The Self-ish Me Podcast

"Not good with money" is something almost every woman has thought about herself. But it is not a personality trait and it is not the truth. It is what every woman inherits about finances through decades of conditioning, handed down so quietly most of us never think to question it.

In this episode, Kamila traces exactly where that belief comes from, turning it into a genuine women's empowerment conversation that starts not with budgeting apps, but with the stories we were handed as girls.

You will walk away with:

• A clear understanding of why feeling not good with money is a product of societal conditioning, not capability
• The research showing how girls are socialised around finances differently from boys, from childhood through to adult life
• Recognition of how shame and silence around money quietly remove whole possibilities from your awareness, and what letting go of shame opens up
• Kamila's own story of growing up in post-communist Poland and the inherited money beliefs she carried for decades without knowing it
• One practical first step to start overcoming societal expectations around money and writing your own financial story
  

Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach specialising in personal development for women. She draws on research into societal conditioning and her own lived experience to show that understanding how women are socialized is genuinely life-changing.

If you have ever avoided looking at your bank account or felt like growing your money was for someone else, press play.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

The Money Script Toolkit https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj
If you preparing to negotiate your salary check this episode on Money, Confidence and Changing the Rules
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw
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Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one believes you.

In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend Lottie, an advocate for young people from care experience backgrounds with over a decade in education, safeguarding and wellbeing, for an honest conversation about menstrual cycles and women's health, period shame, and what it truly means to be believed.

You'll walk away with:

• Real stories of period pain so severe it meant ambulances, fainting, and medical dismissal
• Why shame around menstruation is learned, not inevitable, and how to stop passing it on
• Practical ways to advocate for yourself in medical settings, including going prepared and bringing someone you trust
• How normalising menstrual cycles with children can change the next generation's relationship with their bodies
• A reminder that letting go of shame around your body starts with being witnessed and believed

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings her own lived experience of endometriosis and expertise in women's wellbeing to this raw, empowering conversation. This is the episode to send to every woman who has ever second-guessed her period pain and been told it's just how it is.

Want to go deeper? Listen to Kamila's episode, Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women's Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth, Press play https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA

Connect with Kam

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LinkedIn Lottie Ormerod | LinkedIn

Period Poem https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu

Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one believes you.

In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend Lottie, an advocate for young people from care experience backgrounds with over a decade in education, safeguarding and wellbeing, for an honest conversation about menstrual cycles and women's health, period shame, and what it truly means to be believed.

You'll walk away with:

• Real stories of period pain so severe it meant ambulances, fainting, and medical dismissal
• Why shame around menstruation is learned, not inevitable, and how to stop passing it on
• Practical ways to advocate for yourself in medical settings, including going prepared and bringing someone you trust
• How normalising menstrual cycles with children can change the next generation's relationship with their bodies
• A reminder that letting go of shame around your body starts with being witnessed and believed
  

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings her own lived experience of endometriosis and expertise in women's wellbeing to this raw, empowering conversation. This is the episode to send to every woman who has ever second-guessed her period pain and been told it's just how it is.

Want to go deeper? Listen to Kamila's episode, Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women's Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth, Press play https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA

Connect with Kam

Insta @coachingwithkam

LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

Connect with Lottie
LinkedIn Lottie Ormerod | LinkedIn

Period Poem https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu

You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter? That's not a performance problem. It's a visibility problem. And career growth for women often stalls right there.

This episode is all about what actually drives career progression, and it is not just hard work. It is how intentionally you are building your personal brand at work, whether you are remote, hybrid, or in the office every day.

You will walk away with:

• A clear understanding of why performance alone accounts for only 10% of career success (and what the other 90% is)
• A practical framework for building visibility beyond your manager and immediate team
• The difference between a mentor and a sponsor, and why women need both for real career growth
• A way to map the relationships that actually influence your career progression
• Concrete language to communicate your impact in a way that resonates with senior leaders, peers, and stakeholders

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach with over a decade in Learning and Development, draws on her own promotions, mistakes, and research to make this one genuinely useful.

If career growth for women is something you think about but never quite act on, this is the episode to start with. Press play.

Connect with Kam
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LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago.

In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them.

This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day.

It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look?

Connect with Kam

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You have achieved something real, something you worked hard for, and somehow your brain is already looking for the flaw. That feeling that you got lucky, that you don't quite belong, that one mistake is about to expose everything? That is imposter syndrome. And if you have ever felt it, you are not broken. You might just be responding to an environment that was never fully designed with you in mind.

This episode goes deeper than the usual "believe in yourself" advice. It explores where imposter syndrome actually comes from and why women experience it more frequently and more persistently throughout their careers.

