The incomparable Mary Van Geffen is here to help us parent our Spicy Ones, or know if we secretly are one too! Mary deeply understands the science of attachment and parenting, and provides such a soothing dose of wisdom, honesty, self-awareness and humor that can make you feel a little braver in whatever you're navigating in your body and in your relationships.

We talk about how our spiciest challenges in whatever form they come, are often the biggest invitation back Home to Ourselves, because that is truly where we have our greatest power and influence.

We talk about embodiment practices that we use, she provides journal prompts, we talk about tools to soothe nervous system (donkey breaths!), and even how she hacked her physiology on her lawn to prove her husband wrong.

Mary is such a light and this conversations GIVES.

If you feel called to work with her, she has many incredible offerings and ways to work with her on her website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/

If you want to find out if you are parenting a Spicy One, take her quiz! https://www.maryvangeffen.com/quiz

You can also learn so much from her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/

What if there was an evidence-based way to discipline and parent our children that builds their brains, their capacity for problem-solving, strengthens our attachment relationship and also reduced our mental load??

Y'ALL. Not even kidding, this exists, and Dr. Tamara Soles is here to tell us all about it. I heard her on a podcast in 2018 and it literally changed my life-- I started implementing these principles in my relationships with my own children (and the families that I work with). This approach shifts us out of power struggles, indecision, and places a healthy amount of agency and power in our children's hands because children don't learn by being told what to do, they learn by making decisions.

This approach prioritizes connection and collaboration, while holding high warmth and high boundaries.

Dr. Tamara Soles is a Psychologist, Parent Coach, Podcaster and mother of twins, who deeply understands child development and the brain, and honors all of this while holding in mind our capacity as modern parents with limited support and time. Her approach is refreshingly loving and sustainable, while also empowering us to support our children in becoming the confident, internally driven intuitive adults they are meant to become.

I am so excited to share her and her work with you!

If you would like to connect more with Dr. Tamara Soles, her website is https://drtamarasoles.com/

Today on the podcast we are going deep into aggression and how to support our children when their behavior manifests as such. Tosha deeply understands the neuroscience of safety, and how we can provide the felt experience first in our bodies and then in our relationship with our child.

This episode provides insights, empathy and many ideas that you can start to implement today for your sweet child who is struggling with aggression. 

Tosha is a parent coach, mom, author and runs her program Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she has laser focused in on how to support this specific highly challenging behavior. Tosha has collaborated with Dr. Shefali and has worked with families all over the world. If you feel called to work with Tosha, she is having a FREE Workshop called "Stop the Aggression," on March 12, link below:

https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/free-workshop/?affiliate=thereprogrammedparent

I know how hard aggressive behavior can be to manage and support. I've never seen anyone focus in on this topic quite like Toscha, she gives this area the attention, tools and support it deserves!

If you are into two women in black turtlenecks talking about the healing power of dance, embodiment and spirituality, then you are going to love this episode with Asheville Icon, Misa Terral.

The more I learn about trauma and the nervous system, the more I value somatic expression--and there is no method quite like music plus dance plus community.

Misa is at the helm of Soulpower Dance, where she incorporates conscious choreography, energetic awareness and heart expanding moves inviting fun and freedom while digging deeper into embodiment, emotional wholeness and the spirit within. She creates safe playful spaces where we can emote, feel our power, move our anger, integrate our shadow, and experience the psychological phenomenon of Collective Joy.

Dancing to move and experience emotion has been pivotal in my healing and returning to Self, and I have had profound shifts in Misa's classes. I am so excited to have her wise grounded presence on the podcast today to explain how her work works, how she came to it, and what she feels about life.

She is a wise one y'all.

If you are not local to Asheville and feel drawn to work with her, Misa offers coaching as well and you can find that information here: https://www.soulpowerliving.com/coaching

Her IG is @soulpowerdance where she keeps us informed of her endless offerings that vary in topic but always return to the theme of accessing and embodying our highest selves.

Dutch Psychologist Barlas Gunay of the powerful and insightful Instagram account @acceptandact is here to go deep into all the things we Cyclebreakers need to know to heal, reclaim our power, and find peace and ease in our lives.

We talk about anger and why women struggle the most with this (and it's consequences), we talk about nervous system self-regulation, we talk about inner child work, shadow work, and the trends that he sees culturally that give him so much hope about the healing possible for everyone in this Age of Information.

If you notice me covering the same topics over and over again at times, it's because I am! We can't learn enough about nervous system health, inner child work and Shadow work, and I absolutely love the way Barlas explains it all, how passionate he is, and how he is embodying the healthy masculine energy we all need.

If you would like to connect with Barlas, his IG is @acceptandact, there you can join his Patreon and get connected to his Cyclebreaking community and support group.

If you would like to connect with me on IG: I am @the.reprogrammed.parent

I see you, I celebrate you, I'm with you, I am you. XO

Fellow therapist, coach and Instagram co-worker Shenikka Moore-Clarke is here today to explain many healing concepts that we all need to know about now, such as attachment, projection, somatics, cyclebreaking while parenting and The Safe and Sound Protocol, a nervous system healing tool that seems like it comes straight out of Star Trek.

This is an informative conversation between two clinicians and mamas who are living the work, who found their way back home to themselves in similar ways and are eager to teach others about what they've learned.

