The Rob Arthur Podcast

Recognizing your flaws isn't easy.

Accepting that you'll never be perfect isn't easy.

Doing the work to be better day after day isn't easy.

That's what loving yourself calls for.

Practice, patience, and persistence.

It's a learning process.

Self-love is a skill.

It’s natural to struggle.

There will be days when you’re down on yourself.

When you feel unworthy.

When you feel hopeless.

When you feel stuck.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Those days, do whatever you can.

Even if simply acknowledging how you’re feeling.

Use the better days to build the skill.

To show yourself whatever love you can.

With your words, thoughts, and actions.

To take a step forward.

No matter how small.

You’ll wonder if it’s working.

You'll feel like it's a lost cause.

You’ll doubt if it’s even possible.

We’ve all got our shortcomings.

These can make self-love feel so out of reach.

They also make it worth it.

You’re worth it.

You’ve got this.

Are your efforts difficult enough to push you to adapt, learn, and grow?

Are they easy enough for you to confidently execute?

Do you have the strength to fail and try again?

This is where you'll make long term progress.

Find the "sweet spot" between difficult and easy.

This might be in the gym.

It might be on the field.

At the office.

Wherever you’re putting in the work.

Find that balance.

This won’t be a quick process.

At times, you’ll push yourself too hard.

Others, you won’t push yourself hard enough.

Keep a close eye on your progress.

When you stop moving forward, ask yourself why.

Are you making things too easy?

Are you making things to difficult?

Make an adjustment.

See how it affects you.

Rinse and repeat.

Have patience.

This won’t happen overnight.

Have self-compassion.

You won’t always be successful.

Keep showing up.

Keep doing the work.

One step at a time.

You’ve got this.

Have you ever wondered about the benefits of breathing deeply or how to do it?

If so, you'll definitely want to read my article all about deep breathing at coachroba.com/breathe

Have a lovely Wednesday!

There's always somebody leaner.

There's always somebody stronger.

There's always somebody curvier, faster, or more of whatever physical trait you're after.

That doesn't mean they're happier or more valuable.

You are so much more than your size, shape, or strength.

By all means, work on your physical health.

Your body is the only one you’ll ever have.

Treat it with love.

Recognize everything it can do for you.

Sure, it might need some work.

There’s nothing wrong with that.

It’s perfectly normal to want to be healthier and more fit.

Those might be best seen as means to other ends.

As taking care of your body so that you can do other things.

So that you can spend time with the people you love.

Doing things that put a smile on your face.

Living your best life until the day you kick the bucket.

Your body can do that for you.

Nobody else’s.

Stop comparing yourself to others.

Look to yourself for comparison.

Who you were yesterday.

Who you want to be tomorrow.

Use today to make it happen.

With patience.

With persistence.

With self-compassion.

You’ve got this.

Some days are better than others.

No day is perfect.

At times, this is totally our fault.

Often, this is completely out of our hands.

Regardless, there's no use in dwelling on today.

All we can do is let it go and move forward.

Tomorrow is a new day.

Of course, today affects tomorrow.

Just as yesterday affected today.

Yet, there’s only one day we can do anything about.

Not those behind us, but those before us.

Even tomorrow isn’t a guarantee.

It is an opportunity, though.

Look ahead.

Choose optimism.

Make big plans.

Understand there’s no promise of success.

Pursue your best life anyway.

You will likely fall short.

There will be failures.

There will be mistakes.

There will be disappointments.

Just as you faced these yesterday and today, you will tomorrow.

Yet, you’ll be smarter, tougher, and more equipped to handle them.

Learn, grow, and take whatever you can from today.

Then, focus on what’s before you.

Look to tomorrow.

You’ve got this.

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Have a wonderful Friday!

You might be eating well and training hard.

You might be crushing it at work.

You might be studying diligently.

Somehow, some way, you're working for something.

Are you doing it for yourself or for somebody else?

If no one could see you, would you still do it?

All that time?

All that effort?

Putting in the work, day in and day out?

Is it an effort to live what you see as your best life?

Striving to make the most of each day?

To live a life of satisfaction?

Or to impress?

To appease?

To avoid criticism?

You have nobody to answer to but yourself.

There are circumstances when others’ opinions matter.

You decide when that is, though.

It’s always up to you.

You may, at times, not like your choices.

You may do things you don’t want to in the moment.

Yet, you determine when those times are.

It’s up to you which efforts align with your goals, dreams, and values.

Consider what your end goal is.

Is it to look back on your deathbed with peace?

To wake up every day, eager to work toward a worthy goal?

You are worthy of that kind of life.

You’ve got this.

Mindfulness is one of your most powerful tools for living a ridiculously awesome life.

To learn all about mindfulness - including what it is, what are its benefits, and how to practice it - check out my latest post at coachroba.com/mindfulness

Have a lovely Wednesday!

You could ruminate over your failures.

Feel discouraged by your weaknesses.

Let your shortcomings get you down.

Spend all day focusing on what you can't do.

You’ll get nowhere without doing something about it.

Focus on what you can do.

That might mean working on your shortcomings.

It might mean capitalizing on your strengths.

Perhaps both.

Regardless, it calls for a shift of perspective.

Recognizing nobody will live your life for you.

That it’s on you to go after what you want.

To work on your eating habits.

To start hitting the gym.

To go to bed earlier.

To take the class, apply for the job, or whatever else it is that you want.

You might have disadvantages.

Others might have advantages.

All you can ever do is do what you can.

Identify what you want.

Make a plan to get there.

Take one step at a time.

Assess your progress.

Adjust your plan as you go.

Have patience when it takes time.

Have self-compassion when you fail.

Keep showing up.

You’ve got this.

It might be difficult.

It might take a long time.

It might not end up how you want.

There are countless reasons not to try.

What happens, though, if you don't?

What's the alternative?

To do nothing?

To not even give it a shot?

To guarantee that it won’t happen?

You might spare yourself the failure.

What kind of life is that, though?

It might be comfortable.

It might be easier.

It might be safe.

What about decades from now?

Looking back at the steps you didn’t take?

The effort you didn’t put in?

All that time spent not living?

Is that the alternative you want?

Living through that regret?

You’re worthy of so much more.

You will make mistakes.

You will have failures.

You will put forth fruitless effort.

You’ll also look back and know you tried.

With the peace of having given it your all.

What better alternative is there than that?

You’ve got this.