The Queerpreneur Podcast

Simply put straight privilege is a bunch of unearned benefits that heterosexual people get that people with other sexualities don’t get. Straight Privilege is a topic I’ve wanted to talk about for a while. The inequality that exists for LGBTQ+ people that often people don’t see or fully appreciate. And I’m not talking solely about straight, heterosexual people here either. I think that sometimes as gay, bi, trans and queer people we may not fully see the inequality and discrimination that exists against us it’s so ingrained in our societal, cultural and religious structures.

If you’re LGBTQ+ and listening to this I urge you to look at what you are accepting because of your sexuality or because of your gender identity. Are you accepting less than? Are you accepting being thought of as not having an equally meaningful and important relationship with your same sex partner for example, or that you’re not accurately represented in tv, films, media, marketing and advertising? When you start to become fully aware of these things that maybe you accepted for a long time (consciously or subconsciously) you can start to connect with the real impact and potential correlation with your feelings of less than, unworthiness and ‘not as valued or seen as straight people….I’d love to know if this resonates with you so as always drop me a DM @sarahtaylorcoaching on Instagram or facebook or email me at [email protected] with any thoughts.

Straight privilege reinforces the differences between heterosexual and other sexualities and the fact that straight is seen as superior in some way. And just as so many of us learned from the recent amplification of the black lives matter movement, when you are straight it’s so easy not to see your privilege. You don’t think about it because well, why would you. You are benefiting from it. I want to make it clear that my intention here is to give you some food for thought, to give you an idea of the unearned benefits you have that LGBTQ+ people don’t. So that you can consider them. So that you can deepen your understanding and build closer connections and community between LGBTQ+ people and our straight allies. Together we can really make a difference, in our daily interactions, being curious about why things are the way they are if they disadvantage people from minority groups and standing for equality by the choices we make and the conversations we have. 

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Something I speak to a lot of women about is questioning or exploring their sexuality. That time when you're working out whether you are are gay or bi or pan or something else that isn’t straight. In this podcast episode I talk about what it feels like to be questioning and how you can get comfortable and clear about where you're at with your sexuality at any given time. And this is so important because I talk to women who are stuck in this questioning phase and trying to work it out and feeling anxious and uncertain and it’s really holding them back and taking up a lot of their precious headspace and energy. I share my own experience of when I was questioning my sexuality and I give you 4 actions you can take to help you navigate these thoughts and feelings in a way that feels empowered instead of stress and anxiety provoking. 

What I don't do in this podcast episode is tell you what your sexuality is or tell you that you must come out, or tell someone, or experiment with your sexuality. These are all things you might decide for yourself but I’m not the one to tell you what you should do. What I will do is give you some powerful food for thought as to how you can support yourself to understand the truth about what your sexuality is and to feel good about who you are and who you love. And do let me know what you thought of this episode by messaging me over on instagram, facebook or linked in - or you can email me, I'd love to hear from you! If you enjoy the episode, please be sure to take a screenshot and share it out on Instagram and tag me @sarahtaylorcoaching and I’ll be sure to share your comments and big takeaways on my Instagram Stories as well.

Also, please make sure to give the podcast a review on iTunes (or Google Play, Stitcher, Android, TuneIn, Spotify).

Links from the show:
FREEBIE Embrace Your Sexuality & Empower Your Life: https://thequeerpreneur.lpages.co/3stepsystem/
Resource page on my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/resources

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Boy oh boy this is a big topic and one that has been a big part of my own personal development journey as well as the work I do with my clients. In this episode I highlight some of the main reasons LGBTQ+ people feel shame, discomfort or embarrassment about their sexual orientation. And especially if this is you, I'm sharing four practices, tools and techniques that will help you heal and recover from this shame you've probably been carrying around with you for a very long time! I dig into two of the key theories that are talked about and commonly cited by researchers, therapists and academics - compulsory heterosexuality and internalised homophobia and how these have shaped my life and influenced how I feel about being gay.

Here's a quick snap-shot of the four healing practices I share with you in this episode:

• Acknowledge and accept that you feel shame, hurt or discomfort about being gay - we can't change what we cannot see.
• Connect with other LGBTQ+ people - share stories, hear about others experiences and get support from each other.
• Explore and enjoy LGBTQ+ arts and culture - you are part of this incredible creative and wonderful culture. 
• Remember that gay, bi and queer love is as natural and worthy and valid and equal as all other love.

And do let me know what you thought of this episode by messaging me over on instagram, facebook or linked in - or you can email me, I'd love to hear from you! If you enjoy the episode, please be sure to take a screenshot and share it out on Instagram and tag me @sarahtaylorcoaching and I’ll be sure to share your comments and big takeaways on my Instagram Stories as well.

Also, please make sure to give the podcast a review on iTunes (or Google Play, Stitcher, Android, TuneIn, Spotify).

