• The power of redefining success and setting new "life metrics"
• How they are intentionally building a mission-driven company without burning out

• Both excitement and doubt are normal when stepping into the unknown. Growth always brings resistance.
• Building a company (or a new chapter) is more about intentionality and less about hustle.
• You don't have to be an "expert" — sharing your experience with authenticity can be even more powerful.
• Protect your energy by honoring your current season and capacity.
• Moving from "me" to "we" thinking can transform how you experience change and leadership.

• 00:00 — Intro: Taking Big Leaps and Asking, "What Did I Just Sign Up For?"
• 01:30 — The Reality of Starting Over (With Your Spouse)
• 04:00 — Startup Expectations vs. Reality
• 06:50 — Our Funniest Fights While Building Together
• 12:30 — The "Uh-Oh" Moment That Made It Real
• 17:30 — How This New Venture Changed Us Personally
• 24:00 — Lessons on Unlearning Hyper-Independence
• 30:00 — Feeling Like Imposters — And What Helped Us Through It
• 40:00 — Life Is Always Life-ing: How to Keep Building Anyway
• 48:00 — Holding Both Excitement and Terror
• 55:00 — How We Support Each Other When One of Us Spirals

If you're navigating a new beginning right now or looking to get inspired in your current season of life, Kristen and Scott would like to invite you to join their upcoming Breakthrough Live Summit. While the in-person event is sold out, virtual tickets are available for the May 16th intensive, where they'll guide participants through exercises designed to create breakthrough, clarity, and forward momentum. Find out more and grab your ticket here.

Did you know millennials are experiencing midlife crises between 30-45, much earlier than previous generations? In this illuminating episode, Scott and Kristen reframe what we've been calling a "crisis" and reveal why it might actually be your greatest opportunity for growth.

What you'll discover:

• Why the traditional view of midlife crisis (sports cars and impulsive decisions) misses the deeper transformation happening
• Carl Jung's powerful concept of the "two halves of life" and what each half is truly about
• The difference between building your container (first half) and filling it with meaning (second half)
• What happens when you cling to your first-half metrics while your soul is crying out for second-half depth
• Two profound questions to help you navigate this transition with intention instead of panic

"Midlife is not about you going crazy. It's about you waking up to yourself and realizing what actually matters." - Kristen

Tune in to discover how shifting from "crisis" to "breakthrough" can transform this challenging transition into the most meaningful chapter of your life.

Share this episode with anyone wondering "is this it?" or contemplating a major life change without understanding the deeper shift happening underneath.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Your calendar is packed. You're constantly checking items off your to-do list. So why does it feel like you're not getting anywhere? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen reveal how busyness has become our newest form of procrastination.

What you'll discover:

• The shocking Harvard Business Review stat about how much time we waste on tasks that don't contribute to our long-term goals
• Why being "productive" doesn't necessarily mean being "effective" (and how to tell the difference)
• How staying busy can actually be a clever form of avoidance and emotional numbing
• The uncomfortable truth behind the statement: "Anyone can pretend to be busy, but you can't pretend to be effective"
• Four revealing questions to determine if you're trapped in motion without progress

"Being effective isn't about doing more. It's about doing what matters." - Scott

Tune in to break free from the cycle of constant motion and learn how to create meaningful progress in your life and work.

This episode is for every busy professional, entrepreneur, and caregiver who's ever wondered why all their effort isn't translating to the results they want.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Struggling to stick with your goals? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen challenge the common belief that all you need is motivation and willpower to create lasting change in your life.

What you'll discover:

• The surprising reason 92% of New Year's resolutions fail by February
• Why willpower is like a muscle that fatigues (and what that means for your goals)
• The powerful truth behind James Clear's quote: "You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems"
• How your environment might be secretly sabotaging your best intentions
• Simple strategies to build habits that stick even when motivation vanishes

"Motivation might get you going, but systems will keep you growing." - Scott

Tune in to discover why those bursts of inspiration keep fizzling out and learn the practical framework that actually creates lasting change in your life.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Feel constantly drained but can't figure out why? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen dive into "the invisible load" – the unseen mental and emotional labor that's silently draining your energy.

