From our earliest days as little human beings we love secrets. There’s something that makes kids a little giddy about knowing something special. In fact, psychology researcher and author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships and Who We Are Michael Slepian says kids know intuitively that sharing a secret is a way to create intimacy. He tells Ali that if you ask a child what a secret is, they might say it’s something you share with your best friend. Oh, but we do grow up. When do secrets become dangerous? Slepian uses his unique research to explain what our most common secrets tend to be, why we keep them, why we sometimes need to share them, and how that can be good for our mental health.

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Links of Interest:

Book: The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships and Who We Are

Articles with Slepian’s Research:

“The Secrets You Keep Are Hurting You - Here’s How”, Psychology Today (01/22/19)

“Why We Keep So Many Secrets”, Psychology Today (07/05/22)

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