The Reason For Now

There are 4 needs in life. Air, Food, Water, Shelter, but for a happy life you also need close relationships. This is why loneliness is toxic both mentally and physically and why the wrong relationship can be catastrophic. Women are being forced down an androgynous politically correct path just as men are being emasculated by toxic masculinity with the result that everyone is loosing their roles and the biggest casualties in terms of stress depression and self harm and women who suffer the greatest role change. Research shows that even female CEOs just want to be looked after, and equally a man who wants to settle down will not do this with a woman who acts like a man both in her career and sexually. These ladies either end up with critical controllers who constantly try and demean them and bring them down so they can have the upper hand or inadequate idolisers who the lady eventually ends up having contempt for. Since we are tribal and close relationships are key to happiness then family values and encouraging people to choose roles that suit them rather than forcing equal outcome on everyone will dramatically improve mental and physical health.

Christmas time is a risky time for relationships despite it being a family focused time.
We discuss New Year's resolutions and how they set you up to fail and instead what to replace them with. Failure is a natural part of life the key is insulating yourself from the effects of failure and learning from it.

What is the best version of yourself? This seems to be a hard question and exercises the mind of philosophers, psychologists, in fact every single human with any level of self awareness. In fact self awareness is key because modern life robs you of that with politically correct expectations of equal outcome and social media driven ideals as well as the disintegrating effect of materialism. The end result is rapid consistent erosion of cultural , national and personal identity which is why depression and suicide has been increasing. The answer is that the best you can ever be is yourself. We broach the subject of relationships and that it is highly unlikely that a relationship will be happy until you accept yourself. How many of us have done that?

It the Royal Family an anachronistic remnant of a by gone era which should have long ago been consigned to the pages of history or are they not only highly relevant but essential to our National identity and integrity? Should members of the Royal Family be paragons of virtue or is it human to err? After all Greek Gods were far from perfect but instead exhibited human frailties such as lust and jealousy , envy and revenge which everyone could related to and also learn lessons from.

The habit of apportioning blame is exists in a vacuum of knowledge about failure. Failure at almost anything in our goal orientated modern society is considered catastrophe therefore the immediate emotional response will be defence or attack. Religion is of course the archetypal construct with which to answer all questions and take ultimate responsibility and in the absence of this then the line of least resistance is usually blame as it takes a lot more effort to understand solve and forgive and move forward constructively. Blame is a toxic illusion of control. Religion practiced correctly is a much more benign and often constructive illusion of control. People subjected to the worst possible traumas can frequently end up blaming themselves and take a pathological behaviour pattern with them throughout their lives. There is nothing that cannot be understood and forgiven along with proper allocation of responsibility as long as the correct professional help is both sought and available.

There are four main factors why Boris Johnson won.
1: He is likeable (in reality a charming psychopath)
2: He plays the fool (Court Jester Syndrome which makes it hard to hold him responsible as long as he does not over do it and loose credibility which he risked doing at one point)
3: He has successfully walked a fine line between avoiding racism yet being acceptable to the increasingly insecure British people who seek authoritarianism.
4: Every one was so bad. Corbyn had no message and Swinson has increasingly unlikeable:
disagreeable, angry, swinging the politically correct banner while being dictatorial indicative of immaturity and naivity.
The question now is what will Boris Johnson view to be in his best interests? To hold onto power as long as possible or to find out and action what is necessary for the good of the British people. In the short term those are two divergent concepts but clearly in the long term they are the perfect marriage, as long as BJ still believes in marriage!

We discuss terrorism in light of recent events and how to deal with terrorists. Research clearly shows that if terrorism is based on religion then people cannot be rehabilitated. If it based on acquiring a specific objective such as land or freedom then the chances are better. If it is alnost impossible to change a religious person's mind what makes religion so powerful? Is the West with increasing politically correct disintegration becoming vulnerable to being picked off and overrun by the more cohesive force of an acquisitive religion and if so what can we do about it? Are we seeing the first responses in members of the public who went to attack and restrain the London Bridge terrorist? and are Boris Johnson and Donald Trump results of bottom up authoritarianism?

We discuss cannabis and the evidence that it is in fact highly toxic to the brain especially to teenage brains and is a bigger cause of fatal road traffic accidents than alcohol. It also causes strokes. We discuss that its ability as a gateway drug to Class A drugs is simply the market place supplying it. In other words buying cannabis from a dealer who is likely to have an assortment of illicit drugs to tempt you with is a far less preferable than buying it from a pharmacy. In other words in many cases the opportunity needs to be regulated not the substance. Humans will do anything if they are allowed to and almost all choices are emotion driven and therefore illogical so society needs to be regulated properly. It is unregulated capitalism and materialism that has disintegrated structure in society for years and led to loss of identity and loss of norms of social behaviour leading to people becoming increasingly self obsessed and selfish leading to an epidemic of depression where it has become the number one cause of illness and death.

As the cold and flu season bursts onto the scene we discuss how it can make you depressed and how to protect yourself. Is Aspirin really an antidepressant? We discuss that the key to recovery in therapy is motivation to do so. This may include whether you like your therapist. The type of therapy is much less important. We also explain the origin of modern therapy which coincided with the rapid acceleration in post war America of materialism and the destruction of close family and community values. Finally we look at the statistical distribution of anxiety and emotion between the sexes and tentatively suggest a link between the finding that female heads of state are one third more likely to wage war than males especially if they are married. If they are single they are more likely to be attacked than be the aggressor. Food for thought though in a world where world annihilation is a button press away.

It is an inescapable fact of life that the higher echelons of our society are populated by the more disagreable and dysfunctional of us. Part of the reason is that these people take less responsibility for their actions and care less about the effect of their actions on others which allows them to be single minded and persistent as well as facilitate a certain clarity of thought. Over and above all that however is the expectation through innate high self esteem that they will do well. We therefore discuss sources of high self esteem and how you can manage your own expectations in life and insulate yourself from negative influence and how to deal with things if and when you fail. Failure does not define you it refines you.