The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Matt & Rebeca

Why do we get into relationships in the first place? What draws us to one another… and what happens after the spark?

In today’s episode, we explore the five stages of relationships, the emotional signatures that shape them, and how we can navigate them consciously — clearing emotional charges, outdated patterns, and limiting beliefs along the way.

If you’ve ever wondered why attraction fades, why conflict arises, or how to tell if someone is truly aligned with your deeper vision — this episode is for you.

Thomas M. Jones is a psychotherapist, author, musician, and the brain behind The Paradox Process, a powerful technique that transforms negative thoughts into powerful tools for personal growth and success.

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Why do we get drawn into relationships in the first place through physical, emotional spiritual ways that we ‘plug into each other’

How our culture tends to favour instant gratification, and leading us to ‘throw away’ relationships due to misunderstandings even when they have potential

Why relationships can be very intense initially, even magical while even having challenges if we succumb to the illusion of things being perfect

The challenges that emerge when we realise that the other person is not exactly what we thought… can we go deeper to explore an opportunity?

The danger of getting ‘hooked’ on the excitement of the start of the relationship, and how seeking the next hit can get to be addictive

The importance of developing and exploring what an ‘us’ could be, that we could create together

How we can have a mismatch in how we see the relationship, where one person is looking at a longer term possibility, while the other may not be looking for the same thing

How we grow and that the growth can either be together or separately, which can have natural impact on the relationship

How disappointment can seep into a relationship in the form of judgement, and how we can fall in love with potential in our partner rather than accepting the actual person as they are

Find out more about Thomas M. Jones’ work at:

https://courses.paradoxprocess.org/pages/about

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the divorce process? Unsure whether to use a mediator, a divorce coach, or how to handle switching lawyers? Wondering how to avoid costly mistakes and emotional confusion during this challenging time?

Join Arabella Paul on The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Rebeca from Aligned with Love as she unpacks the realities of navigating divorce.

This episode explores what it's truly like to face divorce with or without a mediator or divorce coach, and the chaos that can come with constantly changing lawyers.

Discover the biggest money-wasting mistakes, why so many feel lost after costly meetings, and the essential steps for a smoother, less stressful experience.

Whether you’re going through divorce or helping someone who is, tune in for practical tips and expert guidance to make confident, informed decisions at every turn.

Arabella offers a free 30-minute consultation where you can talk, breathe, or just cry. She will listen, guide, and help you start planning your next chapter… blame-free and filled with curiosity.

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Step inside the realities of the divorce journey with this insightful episode featuring Arabella Paul, The Divorce Survival Coach. We break down "The Divorce Road Map," exploring what it’s really like to navigate divorce—with or without professionals like mediators and divorce coaches—and the surprises that come when you regularly switch lawyers. Discover common pitfalls, including wasted money, confusion after costly meetings, and how to avoid them. Whether you’re considering divorce or supporting someone who is, this episode offers clarity, actionable advice, and expert tips to make the process less overwhelming.

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Tune in for a supportive, informative conversation designed to help you make empowered decisions every step of the way.

What are the most powerful tools when you are looking to bring your relationship back from the BRINK?

Todays’ guest Bryan Power hit rock bottom in his relationship, not even being able to contact his partner due to a restraining order that had been taken out.

This gave him the space to take a step back and learn some hard truths about himself and the relationship. He’s now working with other people to make sense of their relationships specialising in the area of attachment styles.

We are going to be looking at:

- How our childhood wounds can affect us and play havoc in our relationship, leading us to trigger each other

- How we can get a point of emotional unsafety where it’s hard to keep things going

- Why it’s so important to address the underlying issues in order to come together in a more healthy way

- Why looking at ourselves can be challenging and how it can be easier to focus the problems in the other person

- How different attachment styles show themselves and how typical combinations “fit” together.

You can find out more about Bryan’s work at:

https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/

Have you ever wondered why your relationship is hard work… like WAY harder than it should really be.

Are relationships intrinsically just difficult, or are we missing some important points that could open things up RIGHT NOW?

Sharon Strimling is a transformational coach and consultant who brings over three decades of experience to the fields of psychological, physical, and relational transformation. And today we’re going to be having the benefit of her experience and wisdom.

We are going to be looking at:

- How we may not have had the best role models or instruction in terms of understanding how to have great relationships, and the impact this has

- How our perception is affected by our conditioning and experience and how this shapes how we relate to the world around us, and why we might consider holding those perceptions lightly

- How we can regulate our emotions when they are ‘shaken up’, and how lots of what we’ve learnt may not help

- How to make sense of our moods and those of our partner, ensuring that we have the space to manage our state

- How we can live from a place of deeper connection when we are not getting in the way, giving us access to far great resources and possibilities

You can find out more about Sharon’s work here:

https://sharonstrimling.com/

Alcohol is embedded in our culture… not just the high spirits in your town centre on a Friday night, but virtually any social or work event that you can attend.

