The Refreshed Moms Podcast

This week, we share a lesson that every mompreneur needs to hear: how to get rid of mom guilt once and for all. We agonize over every decision we make regarding our families. It’s a feeling rooted in love, but it can go too far. 

On episode 108 of The Refreshed Life Podcast, Keli Reese of Ministry in Mothering joins Deanna and Kelly to share her journey of raising five children, working part-time, and running a business while using her faith to help release her from the hands of mom-guilt. Come laugh with us, cry with us, and free yourself from the untruths that feed into your guilt. 

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• How mom guilt is rooted in our nature to nurture.
• Why being guilt-free doesn’t mean that we have to be mistake-free. 
• Ways to ignore judgment and mom-shaming on social media.
• How to look inward, upward, and outward to shed your guilt and love your family.

QUOTES

“Don’t wait for the world to tell you what to feel guilty about.”

“I don’t need to have my sense of mom-worth come from an online source trying to speak into my soul.”

“You’re an expert on your own kids. Don’t be afraid to own that.”

“When it comes to guilt, the number one thing you can do is speak truth.”

“There’s not a book or a coach or an expert or a doctor that knows your individual children like you do.”

“Being guilt-free doesn’t mean that we have to be mistake-free.”

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Keli Reese

Ministry in Mothering

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Mom, you need a break, so we’re sharing tips for how to get the rest and relaxation you deserve to take care of yourself as well as you do your family. How do you know when is when? Kelly and Deanna talk through how to respect the rhythms of your life to forecast when you need to schedule time to restore yourself. 

While planning is important, there are plenty of unexpected moments that leave our tanks depleted. We share strategies to help you manage your commitments before the gas gets on E. Embrace what rest looks like for you to restore yourself from the taxing but rewarding mom boss life. 

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• How to read the rhythms of your family to know when a break is due.
• Why your life improves when you respect the different personalities in your home and their relaxation styles. 
• How to create space in your schedule to manage unanticipated stressors.
• Why your vacation doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s.
• How to include small breaks into your everyday routine.
• Strategies to reintegrate into real life following your vacation bliss.

QUOTES

“Culture will tell us a break needs to look a certain way. We need true downtime, however it looks for us.”

“I can’t effectively take a break and have a phone in my hand.”

“Taking a break looks different for everyone. Figure out what it is, and just embrace it.”

“We can serve our children and protect our own needs at the same time.”

“We’re not doing enough to create the margin in our lives to rest.”

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED

Blog: Do You Need a Vacation From Your Vacation?

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Content marketer and writer Brandyn Campbell joins Deanna and Kelly to discuss why content marketing is essential for everyone in our digital age and provide strategies to make it manageable, fun, and meaningful for even the busiest mompreneur. If you’re struggling to keep up with your social media platforms, blog, podcast, or are not even sure where to start to building your online presence, this episode is for you. 

This show is bursting with tips to guide you through the process of creating content to connect with your audience. We work through the whys of content marketing and drill down to help you find the hows of integrating this essential business service into your busy routine.

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Why not having a content marketing and social media plan is not an option. 
• How content marketing is like a “dating relationship.”
• How engaging with your audience can inform your business.
• Why you need to nurture your email list.
• How to focus on building one form of content and repurposing to platforms.
• Why you have to commit to content marketing for the long haul. 
• How you can excel in content marketing, even if you don’t like writing.
• Why planning your content at the start of each week will save you hours.

QUOTES

“Content marketing is how you engage, which is how you build your audience and get them to trust you.” 

“[Content marketing] is the dating period. This is when your audience is getting to know you.”

“When you pick a platform, give yourself time to learn it and leverage it.”

“Momentum is not built by posting and watching.”

“Recycling is not just for plastics. Reuse and repurpose that content!”

“Think about what your capacity is. That’s the most critical factor in being consistent.”