What you'll discover:

• The shocking truth about how much time the average woman spends on invisible labor each year
• Why your brain is like a computer with too many tabs open (and how to close them)
• The hidden reason behind relationship strain that often leads to "silent quitting" in marriages
• How different generations experience unique invisible burdens (especially the "sandwich generation")
• Practical strategies to lighten your mental load without dropping important responsibilities

"The invisible load is the constant internal chatter and noise of running your day-to-day life... and I believe that is where a lot of strain, stress, burnout, and exhaustion really comes from." - Kristen

Tune in to understand why you're so tired, learn to communicate your needs, and discover how to create systems that support rather than overwhelm you.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell! Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com.

Ever wonder why you reach for the cookies when you're on a diet? Or why you scroll through social media instead of tackling that important project? In this episode, Scott and Kristen reveal the surprising truth about self-sabotage: it's not what you think.

What you'll discover:

• Why self-sabotage is actually your brain's way of protecting you
• The real reason you avoid certain tasks (hint: it's not the task itself)
• How your "frustration tolerance" might be the key to unlocking your success
• Scott's eye-opening physical therapy moment that changed everything
• Four practical tools to break free from self-defeating patterns

"It's not your fault that you self-sabotage, but it is your responsibility to do something about it." - Kristen

Tune in to transform your relationship with change and finally stop getting in your own way.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell! Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

What if the secret to happiness isn't the bigger house, higher salary, or more Instagram followers? In this illuminating episode, Scott and Kristen dive into Harvard's groundbreaking 75-year happiness study that challenges everything we've been taught about success and fulfillment.

What you'll discover:

• The "Emerald City Illusion" that keeps us chasing the wrong things
• Five surprising factors that actually determine your happiness (backed by science!)
• The shocking truth about loneliness (it's as bad for your health as what?)
• Scott and Kristen's personal "rude awakening" after achieving conventional success
• One simple action you can take today to boost your well-being

"Your money doesn't get you through hard times. I believe your people do." - Scott

Tune in to discover what truly creates a happy, well-lived life — and why it might be simpler than you think.

Don't wait for a crisis to build community. As Kristen warns: "The next time you think about canceling those plans because you're too tired, cool. Then grab 15 cigarettes, because that's what you just did."

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In this debut episode of The Pursuit of Happy Well, hosts Scott and Kristen introduce themselves and their vision for the show. After building a successful business that generated over $20 million in sales and served 8,000 students, they realized they needed to pivot toward something more aligned with what truly lit them up - helping people create fulfilled, balanced lives beyond just business success.

• Our Story: Scott and Kristen share their journey as entrepreneurs, coaches, and a married couple of 13 years living in Colorado with their two kids and two dogs.
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• Why We Pivoted: Though they built a successful business teaching entrepreneurship, they discovered their greatest impact came from helping people transform their entire lives, not just their businesses.
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• The Birth of Happy Well: Inspired by Harvard's 75-year Grant Study on human happiness (the longest-running study on happiness), Scott and Kristen introduce the concept of being "happy well" - both fulfilled in life and physically healthy.
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• Our Mission: The hosts explain how they aim to disrupt the personal development industry by moving beyond mere consumption of content to actual implementation that creates transformation.
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• What to Expect: Each episode will feature meaningful conversations about navigating life well, interviews with people who are living according to their own success metrics, and practical discussions of life's big questions backed by research and statistics.
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• Our Promise: Unlike traditional personal development content that often leaves you unchanged, The Pursuit of Happy Well is designed to help you take action, redefine your metrics for a well-lived life, and resist the "propaganda machine" of marketing that constantly tells you that you need more to be happy.
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Join us on this journey of discovering what truly matters in creating a happy, well-lived life tailored to your unique values and goals. We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

The secret is out! Kristen and Scott Boss are partnering up for a brand new podcast, "The Pursuit of Happywell." New episodes will be dropping every Monday (episode 1 is coming to you on March 17, 2025!). Come get your weekly Monday Mindset Drop with Kristen and Scott and be sure to join our podcast community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/pursuitofhappywell