Season 2 is coming to an end and what better way to wrap things up for this season that by sharing the three tiers that we use to support you through your relationship trauma, turmoil and toxicity while on your way to total relationship recovery. We're taking a break for the summer and we'll be back this fall with more episodes to help you on your relationship recovery journey.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️2:48 Client testimonials from working with Tiffany and Kierstyn through the Relationship Recovery coaching ⭐️⭐️5:57 Hollywood Hot Takes: Succession and analyzing all the toxic personalities ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️17:52 Tier One: we're building that foundation and that house because you have to have that good foundation in order to do the work. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️23:35 Tier Two: Clearing the trauma. We help you identify what that is and we teach you how to look for it ⭐️⭐️⭐️26:48 Tier Three : Moving on, we're empowering and giving you tools and resources that you're using all the time. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️30:27 Affirmation of the Week: "Happiness can come from where my heart broke. I stepped forward into the unknown to reclaim the joy that's in my heart."
We can't end this season without saying THANK YOU for your support, shares, and reviews of the podcast.
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You need energy to heal. It's one of our core foundations and is a huge piece to healing. In fact, one of the reasons you may have failed before in the past to do the work to heal is because you didn't have enough energy for it. You're depleted. And just like anything else, if you're completely depleted, you're not gonna be able to do the work. In today's episode we cover why managing your energy is so important, how to take inventory of energy boosters and energy suckers, what routines WE do, and give you tips to help you manage your energy to help you heal.
Join us for a 7 day challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app!
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️ 2:14 Join the 7 Day Challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. ⭐️⭐️2:50 Review of the week- ⭐️⭐️⭐️5:32 Hollywood Hot Take: Kevin Costner blindsided by divorce and leaving Yellowstone. ⭐️⭐️10:08 What's depleting your energy? Learning to say no instead of yes. When we overcommit we end up spending a lot of our time and energy in resentment or trying to find a way out. ⭐️⭐️14:29 Find things you can infuse into your life that give a boost of energy. ⭐️⭐️⭐️16:10 Take inventory of your daily activities and commitments. What things are depleting your energy? What things are boosting your energy. Adjust accordingly ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:12 Be intentional and take time to pause. We are constantly rushing through life and it's leaving us feeling frazzled with no room for anything, let alone healing. ⭐️⭐️⭐️23:41 How to boost your energy: Join our 7 Days to Peace challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. Implement a simple morning routine, practice gratitude, exercise and movement, drink water.....there's a few ideas to get your started. ⭐️⭐️29:03 Affirmation of the week: "I calm myself by taking a deep breath in. I release all my anxiety as I excel. I am at peace."
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Words hold a lot of power and one of the first things we like to do in coaching is help you set up a declaration for healing, or a mantra that you can use to support yourself in your healing. We each share some of our past and current healing mantras and encourage you to set up some for yourself. You can do this no matter where you are at in your relationship recovery. AND.....
We have been holding on to some big news and working behind the scenes on something for over a YEAR and it's finally ready for you! We have an app! It's full of courses, workshops, guides, and so many other resources and it's constantly updated to continue to help you in every part of your journey.
Find the RECLAIM YOU app here!
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 1:11 Our Big Announcement ⭐️⭐️4:58 Hollywood Hot Take- Taylor Swift Breakup+Song Swap in her concert ⭐️⭐️⭐️7:32 Mantras for healing: set up a declaration for healing. This mantra for yourself becomes something to really focus on. Mantras can be short and simple. Mantras can change as you need them to, to best support you. ⭐️⭐️11:40 Kierstyn's tip to write mantras or affirmations in the present tense, as though you are already living them and they are true. ⭐️⭐️14:01 Affirmation of the week, this week you get TWO: "Today I allow my heart, the time it needs to heal. Although it may feel scarred from the past, I give it space to recover and recharge." "The lessons I've learned through my heartache are invaluable. With each lesson, I began to better understand what it means to love and be loved."

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Have you ever thought about how you relate to other people? Have you considered the ways you either trust or hold back trust, and how ingrained patterns of behavior set the tone for your relationships? If so, one of the big pieces of how this takes place is your attachment style. We all have one. Attachment styles begin to form when we are very young. The way they develop shape our security, our ability to deal with stress, how we set boundaries and more.
There are four basic attachment styles. Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful. The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge.
This self-knowledge can help you avoid hurtful relationships and make your existing ones even better. To get started, so you can discover more about the styles, please join us for this special podcast. If you’ve ever wondered why you want to be close to someone but push them away because you’re afraid of getting hurt… If you’ve ever been hesitant to open up and share your emotions… And if you’ve ever wondered what might be holding you back from enjoying the kind of relationship you know is possible…
Let’s spend a few minutes together. Let’s look at these attachment styles so you can better understand some of the things happening in your life. In this special podcast, you’ll discover:

• Which one of the four attachment styles you most closely relate to.
• Why it can sometimes be so difficult to trust somebody.
• The different ways insecurity can poison a relationship.
• Why it can be so easy to misinterpret your partner’s behaviors.