Shenikka is a long licensed clinician who had a health crisis land at her doorstep, and pushed her to move into somatic and nervous system healing work for her own healing.

Shenikka is my favorite kind of clinician, one who humbly guides her clients back towards their bodies and themselves.

If you would like to connect with Shenikka, follow her informative and funny IG at @the.healingvibe.

If you would like to find a clinician in your area who offers the Safe and Sound Protocol, you can look at this website: https://integratedlistening.com/products/ssp-safe-sound-protocol/?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=&utm_campaign={campaign}&utm_content={content}&hsa_acc=2148588241&hsa_cam=15801363830&hsa_grp=152522012308&hsa_ad=638351133499&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=dsa-1922928373574&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA8YyuBhBSEiwA5R3-E9qRNYAjOlSdWUFAiXaSRdEhaxVWyZFWRSH43ww1IOe5nxwcpY91ThoC3fUQAvD_BwE

OK y'all, I know I am the Queen of Hyperbole, but are you ready to be forever changed??

This episode with journalist and author Rose Hackman will make you pissed, empowered, and will lift the veil (once again, because that's what we do now!) on what Emotional Labor is, how you're (probably) doing most of it, and how the people in your lives (cough cough, men) are absolutely able to do it as well. 

I have a hunch that Emotional Labor is a term you've heard whiffs of on Instagram, but you're not quite sure what it is. Rose Hackman literally wrote the book on it and spent years heavily researching the topic, how it plays out in our society, and how we can move our way out of the insidious expectations on women that are robbing us of our energy, influence, and making us feel so damn resentful.

There is tenderness and hope here-- I'm very intentionally not wanting to man-bash here, but I deeply believe we do need to understand these dynamics so we can see them, and then change them. This is a potent episode and you will not want to miss it!

Rose Hackman is the author of Emotional Labor; The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim our Power, which you can purchase here: https://static.macmillan.com/static/fib/emotional-labor/

You can also access more of her work on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/rose.hackwoman/

This POWERFUL episode with researcher, author and teacher Sarah Peyton had me taking notes and crying, because she explains what hurts us and what can heal us in the most validating scientific and soothing way possible.

Unlike anyone else I have yet to meet, Sarah has gone deep into the research of our brains and how not only our early attachment wounds and non-verbal messages have impacted us, but also that "the brain is forever available for resonant support and accompaniment."

In this episode we discuss the unconscious contracts we make with our parents to make ourselves bad instead of them, the socially normalized traumatized default mode network (that's the part of our brain that goes offline when we do psychedelics), how we can move unintegrated painful experiences into a different part of brain so we are no longer activated by present day similar experience, the dark insula, and how we can time travel using our imagination to reorganize and heal our brains.

This episode shifted so much for my awareness as a mother, human, and healer, and you deserve to be empowered and inspired by such information as well. Enjoy!

Sarah's books, courses, mediations and trainings for clinical professionals can be found on her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/

If you would like to connect further with me, my website is annodom.org and my IG is: @the.reprogrammed.parent

Wise and gentle Lelia Schott is here to honor our children and nurture us into neuro emotional awareness and healing for general life sustainability and parenting impact. 

As she states, “connection is a child’s deepest need and a parent’s highest influence.” 

AHHH. You know I love her. 

Lelia deeply understands the neuroscience behind our humanness, and like me, prioritizes everyone’s experience so that we can actually implement and embody the healthy ways we’re trying to treat our children.

This is a nice long back and forth conversation between us where we impart the knowledge that we have gained in our own healing journeys and how we’ve grown alongside our children. As you start to immerse yourself in these new concepts, this is the perfect way to marinate in these ideas with yumminess of our accountability, reflections and “me too-ness.”

Lelia is a South African mama of 6 who does 1-on-1 Coaching with parents all over the world, and also has a Course Offering called The Empowered Parenting Course where she covers topics such as Making Sense of Attachment and Nervous System Science, Anger and Healthy Aggression (YAS!), Playful Parenting and Storytelling and Your Personal Transformation. I so align with all that she focuses on, and in the gentle nurturing way that she does and I trust that you will too. Enjoy!

If you’d like to connect with Lelia and her work her IG is: https://www.instagram.com/leliaschott_synergyparenting

And if you’d like to connect with me and my work you can find me on IG: @the.reprogrammed.parent or my website, annodom.org

Grounded Queen Chelsea Buncher is on the pod today to talk about her deep reverence for nature/the body and it's innate healing abilities as an acupuncturist, single mama, and woman in a body over 40.

Chelsea talks so beautifully about the epiphanies that she had in her life that led to her philosophical stance on being a healer, and how she empowers her children to trust and attune to their bodies and surroundings as well.

This conversation is such a refreshing reframe on how we can have deep reverence for the body, and support our children to live aligned with theirs. She and I give recent examples of how we are honoring our children's bodies and supporting the messages from and needs of the body, and also how we can live in alignment with the seasons during these cold barren winter months.

So glad this fellow mama provided us with such warmth when we need it the most.

Here is the book Chelsea read that shifted her disordered eating:

https://dranitajohnston.com/eating-in-the-light-of-the-moon/

If you live locally and would like to work with Chelsea here is her website: https://www.lumenholistic.com/

If you'd like to connect with me further, my IG is: @thereprogrammed.parent