In this eye-opening podcast episode, we delve deep into the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle. Join us as we explore the roles of the Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor, and how they create toxic dynamics in our relationships and lives.

Discover practical strategies to escape this cycle and cultivate healthier, more empowered interactions.

Whether you're a therapist, a relationship enthusiast, or simply curious about human behavior, this episode will shed light on the Drama Triangle and offer insights for personal growth and transformation.

Today we have our welcome guest Tena Cacic who defines herself as a Vibrational communicator and who is going to bring clarity to all these and many more challenges that we can all encounter in our relationship with our intimate partner.

Find out more about Tena Cacic here:

https://tenacacic.com/

Have you ever looked back at photos from when you were younger and wondered how you’d let yourself go?

“Yeah but I’m busy now, with work and kids,” you might say.

But does this letting yourself go have any impact on our wellbeing, and also on our relationship?

Ben Coomber is a multi-award-winning Coach, Speaker, and the bestselling Author of “How to live an Awesome Life” where he shares his unique 11 step system. Day to day Ben is a high performance coach to a handful of clients, and is the Founder and CEO of Awesome Supplements - a 16x award winning supplement company.

We are going to be exploring:

- How poor sleep patterns can play out and create a cycle of pain where everything - including our relationships - are impacted negatively

- The benefit of having a plan that works for us through having positive self-knowledge

- Looking for ways to deal with stress that support our recover and avoid us creating a negative cycle

- How progress and success can create a positive feedback loop whether it’s in the area of fitness, mindset and relationships

- The importance of showing up as our true self if we are going to be really lovable by the people around us, and that our relationships will work in the long term

- What happens when you feel confident and how people see you differently

Keep in touch with Bens through his website: https://www.bencoomber.com/ , and on all social media platforms @bencoomber.

Why is it that so many relationships struggle with intimacy after the initial rush of sexual excitement has died down and what can we do to put the magic back in?

We are joined by Dr. Patti Britton who was the featured sex coach by Oprah! in 2022, who is a renowned Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator. Not only is she a prolific author and academic, but she is also a sought-after speaker and trainer, who has created over 40 couples' sexual enhancement DVDs. She is frequently featured in media outlets like Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health and Women’s Health.

We are going to be looking at:

- How do we deal with the lifestyle-related challenges meaning that by the end of the day we feel that we have little or nothing to give?

- How important is orgasm, and is goal-oriented sex the best sex?

- The differences that we need to understand between men and women and how we find safety and connection in different ways

- How do we find the balance between supporting our partner to meet their needs versus meeting our own needs

- Why is the focus on consent so important and having the ability to say yes or no, in order to be fully empowered

- What is means when sex becomes a sacred experience, and how we can access that

- Specific take-aways that will help immediately to reignite your sex life

You can find out more about Dr Patti’s work at:

https://drpattibritton.com/

When we are struggling we tend to look for a way of coping with a situation that we just don’t know how to deal with. Over time, these can develop into PATTERNS that recur over time and crop up again and again. Today we are looking at our most common go-to patterns so that we can identify them and start to identify which ones apply to us (and our partners).

Today we are joined by Dr. Willow Brown is a Chinese Medicine doctor, Functional Medicine expert & internationally recognized teacher of Taoist Sexology. And by Leah Piper has taught thousands of couples and individuals all over the world through her school More Love Works. She is an intimacy expert with multiple advanced certifications in Tantra Yoga, Positive Psychology, and Somatic Therapies.

We are going to be looking at:

- How each pattern has a light side, or ‘super-power’ that can be a gift and blessing - maybe even something that can be a strength

- AND that each pattern has a dark side that could be sabotaging things and giving us problems

- When the patterns develop and link to our developmental stages

- How we need to adapt the way we relate to people including partners with each of the 6 patterns

You can find out more about Dr Willow and Leah’s work at:

https://drwillowbrown.com/

https://www.moreloveworks.com/

What do we mean by attachment styles and how do they affect our relationships?

Could it be that a challenge that we are experiencing (or maybe having experienced several times) are connected to our attachment style or that of our partner.

What are the 5 breakthroughs that can lead us to experience success in our relationship, rather than just more frustration?

Today we are joined by Sami Reed Cleaver who is a Relationships Coach and Attachment Specialist from Wales based in Thailand. She is the founder of the Relationship Rehab - and she works with individuals to heal insecure attachment patterns that come up when in relationships and becoming more secure in themselves.

We are going to be looking at:

- What do we mean by attachment styles and where does OUR attachment style come from?

- How attachment styles play out in our relationship and how they can give us challenges if we are unaware of them.

- The most common coping mechanisms when we are not getting our needs met or feeling under threat and how they can cost us in our relationships

- What might be happening when our partner withdraws or looks for space in the relationship and how to deal with that

- How to recover and heal from an anxious pattern to developing a more secure style so that we can get what we want in relationship

Find out more about Sami’s work at:

https://www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab/

And…

https://www.samireedcoaching.com/

We often assume that we’re in a relationship, so we’re going to have a level of closeness with our partner. But is this always the case? Could we be in a relationship AND still feel really disconnected and lonely?