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED

Brandyn Campbell:

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Social Media Resources

Pixistock

Blog Topic generator

Canva

Planoly

Buffer 

Latergram 

Hootsuite 

Jasmine Star 

Typorama 

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Play 4 Life Moms founder Christy Thomas joins Deanna and Kelly to who discuss the importance of play in the lives of children and adults and why mompreneurs need play as a critical component of their selfcare. Christy’s passion is to removing the guilt and pressure associated with play and provides ways to seamlessly incorporate it into your life and parenting. 

Play serves our biological needs throughout our lives in different ways. From baby’s first smile to indulging in creative curiosity, it’s essential to our development and relationships. Christy outlines the 7 types of play and explains why letting go and indulging in activities like storytelling feed the minds and spirits of yourself alongside of that of your children. 

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Taking away the guilt we often feel as busy moms around not having the time we think we need to play with our children.
• How playing Paw Patrol is important for our children's needs - but why we don't necessarily have to get down on the floor and play with them in that way.
• 7 Different ways to play with our children that don't take a ton of time, but still meet our children's needs for our engagement.
• Discover how you're already being playful with your kids - and why it's enough.
• Why play is a critical component of your self-care.
• How Christy runs her business in chunks and takes advantage of downtime amidst a busy schedule. 

QUOTES

“I am starting a play revolution. I want to free you from the guilt that play is a waste of time and to unpack what science says about play so that you as a mom can embrace self-care and play more.”

“I make room for my business at the soccer field and at the Taekwon-Do studio.”

“We were made to create. We were made to play. We were made to have this freedom.”

“Play is children’s love language.”

“Your job isn’t to do it all. Your job is to be diligent with those little actions.”

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED

Christy Thomas:
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Everyday Motherhood Podcast
Stitcher | iTunes 

Dr. Stuart Brown 

• National Institute for Play 
• Book: Play: How it Shapes the Brain...
• TED Talk: Play is Vital

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Deanna and Kelly get real in sharing the biggest mistakes they’ve made in their entrepreneurial journey, giving small business advice to other mompreneurs to help inform and empower them to pursue their dreams. There is no room for perfection in business, as mistakes will inevitably be made by all of us. The lonely road can feel even more isolating when dealing with our missteps.

Our mistakes were costly, both financially and emotionally. We share them with the hope that you can learn from our experience as you navigate your own path. From business coaches to childcare, we discuss what we wish we’d know then, and how it can help you now.

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Making mistakes is a normal part of the business journey. 
• Why the particular struggles of business and motherhood are a collective burden. 
• How working with a business coach could have saved Deanna from many of the costly mistakes she made with her nonprofit. 
• Why Kelly had to learn once, then twice, that having business agreements and partnerships in writing is non-negotiable. 
• How you can effectively work with friends and preserve your relationship. 
• Why paying yourself first is critical. 
• How avoiding adequate childcare as you grow your business cheats both you and your children. 

QUOTES
"Your business may be unique, but you’re not alone in your struggles of business or motherhood."

“There is something inherently adventurous about the spirit of an entrepreneur. We feel like a maverick or a rock star if we do it on our own.”

“If you’re going to collaborate with a friend, if you care about that friendship, then you need to sign a contract.”

“Build your business in a way that the first person who gets paid is you.”

“Along with the rock star mentality, we also have a martyr mentality. ‘I need to sacrifice myself on the altar of this business by not paying myself, doing it on my own, and not asking for help with my children.’”

“[My 4 year-old son] has specific needs as a 4 year-old child and I have specific needs as an adult in business, and both of them are equally important and need to be cared for.”

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED

Mom, Find Your Time Challenge Sign-up

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Weekly Workflow Planner Spreadsheet 

Weekly Workflow Planner Printable

Weekly Workflow Planner Tutorial

Lisa Bevere (NYT Bestselling Author): messengerinternational.org

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Is life leaving you feeling less than refreshed? The stress of trying to get everything done is the #1 issue Deanna hears from coaching clients and the Refreshed Moms community. How do we carve out time so that we can approach our daily and weekly routines with confidence and clarity? 