You will walk away with:

• An understanding of why imposter syndrome is not just a confidence problem, it is often a systemic response to environments that taught you to doubt yourself
• A clear explanation of attribution theory and why women are more likely to credit luck instead of their own capability
• The concept of the "third shift" and why cognitive overload is connected to self-doubt in ways we rarely talk about
• Six practical tools you can use right now, including the ta-da list, feelings vs facts columns, and borrowing confidence before you feel it
• A new question to ask yourself the next time self-doubt shows up: is this really about me, or is this about what I am responding to?

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, draws on academic research, attribution theory, and her own honest experience of imposter syndrome to make this one feel like a conversation you actually needed to have.

Press play. This is the episode that might finally change the question you ask yourself.

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We have been taught to push through, show up the same way every single day, and treat our biology as an inconvenience. But what if ignoring our bodies is exactly what is holding us back?

In this episode I sit down with Dr. Hanne, clinical psychologist and founder of Thea Psychology, a practice built entirely for women, and we get into something that most advice around women's careers completely skips over. Where are you in your cycle? What is happening in your nervous system? What do your hormonal changes actually mean for how you lead, decide, and show up under stress? These are the questions that changed everything for me.

We also get honest about the double bind so many women are navigating at work. Be warm and you are not taken seriously. Be direct and you are difficult. Be emotional and you lose the project. Women's careers are still being judged on personality rather than performance, and that bias lives in all of us, not just in the people above us. Dr. Hanne and I talk about why that happens, what organisations can actually do about it, and how understanding your menstrual cycle and nervous system might be the most underrated tool for your wellbeing and career growth.

Your body was never the obstacle. It has always been the map.

Connect with Kam

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Insta @theapsychology
LinkedIn Dr Hanne Warren | LinkedIn

Website www.theapsychology.co.uk
Lead True - women's leadership programme: https://theapsychology.co.uk/lead-true/ 

Single women are still being pitied, questioned, and quietly judged for a choice that has nothing wrong with it. If you've ever been asked "but why are you single?" or felt the pressure of timelines you never agreed to, this episode will feel like a conversation you've needed for a long time.

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, explores what it really means to choose singlehood as a woman, drawing on research into singlism, voluntary singleness, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their worth is tied to partnership. This is not a self-help pep talk. It is an honest, research-grounded look at the stereotypes single women navigate every day and why so many women are pushing back.

If you are single and at peace with it but still feel the weight of other people's opinions, this episode will validate what you already know. And if you are a woman in your thirties who has chosen to be single for the last few years and is tired of explaining that choice to everyone around her, this one is especially for you.

We also explore female sexuality outside relationships, the myth that being single means being lonely, and why choosing a comfortable, peaceful life is not selfishness. It is self-respect.

Because you were never meant to shrink your life to fit a timeline someone else created for you.

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You have been powering through for so long that you stopped noticing the warning signs. The exhaustion you keep calling a rough patch. The anxiety you keep promising yourself will ease once things calm down. The moment your body finally said enough. That is not weakness. That is burnout. And if any of that sounds familiar, this episode on burnout recovery is for you.

Seven years ago, Kamila had her first panic attack on a packed train to work. She was later diagnosed with burnout, secondary depression, and anxiety. This episode is the conversation she wishes she could have had before that morning.

You will walk away with:

• A guided visualisation using the PERMA model to show you exactly which parts of your wellbeing are running on empty right now
• The five stages of burnout and how to identify honestly where you currently are
• Why women carry a disproportionate invisible load, and how that compounds exhaustion in ways that are rarely acknowledged
• The internal patterns that drive burnout, including perfectionism, people-pleasing, and avoiding negative emotions
• Practical tools that actually helped Kamila recover, including grounding techniques, values alignment, self-compassion practices.

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings both the research and the lived experience to this one. No toxic positivity. No quick fixes. Just honesty, clarity, and a reminder that recovery is possible.

If burnout recovery feels far away right now, start here. Press play.

Connect with Kam

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LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

Motherhood and choice are two words that rarely get to sit together without someone having an opinion about the outcome. If you have ever been asked when you are having children, felt the weight of that question land somewhere deep, or found yourself genuinely unsure whether you want motherhood or whether you were simply raised to want it, this episode is for you.

Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, shares one of the most personal stories she has told on this podcast. From growing up in Catholic Poland where motherhood was never a question but an expectation, to donating her eggs at 31, freezing her own, and ultimately arriving at a decision that brought her relief rather than loss. This is not an episode telling you what to choose. It is an honest, research-grounded exploration of how women actually make this decision when they strip away the pressure, the timelines, and everyone else's expectations.

If you are a woman in your thirties navigating this question, this episode gives you space to sit with it honestly. We explore why so many women cannot tell the difference between what they want and what they were raised to want, what the research says about parental regret, why university-educated women do not even register motherhood as a pressing question until they are 33, and how to set boundaries with the people who love you but keep crossing a line on this topic.

Because there is no wrong answer here. There is only yours.

Connect with Kam

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LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn