Today I have a special guest joining us. Dr. Rahat Sayyad.  I found her on Instagram and she's from India! She is a physician (Intensivist practicing for 6 years), a mom of two toddlers and she enjoys reading medical journals, listening with podcasts, writing, she can't dance and she hates lizards. I love those fun facts about her.

I was reading through some of her posts and I was really interested with one in particular about how we have to parent differently than the way we were raised and not to say that our parents are wrong, but times have changed and there are so many things we can do better when we know better. So we're going to cover some of those things today.

I get comments all the time from my mom, her friends, my aunts and they always say I wish I would have known this when I was raising kids. I think that's something just like with kids when they know better, they can do better and when WE know better WE can do better. 

Let's talk about how we can raise emotionally stable well-adjusted humans by parenting differently than we were parented and I've selected just a few of her eight points that she made in her post to expand on with me. (The rest of this blog is information from Dr. Rahat Sayyad that was spoken on my podcast)

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If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

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BITING USUALLY BEGINS DURING TODDLERHOOD

Around 17 months to the age of three years old is the peak of aggression for most children. This aggression comes out in hitting, biting, scratching, or screaming. And the reason why this is the most aggressive period of time is that children have higher needs but lower language skills. Their needs are higher, but they don't have the skills to be able to communicate those needs. A lot of their frustration and communication come out with physical aggression, hence an increase in biting.

It’s important to know before I get started that biting is absolutely developmentally appropriate, meaning it is normal for children to bite. They are not Psychopaths. They do not need to be isolated or never have a playdate again.

There are things we can do to help with the biting, reduce it, and have our children function in a way so they can be around other children. So biting is absolutely normal, but it is also unacceptable.

WHY DO CHILDREN BITE?

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If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

BITING USUALLY BEGINS DURING TODDLERHOOD

Around 17 months to the age of three years old is the peak of aggression for most children. This aggression comes out in hitting, biting, scratching, or screaming. And the reason why this is the most aggressive period of time is that children have higher needs but lower language skills. Their needs are higher, but they don't have the skills to be able to communicate those needs. A lot of their frustration and communication come out with physical aggression, hence an increase in biting.

It’s important to know before I get started that biting is absolutely developmentally appropriate, meaning it is normal for children to bite. They are not Psychopaths. They do not need to be isolated or never have a playdate again.

There are things we can do to help with the biting, reduce it, and have our children function in a way so they can be around other children. So biting is absolutely normal, but it is also unacceptable.

WHY DO CHILDREN BITE?

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If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

Is it a speech delay? Don’t wait and see. Discover how to determine if your child has a speech delay, the next steps, and how the delay affects success with behavior, academics, and social life. Speech delay is sometimes confused with autism and vice versa.

With Speech Therapist, Angie Hronek, MS, CCC-SLP

www.ASHA.org

@speechworksutah

www.speechworksutah.com

https://speechworksutah.lpages.co/now-youre-talkin

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If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

Is it a speech delay? Don’t wait and see. Discover how to determine if your child has a speech delay, the next steps, and how the delay affects success with behavior, academics, and social life. Speech delay is sometimes confused with autism and vice versa.

With Speech Therapist, Angie Hronek, MS, CCC-SLP

www.ASHA.org

@speechworksutah

www.speechworksutah.com

https://speechworksutah.lpages.co/now-youre-talkin

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Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching

_____________________________________

If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

Jake Neeley is the Malouf Foundation director, which is a foundation that is a part of the company Malouf.

Malouf Foundation is supported by Malouf, so anything that comes into the foundation goes out to support their cause. Human trafficking is one of the fastest-growing criminal enterprises in the world.

Jake considers himself familiar with this cause but recognizes that this is a complicated, multi-faceted issue that we are ALL learning about. Any of us can learn more about human trafficking.

Everyone doesn't have to be an EXPERT, but this will bring us to a higher level of competence to understand what it looks like and how to help victims.

Find Malouf Foundation:

https://www.malouffoundation.org/

Take the Malouf Foundation On Watch training here: https://www.malouffoundation.org/onwatch/

Instagram: @malouffoundation

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Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching

_____________________________________

If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

Jake Neeley is the Malouf Foundation director, which is a foundation that is a part of the company Malouf.

Malouf Foundation is supported by Malouf, so anything that comes into the foundation goes out to support their cause. Human trafficking is one of the fastest-growing criminal enterprises in the world.

Jake considers himself familiar with this cause but recognizes that this is a complicated, multi-faceted issue that we are ALL learning about. Any of us can learn more about human trafficking.

Everyone doesn't have to be an EXPERT, but this will bring us to a higher level of competence to understand what it looks like and how to help victims.

Find Malouf Foundation:

https://www.malouffoundation.org/

Take the Malouf Foundation On Watch training here: https://www.malouffoundation.org/onwatch/

Instagram: @malouffoundation

⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting

⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting

Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching

_____________________________________

If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

So back at the beginning when I did my very first podcast, I talked to you guys about a boy in my classroom who had really challenging behavior (he was stabbing kids with pencils), and everything we were trying just wasn't working. And so we implemented an individualized Behavior Support plan. What I didn't tell you in the episode is everything that led up to that.

I'm going to talk to you a little bit about the teaching pyramid model and why it's so important for us to understand not only as teachers but also as parents. There are foundational pieces that we need to have present in our homes to help us create an environment that supports the kind of behaviors that we want our children to have before we get into the consequences and the discipline.

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Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching

_____________________________________

If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

_____________________________________

So back at the beginning when I did my very first podcast, I talked to you guys about a boy in my classroom who had really challenging behavior (he was stabbing kids with pencils), and everything we were trying just wasn't working. And so we implemented an individualized Behavior Support plan. What I didn't tell you in the episode is everything that led up to that.

I'm going to talk to you a little bit about the teaching pyramid model and why it's so important for us to understand not only as teachers but also as parents. There are foundational pieces that we need to have present in our homes to help us create an environment that supports the kind of behaviors that we want our children to have before we get into the consequences and the discipline.

⋒ BOOK PURCHASE: https://bit.ly/xojournal

⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting

⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting

Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching

_____________________________________

If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

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All behavior is communication, even PARENT behavior. When we feel triggered or explode for no logical reason -- it's likely that we have trapped emotion coming to the surface. Talesha Carter, is going to share how we UN-TRAP that emotion & how do we help our kids do the same.

Emotions are energy in motion. If you take anything that has energy, like a thought, vibration, feeling -- all of that combined together can become trapped in the body.

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If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes.

Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world.

I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships.

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Find Talesha

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