In this episode, Deanna and Kelly discuss Deanna’s step-by-step time management system that will bring sanity to your life, even with all of the unexpected twists and turns in a mompreneur’s life. With the tools shared here, you will create a life-giving workflow that will bring new intention, focus, and inspiration to your business.

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Why over-commitment is the reason you feel out of control and frazzled.
• How to carve out time for what matters to you without feeling like you’re dropping balls everywhere.
• Why comparing ourselves to male mentors may set us up for unrealistic expectations.
• Why creating an effective workflow breathes life into us and empowers you to move your goals forward in a systematic way.
• How we can apply the same inherent innovation we moms have with home and kids  to finding ways to get work tasks done.
• Why multitasking is not your friend and nearly burned Deanna’s house down. 
• The 3 step process
• Why not filling every block of time in your schedule is critical in creating your success. 

QUOTES

“If they’re not trying to do this (run a business) with children playing LEGOS under their desk, then we’re not on the same playing field.”

“Because of our ability (as mothers) to be innovative to get things done, we’ve got to apply that same innovation to our workflow.”

“You have to know what you have to do and see it in black and white, otherwise you end up with such unrealistic expectations for yourself and nothing gets done.”

“This is going to empower you to move your business forward in a systematic way, but it’s also going to protect your sanity while you do it.”

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED

Mom, Find Your Time Challenge Sign-up

refreshedmoms.com/refreshedlifechallenge

Weekly Workflow Planner Spreadsheet 

Weekly Workflow Planner Printable

Weekly Workflow Planner Tutorial

BLOG: How to Create a Simple Weekly Workflow https://www.refreshedmoms.com/blog/simple-weekly-workflow

Brandyn Campbell Communications 

www.brandyncampbell.com

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It’s hard enough to balance family, motherhood, business, and self-care, but throw any big wrench into that mix, and some of us find ourselves crumbling to a heap. Life took Faith Broussard Cade down this road last year. While working as a mental health therapist, running a baking business, and being a wife and mom to a toddler, the aftermath of a car accident left Faith on medical leave and searching for a way to breathe new life into her own self-care. 

Her methodical and simple choice to write affirming notes to herself - and share them via social media - changed the trajectory of her recovery, her business, and her outlook on all of it.

In this episode, we deep-dive with Faith on the topic of work-life balance, and how self-care does not have to be sacrificed during the season of motherhood or the pursuit of a successful business.

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Balancing the running of a business with raising children is hard! We have to do what is best for our own families, and that often looks different than what we see on social media.
• Marking out time every day - no matter how small! - to move business along and to care for ourselves.
• How a car accident left Faith with a concussion and mild traumatic brain injury - and how this altered her life as a mom and entrepreneur as well as how she practices self-care. 
• Giving ourselves grace instead of imposing our own mom-guilt.
• Solo trips to Target really can fill our self-care cups.
• What self-care looks like on a limited budget.
• Self-care from a Christian perspective is not only not selfish, but also a ministry

QUOTES
“What I have figured out is, I have to do what works for my family.” 13:11

“I give myself a lot of grace and I do away with the guilt.” 17:50

“If your bandwidth is one task a day to move your business forward, that’s perfectly okay.” 21:20

“Surely everyone can find five minutes for themselves every day.” 31:45

“I do not believe God requires us to be a martyr… to be humiliated in the name of love. He already did that for us.” 39:45

“You don’t have to have anything on your schedule to be unavailable.” 52:30

“‘No’ is a complete sentence...” 53:30

RESOURCES

Faith Broussard Cade 

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Faith recommends:

The Simple Planner by Emily Ley [https://www.emilyley.com/collections/simplified-planner]

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If you’re married and your spouse is not an entrepreneur, then you’re most likely very familiar with being misunderstood (and possibly dismissed) as you embark on, yet again, another business idea.