Our Listeners Favorite Moments: ⭐️⭐️2:15-3:11- Attachment template can evolve and change based on experiences and may differ between relationships️
⭐️️️️8:15-9:21- Wonderful parents, perfectionism played a role and carried into marriage️️️
️️⭐️⭐️⭐️15:47-17:35-No shame on you or your parents for insecure style…insecure attachment styles does not = bad parents/caregivers️️
Episode Tools & Resources:
4 Attachment Style Download: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/26 Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
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In this episode we are going to be talking about anchors and how you can use them in your healing journeys, your daily life, to work towards different goals, in any other way that they are helpful to you. We use anchors throughout our coaching. We use them all of the time, and we both really use them in our daily life.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️2:31 Client Testimonial ⭐️⭐️6:11 Hollywood Hot Take- Taylor Swift Breakup ⭐️⭐️⭐️9:47 What are anchors and why are they one of the very first things we teach in coaching. Anchors are anything in your physical environment that can remind you that you're on a mission to get to a different place and to get unstuck. ⭐️⭐️10:56 Kierstyn's physical anchors - tattoo, necklace, rose quartz, music, Steph Curry (yep, really) ⭐️⭐️15:10 Tiffany's physical anchors- lavender, tattoo, jewelry ⭐️⭐️⭐️18:34 Anchors can change through your different seasons in life and in healing or whenever you have different goals. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:34 Don't overcomplicate it. Use the 5 senses to help choose anchors for you. ⭐️⭐️⭐️24:15 Affirmation of the week: "Change can be scary, but it is a powerful teacher. I am open and willing to make room for different experiences to continue to teach me new things."
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Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep135 More Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

This episode is inspired straight from our real life. When Kierstyn found herself feeling a little 'less than' and went diving into the reason why, she found that social media filters were totally wrecking havoc on her self esteem and quite honestly causing a little bit of body dysmorphia. Today Tiffany and Kierstyn open up a conversation on the relationship you have with yourself, how you can take inventory on the things that are effecting that relationship, and how to get back to a place where you're feeling good about you.
FAVORITE MOMENTS:
⭐️1:41 Millennials and Filters ⭐️⭐️6:36 Kierstyn's self esteem being effected by social media filters ⭐️⭐️⭐️12:47 Self reflection and self awareness is key to having a healthy relationship with yourself ⭐️⭐️15:52 Snapchat dysmorphia and how filters are so unrealistic that even plastic surgeons can't recreate the look ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️21:37 Thinking about the message you are sending to yourself when you feel the need to use filters ⭐️⭐️25:25 Consider a social media detox ⭐️⭐️⭐️30:06 It's crucial to just take inventory with no shame or judgement
NEED OUR SUPPORT? Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: ⁠⁠https://therelationshiprecovery.as.me/schedule.php⁠ Resources from today's show: ⁠⁠https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9577667/https://hbr.org/2021/12/research-how-ar-filters-impact-peoples-self-image Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠
Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep134 More Resources: ⁠⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

What does it mean to be a safe person and are you one? Is the person you are in a relationship with a safe person and how do you know? What are the signs to look out for? In today's episode we are sharing 5 characteristics that safe people share. We encourage you to listen to this episode with a lens of curiosity rather than judgment. Maybe YOU don't do all these things and have something you can work on, maybe your partner falls short somewhere but is willing to put in the work to make this relationship happy and healthy.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️4:40 Hollywood Hot Take: Hailey and Selena ⭐️10:18 Partner is open to listening versus being dismissive ⭐️⭐️⭐️12:20 They know and express their boundaries and honor yours ⭐️⭐️15:55 They take the space they need when they need it, and they allow you to do that too. ⭐️⭐️⭐️20:16 They apologize and work to improve ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️22:59 They take accountability for their actions ⭐️⭐️33:44 Affirmation of the week: "I am resilient enough to recover from any challenging situation. I show up for myself every day, even when I don't feel like it."

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Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep133 More Resources: ⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

Inspired by this week's Hollywood Hot Take and some listener questions we are talking about when a partner cheats....with your best friend. We also take some listener questions all about cheating. Why do people cheat in the first place? Are some people more predisposed to cheating based on past life experiences, trauma, addictions or other influences? Why is cheating with a best friend is so common? We also talk about if YOU have been the cheater and how seeing that side of things has given both of us more understanding, empathy, and allowed for healing in ourselves that we weren’t expecting.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: 3:16 Defining what infidelity is in your relationships and creating boundaries together. 6:50 Review of the week and our upcoming LIVE events 9:46 Why do partners cheat with a best friend?  11:47 There are so many reasons why people cheat 18:08 Understanding and empathy for those who have cheated and are working to heal 19:42 How to heal from betrayal trauma  22:19 Getting a source of outside support 24:59 Affirmation of the week: “The challenges I have encountered have made me stronger. They inspire me to be my best version of myself.”
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It's a Hollywood Hot Take Takeover today with the recent news of local (to us) influencer Taylor Frankie Paul being arrested on Domestic Violence charges. Tiffany and Kierstyn dive head first into this topic, covering what this type of abuse looks like, why it's hard to get out, resources for help, and more. We also answer a few listener questions we've had come in recently like why is it so hard to leave an abusive relationship, how to deal with the pain of a cheating spouse, and how to work someone with avoidant attachment style.  LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS:  ⭐️⭐️4:23-5:27-it’s important to talk about that DV isn’t always a man abusing a woman…it can happen in any relationship dynamic
⭐️8:12-9:32-importance of reporting DV, Tiff’s personal story, Gabby Petito 
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️13:53-14:54-why it’s so hard to leave a relationship with an abusive ex, explanation of trauma bond/cycle of abuse
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️16:01-17:57-tips for dealing with a partner that has an avoidant attachment style, recognizing what your attachment style is so you can do the work to get to a secure place
⭐️⭐️⭐️21:55-23:22-important to do work (either together with the partner if you stayed, or on your own) to work through the betrayal trauma so it doesn’t continue to show up in your relationships
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: FADV.org linked and DV https://www.thehotline.org How to Break a Trauma Bond: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep124 The Different Attachment Styles https://pod.link/1606974947/episode/49a0a9179aade8717064788828a4d32d Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep131
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