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Misattunement is a common relational dynamic in marriage and yet it's something that we are often not aware of.  And misattunement can lead to a sense of disconnection over time. Join Dr. Steve and Lisa Call as they have a conversation about misattunement and how it reveals itself in couples that Steve works with therapeutically as well as how Lisa and Steve navigate it in their own marriage.

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The holiday season can sometimes be a difficult season for our marriage. Different needs, different desires, different hopes can create tension for us.  Sometimes there can be dread and/or sometimes delight. Yet,  when we develop  some understanding and awareness of how our own story of family gatherings during the holidays impacts the way we experience this holiday season, we can experience a sense of connection.  How then might we navigate this season well? Join Dr. Steve and Lisa Call in this conversation in how we navigate different needs and how might we care  well for one another well during this holiday season.  

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If we can move toward understanding one another in the midst of conflict, then understanding can lead to potentially something different next time. But if we choose to not tend to them well, they can become more disruptive over time. Perhaps understanding can lead to a hopeful shift. Join Dr. Steve and Lisa Call in a helpful conversation focusing on how understanding has the potential to create hopeful change in common dynamics. 

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When one and/or both spouses are triggered by an experience that is familiar, it blocks our capacity to offer kindness and understanding. Sometimes we attempt to hide  hurt, pain, and disappointment as we adhere to the mantra of "there is a time and place for this."   Yet, if we wait or delay our attempt to repair, there can be exponential growth of the trigger impact.

Join Dr. Steve and Lisa Call in a conversation  in how they navigated a significant trigger in their marriage relationship and the struggle to maintain a sense of connection in the midst of it,

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Our family of origin story certainly impacts our marriage relationship. And at times, our own story of trauma can create conflict and tension in our marriage. In this episode, we are so very grateful that our dear friends Dr. Dan Allender and his wife Becky join us.

Dan and Steve have been colleagues at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology for over 20 years and are avid fly fishing partners over the years.  Dan  is a pioneer of a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy and is the founder of the Allender Theory which has brought healing and transformation to so many.   

Join us in a conversation with Dan and his wife Becky as they share how their story of trauma impacts their marriage relationship and helpful ways they have navigated specific triggers along the way. 

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We can't avoid feeling or being stuck in our marriage at times. It's a common and familiar dynamic in marriage.  What might be  ways for us to move out of our "stuckness" well?  What do we need  relationally? Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call engage in a candid conversation about the familiarity of feeling stuck and helpful ways we can move out of being stuck.

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One of the most helpful "interventions" in the midst of our conflict, tension, disagreement is by utilizing this question. Often, we can become stuck in relational patterns that are a response to common areas of conflict. And this phrase is a game changer in the midst of those moments. Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call have a conversation about how a difficult moment was brewing and  how a "can we have a redo?" was integrated into a moment of difficulty, leading to a hopeful outcome. Our invitation is highlighting the potential shift that can occur in our marriage, especially in  moments of difficulty, when "can we have a redo?" is offered. 

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When we are feeling hurt, disappointed or frustrated, we long for empathy from our spouse.  Yet empathy can be difficult to offer our spouse, especially if empathy wasn't offered in our own story. Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call have a conversation about the healing balm empathy can provide our spouse. 

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Often we can become preoccupied with the imperfections of our spouse which can lead to a sense of disconnection in our marriage. Yet, what if we reimagined our marriage to love the imperfection of our spouse? Perhaps that might shift the focus over time to something of honor and blessing one another rather that harbor frustration. Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call invite listeners to embrace and love your spouse's imperfections.

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When our spouse has the courage to reveal vulnerability, sometimes we react in a defensive way. Vulnerability though is an invitation to our spouse to stay present in the midst of their hurt and pain. Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call share a recent relational experience that offers  vulnerability, reactivity, and how lingering can offer healing relational experience.