As mompreneurs and visionaries, we can see with deep-seated passionate vision, how an idea can work - how it can actually serve people and make money. But when you sit down to explain it to your husband, you’re greeted with something like, “That’s nice, dear.” or possibly, “How much is all this gonna cost us?”

If you’re anything like me (Deanna), your husband has already supported you in more than one endeavor, and you’re feeling a little bit of fear in your heart as you show him an ad for a paid course, business retreat or workshop you’d like to attend. Why? Because it’s just one more thing to spend money on for your business before your business is actually turning a profit.

Yeah, those conversations aren’t fun to have. Trust me I know. What we can’t do, however, is allow fear of our husband’s responses and his not understanding (or believing in) our dreams stop us for going after them. We must instead figure out how to do this lovingly without dismissing their feelings, perspectives, and valid fears of the risks involved.

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Why it’s so important to spend time understanding your non-entrepreneurial spouse.
• Knowing that although risk-taking may come natural to you, it may be terrifying  for your husband.
• You can’t keep a true entrepreneur from creating, because that’s what they’ve been created for.
• Creating a practice of talking candidly with your husband about the financial needs of your business.
• What to do if your husband does not believe in your business.

QUOTES

7:34 If you don’t communicate honestly, openly, transparently, completely with your spouse, even as things change, that’s just a recipe for problems from the get go.

16:36 I saw the vision and went along for the ride and it changed my life and changed the course of my career.

22:13 To the person who is married to the entrepreneur, understand that your entrepreneur spouse has been created to create in this way, and you cannot separate them from that without them losing little pieces of themselves.

26:04 If you want to not spend through your (bank) account, you need to allow your spouse to pay for a good coach, because a good coach will make sure you’re on the right track to creating income.

31:45 If you go purchase something (for your business) that you don’t implement. You’ve got to get really clear what your needs are so your husband can see how this is impacting your bottom line.

37:30 What do we do when our husbands don’t believe in what we are doing? We believe in ourselves (anyway).

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Does the notion of caring for your family, your business, and yourself feel like an impossible task in modern motherhood? Do you feel alone in your efforts to not lose yourself in the endless responsibilities of your role as a mom? You need support and strategies to aid you in your path to finding work-life integration. You need Deanna Mason of Refreshed Moms and Kelly Burton of Kell of a Story as part of your mom tribe. 

A HUGE welcome to you!

In this episode, we introduce ourselves, our stories, and why we are passionate about serving you in this new way. The Refreshed Life Podcast focuses on moms finding balance in motherhood in order to make time for family, business, self-care, and healthy relationships. As long-time friends, we talk about our shared journey as we have grown in our parenting, emotional wellness practices, and our businesses. 

The combination of Deanna’s ninja work/life integrator skills paired with Kelly’s remarkable story of turning scandal into serenity present a compelling platform for our discussions on showing up effectively in life’s spaces while nurturing yourself, your business, and your relationships. 

What we discuss - don’t miss it! 

• Our openness in navigating tough conversations and inviting you to be part of the conversation is one way we desire to serve. 
• How Deanna’s experience running a nonprofit and magazine for eight years shaped her passion to start Refreshed Moms and equip mothers with tools and strategies to nurture themselves as they care for their families and businesses.
• Why Deanna believes that we can embrace our current phase of motherhood to grow a business without over-commitment.
• How Kelly’s approach to her work as a writer follows the philosophy of “relationship over task.”
• Kelly’s remarkable journey as an outcast young wife who ultimately formed loving relationships with her blended family and a close friendship with her husband’s ex.

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Deanna, creator of Refreshed Moms, helps mompreneurs find the time they need to make the money they desire through coaching, virtual and digital resources.

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Kelly Burton is a writer who will be publishing her first novel in 2019. She believes in, testifies to and writes about happily-ever-afters for complicated relationships. Follow her work and journey here:

Website: kellofastory.com

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