So if everyone is doing it, what could possibly go wrong, right?

And how about in your relationship?

Have you ever done anything while drinking that you regretted, even something that harmed your relationship?

Where is the line between a bit of harmless fun, and a habit that could lead to real issues for you and in your relationship? Is there a healthy level of alcohol which could be beneficial for us?

Sammie Clarke is an alcohol detox coach who has worked in addiction for 25 years, having worked with literally thousands of people on the journey to freedom!

We are going to be looking at:

- How does alcohol consumption affect relationships, especially when there are challenges

- What exactly is Alcohol Use Disorder, and how do people get affected by alcohol differently even with the same consumption

- How alcohol can impact on our freedom, even if we’re not actively drinking and what does true liberation mean?

- How social attitudes are changing, in the same way that the harm of smoking is better understood now that it was in the past

- What is a safe or healthy level of alcohol and what does the research show us?

You can find out more about Sammie’s work at:

https://www.sammiessoberheroes.com/

Everyone processes information in different ways, but could differences be playing out in your relationship causing misunderstandings and disagreements.

Terms like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and dyspraxia get banded about but what do they mean and how would you know if you or your partner are affected.

And what to do to navigate this?

Today we’re joined by Jay Williams, also known as That Dyslexic Guy, a thought leader in neurodiversity advocacy, entrepreneurship, and inclusive innovation.

His mission is to help people understand the strengths of Neurodivergence while driving real change in workplaces.

We’re going to be looking at:

-Why these differences are not problems to be fixed, but rather unique qualities and strengths that we can harness for good!

- How our negative thoughts can lead to a range of other negative factors and issues

- How misunderstandings over small things can get blown out of proportion unnecessarily into frustration or anger

- How understanding neurodivergence can help us recognise why explosive reactions may happen, but that it’s not a justification for a negative reactions

- The role of emotional drain or burnout, “masking” behaviours and having the self-awareness needed to understand our needs

- The importance of open communication in understanding our different processing patterns and how we may be able to support each other

You can find out more about Jay at:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/thatdyslexicguy/

It’s sometimes said that ‘you are what you eat’, so we probably know that our diet is important in ensuring our wellbeing.

But how does our diet affect our relationship, and what opportunities could lie hidden in this area for those of us who really value our relationships?

Vanessa Sturman is a Transformational Health Coach and Award-Winning Speaker… Featured regularly on Sky News, BBC Radio, LBC, and others, Vanessa is a leading voice in performance, health, weight management and sustainable nutrition.

Today we are going to be looking at:

* How can food issues such as binge eating impact on our wellbeing and how we could move beyond them to create a life that we love?

* How can we enjoy the things we love (like food) without suffering the negative impacts of excess

* How food issues can show up in our relationship such as sluggishness

What are the most common food related arguments that can crop up in relationships

* How increasing plant based food can contribute to balanced, positive outcomes for our wellbeing through increased vitality and energy

* How a healthy diet can support our sexual relationship through factors such as improved circulation!

* How adding more “plant forward” food can free up land for the natural environment to create a legacy for future generations!

ENJOY, and you can keep in touch with Vanessa through her website and social media:

https://www.instagram.com/energiseandthriveplantbased/?hl=en

Join Emma Gardner and Rebeca Perea for an honest and inspiring conversation about the complexities of addiction and the journey to recovery. Emma shares her personal experiences with alcohol addiction, highlighting the emotional challenges of letting go of coping mechanisms, the impact of childhood trauma, and the importance of self-awareness in healing. Together, Emma and Rebeca explore the role of Alcoholics Anonymous, healthy coping strategies, and the steps to rebuild trust in relationships affected by addiction.

The episode also touches on relapse as a learning experience, goal-setting for a purpose-driven recovery, and practical strategies to embrace self-love and acceptance. Emma and Rebeca share their own vulnerabilities as humans and comment on how things can look good on the outside whereas they may not be that way in the inside sometimes.

Whether you're on a recovery journey, supporting a loved one, or seeking insights into overcoming life's challenges, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom and actionable advice.

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An affair sends relationships to the emergency room- like a couple involved in a car crash, driver and passenger arrive with injuries.

Wounds can mend, but with knowledge the course of healing and ultimate outcome can be improved.

Amanda Deverich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and coach with a private practice in Virginia and Arizona. For over a decade she has been helping couples overcome relationship challenges, including infidelity.

In this unmissable episode we cover:

- WHY do affairs happen?

- HOW to start to re-build and to know whether re-building is even possible

- Is it possible to safeguard my relationship so that I know an affair would NEVER happen?

- the most common MISUNDERSTANDING around affairs so you never fall for them

Find out more about Amanda at:

https://amandadeverich.com/