Links from the show:
FREEBIE Embrace Your Sexuality & Empower Your Life: https://thequeerpreneur.lpages.co/3stepsystem/
Resource page on my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/resources

Say hi to me on social:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyg_uY9vxRjlvsANw-iUjvQ?view_as=subscriber

I'm talking to Deb Pasley, co-founder of the Midlife Hub, which brings together trusted services, therapists, events and experiences all aimed at making midlife a positive and empowering time of our lives. Like me, Deb left behind a very successful corporate career to do something more meaningful and make a bigger impact in the world. We talk about the benefits of having a corporate background (even though the desire is often to "leave it all behind" because you're so glad to be free of it!) Deb shares her story of how she and Rosi (her business partner) developed their passion into a business idea and a successful enterprise to help people struggling with all that midlife brings from menopause and a renewed focus on wellbeing to career change or deciding that you want to do something entirely different with your life! The associations with midlife are often negative - The Midlife Hub is all about changing that common perception. We discuss the challenges and lessons along the way of building a robust business case strategy and plan, testing your ideas with your client market, overcoming perfectionism and how much there really is to learn when you move from a corporate career to running your own business! So many pearls of wisdom and lessons to share in this episode and if you're a woman in midlife thinking about starting a business - do it, do it, do it!
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Links from the show: Brene Brown https://brenebrown.com/
Simon Sinek https://simonsinek.com/
Chris Do https://thefutur.com/team/chris-do
Find out more about the Midlife Hub:
Website https://themidlifehub.com/about-the-midlife-hub/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themidlifehub/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/themidlifehub
Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/company/themidlifehub/
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"I have written 11 books, but each time I think, 'Uh oh, they're going to find out now. I've run a game on everybody, and they're going to find me out.'" - Maya Angelou. Now I know that you are struggling with imposter syndrome or you have in the past because, well, we all do...including Michelle Obama, Robbie Williams and Maya Angelou! If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, lack of confidence, feeling like a fraud, self-doubt or negative self-talk then you've experienced imposter syndrome. The good news is that I can help you manage and overcome imposter syndrome with five powerful action steps you can start taking straight away today. A lot of people have written and spoken about imposter syndrome because it is so prevalent! The Harvard Business Review defines imposter syndrome as "a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. Imposters suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence."

Here's a quick snap-shot of the five action steps I share with you in this episode:

• If you're feeling it you're learning and growing - it's not necessarily all bad!
• Connect with your heart-led purpose - it ALWAYS trumps self-doubt and negative self-talk!
• Check-in with what is really true - are these feelings true or are they old outdated beliefs that no longer serve you?
• Take action - move out of the stuck, paralysed, holding yourself back place.
• Acknowledge your success and celebrate it - recognise how brilliant you are!

And do let me know what you thought of this episode by messaging me over on instagram, facebook or linked in - or you can email me, I'd love to hear from you!

Say hi to me on social:

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Visit my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/
Email me: [email protected]

Part 2 of my interview with trans ambassador, public speaker, trainer, photographer and film-maker Katie Neeves. We dispel untrue arguments against the transgender cause, explain the problematic and political challenges surrounding the Gender Recognition Act and talk about how to be a better ally. We also hear from Katie how she found her mission of helping everyone to understand that trans people are just ordinary people who want to be safe, loved and happy, just like everyone else. This is a powerful episode that explores some difficult topics - Katie shares with us not only why trans rights, discrimination and prejudice needs to be better understood by everyone (including our politicians) but also what we can all do to make a positive difference right now and support the urgent change that needs to happen.

Trigger warning: Please be aware that we talk about self-harm and attempted suicide on two occasions at approx 10 and 15 minutes into the episode.

Links from the show: Katie's letter to MP blog post and email template: https://cool2btrans.co.uk/i-just-wrote-a-little-letter-to-my-mp/
Mermaids: https://mermaidsuk.org.uk/ Contact Katie: Cool2BTrans Website: www.cool2btrans.co.uk Facebook:www.facebook.com/cool2btrans Twitter:@cool2btrans Instagram: cool2btrans YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/c/Cool2BTrans LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-neeves-trans-ambassador-43626814/ Martin Neeves Photography & Film Website: www.martinneeves.com  Like my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/ Say hi to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/  Connect with me on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/ 

