In today's episode, we answer the question many women are asking, "What Is Wrong With These Men???" and discuss the real answers with Nate Shanok, a Neuroscientist, two time author, University Professor and Neuropsychologist who recently joined the Rewire4Success team.

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In this video, we share our story and how we developed on of the most comprehensive recovery systems for couples in the recovery space. This system based on neuroscience, psychology and the study of human behavior is changing lives, saving families and helping break generational cycles.

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What makes certain unfaithful behaviors considered "cheating" or not?

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The event caught on camera with Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and his mistress has has gone VIRAL on many levels. It's very clear to all who observed the couple's horrified faces, that this was not supposed to be seen by 50,000 people, let alone, millions of others on social media.

We don't normally do content based on the latest news or viral trends, but this circumstance has brought up a lot of conversation and difficult emotions for women, and we believed it was worth talking about, especially given the work we do. Women across the globe are relating to the emotional devestation the CEOs wife and family at home are now inevitably going through, and many are speaking up about it.

But what is it that made this so clearly cheating?

And if that's cheating, then to be quite blunt, why is it that so many people have no concept of why betrayal by a partner who's actively masturbating day in and day out to other women is cheating too?

Tonight, we're going to be discussing:

- What makes something cheating or not cheating?

- Why do so many people not see porn as cheating?

- The entry point into conversations with your partner on this topic

And MORE.

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I remember the conversation clearly with Rick when he told me that this issue really wasn't "personal".

I felt the trigger happen and the anger rush to my chest and my face as I recognized what he was really saying... I said, “Are you kidding me??? This isn’t personal??? I’m sorry but for me it’s really f*cking personal. For women, it affects everything in our lives - including how we feel about ourselves and how YOU our partner see us and feel about us… I’d say that’s pretty f*cking personal.” Maybe FOR MEN, this isn't personal.... ...but the horrific truth FOR WOMEN is this is VERY personal. So tonight e are going to share some pretty significant insights on this topic. (If you really want to come out the other side of this with your partner, you're not going to want to miss this.)

In this episode, we'll be covering:

AND MORE.

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Many men don't know that the years of their porn use and of objectification of women is even that significant of an issue... until they realize this is destroying their relationship and they try to stop.

At that point, when the unwanted thoughts and cravings for people outside of their relationship persist, it feels overwhelming and defeating. They don't know how to handle the frequency of these things or why it's happening, and fear being honest with their partner about these unfaithful feelings.

This often keeps them hiding in shame and secrecy and results in cycles of shame, guilt, overwhelm and relapses. It's clear that overcoming this is much more than just a decision.

For women, when they become aware of what's actually happening internally for him, they feel helpless and hopeless. How will he ever be a faithful partner if even when he doesn't want these things consciously, they're still happening?

How will I ever be able to feel normal again and like there isn't a threat around every corner? How will I ever be able to trust him and feel chosen or connected?

So in this episode, we'll be sharing insights into this difficult topic and going over:

- What's happening for men when they're experiencing intrusive thoughts

- What NOT to do when this is happening (for him and for her)

- What you CAN do when this is happening (for him and for her)

AND MORE.

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Whether you're at the beginning of this journey, been working on this issue together for a while, or are deep into recovery with specialized help and guidance, you're probably still asking this question:

"How do you know when to walk away?"

This recovery process is full of ups and downs, and trying to know whether you're making the right decision to continue in it with him can be a daily torturous existence.

So today, we'll be going into:

- Why this is something you keep feeling like you need to know

- What my therapist said to me that helped change everything

- What questions to ask when evaluating whether to stay or go

AND MORE.

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In this episode, we talk in depth about the impacts of porn on the brain and the pandemic that men, women and families are experiencing at this time in our culture as a result. We go into questions like:

What does porn really do to men’s brains?

Why can it lead to PIED?

Why does it escalate to things like out of control fetishes, promiscuous behavior and in person infidelity?

Why is there such a disconnect to understanding this as an unfaithful act and understanding their partner’s pain?

Why do men with this addiction also exhibit alarming narcissistic traits?

Why after stopping use of porn, doesn’t this fix everything for the man and give him back the ability to connect with a real life partner?

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Fair Use Credits:

1. Dopamine Release Level Comparison Chart: https://chrisvacc.medium.com/ Accessed December 2024

2. Episode From "The Doctors": Man Shares How a Porn Addiction Ruined His Relationships - YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iADXjkens14&ab_channel=TheDoctors

3. The Progression Of Addictive Disorders Over Time graph: https://neurotorium.org/ published July 24, 2024

4. Experts Talk About the Effects of Porn on the Brain: Fight The New Drug YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FyVaFel5Zsw&ab_channel=FighttheNewDrug

5. Can We Actually Lose Our Empathy? This Expert Explains What Porn Does to the Mind: RuthInstitute YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYVnGnCubKs&t=1s&ab_channel=RuthInstitute

6. De-sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life: ManTalks YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m7lnIdudEy8&t=267s&ab_channel=ManTalks

7. Denver ABC News published May 24, 2017 https://www.denver7.com/news/local-news/pornography-addiction-grips-young-americans-compared-to-crack-cocaine

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Sleepless nights.

Anxiety through the roof.

Ruminating thoughts.

Tears. Anger. Shock.

When you're going through betrayal trauma, your entire world gets flipped upside down. Every day feels like survival just to get to the next. Not to mention the conversations that leave you drained and questioning everything. The guilt you feel when you can't be authentically present or happy around your family, coworkers or friends.

And still, you have to keep the little humans alive. You have to make sure the house is functionable. The pets fed, the bills paid, the appointments not forgotten. It's enough to drive anyone into severe depression and unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I'm sure you and many others in here are asking this question...

"How in the HELL do I care for myself right now???"

In this episode, of the Rewire4Success podcast we are talking with one of the newest members of our team, Ashana Kaiulani who is a Certified Holistic Nutritional Health Coach and Life Coach, specializing in helping women dealing with trauma.

We'll be covering:

- Why betrayal trauma feels so earth shattering

- How to best care for yourself when you're dealing with such intense daily pain and anxious thoughts

- Each of our own pieces of personal best advice for women going through this experience

And MORE.

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Whether you're at the beginning of this journey, been working on this issue together for a while, or are deep into recovery with specialized help and guidance, you're probably still asking this question: "How do you know when to walk away?"

This recovery process is full of ups and downs, and trying to know whether you're making the right decision to continue in it with him can be a daily torturous existence. So in this episode, we'll be going into:

- Why this is something you keep feeling like you need to know

- What my therapist said to me that helped change everything

- What questions to ask when evaluating whether to stay or go

AND MORE.

Join us for this important topic we'll be discussing with Andy, a Licensed Love & Sex Addiction Specialist and Couples Recovery Coach on our team.