Today we’re going to be looking at what happens when our relationship is in fact a LONELY place, and at 5 steps that we can take to re-connect.

Reece Stockhausen & Jodie Milton are internationally recognized relationship and intimacy coaches, award-winning bloggers, and co-creators of Practical Intimacy. Since 2014, they’ve helped hundreds of couples and over 1 million readers with their unique intimacy-focused approach to modern relationships and personal development.

We’re going to be looking at:

- What is emotional intimacy and why is it so important in our relationship?

- What are the signs when we are missing emotional intimacy?

- Why do couples struggle to create emotional intimacy?

- How can couples start to build emotional intimacy?

- How emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy are connected

- What to do when one partner is more committed to change compared to the other one

- The challenges of working together as well as having an intimate relationship too

You can find out more about Reece & Jodie’s work at:

https://www.practicalintimacy.com/

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern that is detrimental to ourselves or the people around us? How could these limiting patterns impact on our relationships and our lives, especially when we find ourselves going around in circles. What do we do when we have the realisation that something needs to change but we don’t know WHAT to do?

Today I’m joined by mindset coach Adelaid Goodeve who works with clients to show up consistently at their best in their lives both professionally and personally. She’s been on a journey of recovery and growth from hitting rock bottom with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and building herself up to create an amazing life.

Questions we are going to be looking at include:

- What would be the signs that we ourselves might be stuck in one of these loops and how would it be impacting on us

- How Adelaide broke free from a challenging life-long medical diagnosis with chronic fatigue syndrome by shifting herself by training her brain to create change

- How our negative inner voice can lead our brain into a place of being stuck and prevent us from bouncing back in the way we otherwise could

- How do we arrive at the threshold of saying enough is enough where something has to change

- 5 incredible BRAIN HACKS that can help us to shift and to get unstuck!

You can find out more about Adelaide’s work here:

https://www.adelaidegoodeve.com/

https://www.instagram.com/adelaidegoodeve/

What are the costs of poor sleep on our relationship and on our life? Do we either take sleep for granted or maybe consider it like the weather - something we can’t do anything to influence? How has the science of sleep evolved over recent years and what opportunities do we have to improve it?

Riley Jarvis is the Founder & CEO of The Sleep Consultant - an organisation that helps CEOs, entrepreneurs, and high performers transform their sleep to significantly boost their productivity and energy levels.

We’re going to discover the 5 tips that can revolutionise your sleep!

Highlights today include:

- Why is sleep so important for our wellbeing?

- If sleep isn’t working, how could that play out especially in your relationship?

- How does REM sleep impact on emotional intelligence

- Could a shorter working day be more productive and happier?

- What stops us from sleeping well?

- 5 tips to revolutionise sleep

You can find out more about Riley’s work at:

www.thesleepconsultant.com

When our relationship isn’t working, it can be hard to cut through the negativity… nothing seems to work! So what can we do to shift ourselves from that negative place and back to a more positive one?

Today we’re going to be looking at the number 1 habit hack that can get us to shift in the quickest possible time! We’re joined today by Jimmie Stephens who is a sought after author, speaker, relationship coach and founder of The School of Marriage and Relationship based in Atlanta, Georgia. Jimmie also serves as a senior pastor at The Light International Church and he shares his message on value principles for a life of growth in leadership as well as personal relationships in churches, schools and organisations.

Highlights include:

The impact on our relationship when we get into a negative emotional state

How we can create a shift into a more intentional and rational position where we can resolve things better

Recognising when the other person’s experience is not our intention and how we can modify our behaviour and to improve our communication to deepen our connection

The fit and alignment between our faith journey (in whatever religion we may practice) and working on our relationships

The NUMBER ONE habit hack that can shift us into a more positive state where we can experience an incredible relationship

Content can be seen on Youtube, FaceBook, Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter.

Youtube:

https://www.youtube.com/@atlantasomar/videos

Website:

https://schoolofmarriageandrelationship.com/

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/jimmie.stephens/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/152614286195672

If we can’t show up as ourselves in our relationship, we’ve got little prospect of making it work sustainably in the long term. Surely if we’re hiding aspects of ourselves we’re going to cause ourselves a lot of stress and difficulty in keeping those things away from our partner or others around us.

Today I’m joined by Stephanie and Jennifer PageWise who are Relationship coaches and Spiritual Revolutionaries working with the LGBTQ+ community. Their mission is to bring more love to the world, one relationship at a time.

We’ve going to be exploring:

- How the masks start to show themselves after the initial period of relationship infatuation where we may not even be aware that we have these masks

- What it means to hit rock bottom in our relationship and how we can pick ourselves up from the mess we find ourselves in

- How attachment wounds from our past can show up to shape our relationship success, creating unhealthy systems from which it can be difficult to find a solution

- How we get triggered by different external stimuli to wear our masks for the purpose of safety and self-protection, and what the results are

- How a our system reacts to difference in general and heteronormativity in particular and causes us to wear masks to cope with a sense of being an outsider and prevents us exploring our life as a whole including our sexuality

You can find out more about Stephanie & Jennifer’s work at:

www.enchantedawakenings.org

www.Facebook.com/groups/enchantedawakenings