"The urge to live my truth was unbelievably strong." In this weeks episode I'm talking with Katie Neeves a trans ambassador, trainer, public speaker, professional photographer and filmmaker. She owns two businesses, Cool2BTrans and Martin Neeves Photography & Film. She's been commissioned to photograph the queen and has been a press photographer at some incredibly historic moments! In this first part of her interview she shares her story of growing up with gender dysphoria, cross-dressing, being married twice, building an extremely successful business, having a daughter and then working with a spiritual healer where she finally admitted to herself at age 47 that she was a trans woman. Katie talks openly about how telling her wife, after being married for less than a year, was one of the hardest things she's ever had to do, why she decided to keep her business name Martin Neeves Photography & Film and the reaction she got when she decided to come out professionally in a very public way! Subscribe so you don't miss Part 2 of my interview with Katie next week. Links from todays episode: Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC and Gender Therapist: http://darahoffmanfox.com/ Contact Katie: Cool2BTrans Website: www.cool2btrans.co.uk email: [email protected]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-neeves-trans-ambassador-43626814/ Facebook:www.facebook.com/cool2btrans Twitter:@cool2btrans Instagram: cool2btrans YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/c/Cool2BTrans Martin Neeves Photography & Film Website: www.martinneeves.com  Like my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/ Say hi to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/ Connect with me on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/ 

"I believe there's a calling for all of us. I know that every human being has value and purpose. The real work of our lives is to become aware. And awakened. To answer the call." Oprah Winfrey. I agree with Oprah on this one. To be fair, I usually agree with Oprah! Let's start with a caveat, finding your Purpose is not something a single podcast episode is going to sort out for you! But I guess you already knew that! What I can do is to support and guide you to get clearer on your big Why or your Purpose or mission. That thing you are here to do that not only inspires you but also makes a difference in the world. It leaves a legacy. Because when we have an exciting and inspiring Purpose it means we have direction. We have meaning. We feel fulfillment not only when we get there but on the way because we know we are heading towards something that really matters and is going to make a difference. It also means that when we doubt ourselves or feel not enough, or afraid, or like we want to jack it all in, we have something bigger than us to remind us why we are here, doing what we are doing, every single day.
Enrollment for Living Her Truth, my new group personal development programme for gay and bisexual women ends on 19th July. At the time of recording this podcast I have just 3 spaces left – get in quick! Here's the link for info and to book: https://thequeerpreneur.lpages.co/living-her-truth/ Like my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/ Say hi to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/ Connect with me on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/ Visit my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/ or email me: [email protected]

Fear of what other people will think of us is something that comes up ALL the time in my work with my clients and with myself! In this episode I’m sharing some mindset tips to help you respond to other people’s judgement and opinion in a way that feels empowering instead of limiting and anxiety provoking. I share some approaches that will enable you to create healthy relationships with criticism and praise. In a way that doesn’t make them something to be afraid of. Because when what other people think of us influences our decisions and our actions it can really get in the way of us being all we can be, going for our dreams and getting our big ideas out into the world. If you struggle with people pleasing, imposter syndrome and holding yourself back from being truly seen and heard, then grab a notebook and pen and let's dive into this one! As always I love to get your feedback so don't hesitate to send me a message and let me know how you get on with practicing these mindset strategies and reframing those old, unhelpful beliefs. Because your Mission and purpose in this lifetime is too important to let other people's opinions get in the way right?! 
Living Her Truth, my new group personal development programme for gay and bisexual women starts on 22nd July. At the time of recording this podcast I have just 5 spaces left – get in quick! Here's the link for info and to book: https://thequeerpreneur.lpages.co/living-her-truth/ Like my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/ Say hi to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/ Connect with me on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/ Visit my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/ or email me: [email protected]

For many people being LGBTQ+ in the 90's was a very lonely and scary experience. There were few role models or out gay, bi or queer people visible in the media and the anti-homosexuality government act, Section 28 was still in force in the UK. Decades later some things are changing for the better, however sadly there is still much more work to do to end the discrimination and prejudice that exists against LGBTQ+ people all over the world. 

My guest in this episode is Ruth Summers, a wellbeing entrepreneur, sound therapist and tutor at the British Academy of Sound Therapy (BAST). Like me, Ruth realised she was gay in the 90's. We talk about how our families responded to the news and our early experiences of being gay in a world where there really wasn't any representation of gay women that we could relate to (something that’s definitely changing today). We also talk about being out and gay in the workplace and how coming out never really ends with every new person we meet!

*I am really honoured and excited to announce that Ruth will be delivering the Crystal Sound Meditation at the Opening ceremony for my brand-new Personal Development Programme Living Her Truth, which opens for enrolment next week. Send me a message to find out more or ask me any questions about the programme.

Stonewall https://www.stonewall.org.uk/ The International lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and intersex association https://ilga.org/ Ruth's website https://www.dao-natural-health.co.uk/ Ruth on facebook https://www.facebook.com/DaoRuthS/ Ruth on instagram https://www.instagram.com/ruthsummers_daonaturalhealth/
Like my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/sarahtaylorlifecoach/ Say hi to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahtaylorcoaching/ Connect with me on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-taylor-coaching/ Visit my website: https://sarah-taylor.co.uk/ or email me: [email protected]