The Self Leadership LAB

In this empowering episode of The Self Leadership LAB Podcast, delve into the powerful concept of extreme ownership—the transformative principle brought to light by Jocko Willink, retired Navy Seal. Join host Laura Dewey as she explores the first fundamental principle: "There are no bad teams, only bad leaders."

Drawing from her experience in facilitating a leadership offsite, Laura rephrases this principle to "Look to Yourself First." This language shift help leaders transcend the notion of being a "bad" leader and instead embrace a more energizing journey of continuous improvement.

In this podcast, Laura encourages listeners to apply the principles of extreme ownership both in their professional leadership roles and in leading their own lives. Emphasizing that we can only control ourselves and our actions, she urges listeners to abandon blame and instead take ownership of their results.

Tune in to The Self Leadership LAB Podcast to discover the transformative power of extreme ownership, and learn to embrace personal accountability as a key to unlocking success and growth in leadership and life.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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Join host Laura Dewey as she delves into the powerful practice of accepting compliments with grace. Unravel the common tendency to deflect compliments and diminish their significance to instead step into ownership and self-esteem.

Laura shares her own experience of struggling to accept compliments and how it led her to realize the importance of embracing them with authenticity. By deflecting compliments, we unintentionally undermine the sincerity of the giver and perpetuate feelings of unworthiness in ourselves.

In this episode, Laura offers a specific experiment to help listeners cultivate the art of accepting compliments with grace. By choosing to outwardly own the compliment, we can begin to shift our internal dialogue and gradually foster a greater sense of self-assurance.

Tune in to The Self Leadership LAB Podcast and embark and learn to accept compliments with authenticity and let genuine appreciation elevate your sense of self-value and self-acceptance.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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In this episode of The Self Leadership LAB Podcast, host Laura Dewey takes a deep dive into the persistent, energy sapping issue of procrastination and shares two powerful strategies: one to break through and one to get started. Drawing from real client sessions, Laura unveils the hidden factors that often drive procrastination.

Through an engaging story, Laura reveals how a client's seemingly simple task was burdened by underlying barriers preventing action. She introduces a practical exercise that helped uncover these hidden forces, shedding light on the true causes of procrastination.

But that's not all. Laura also shares a rare and potent technique she's employed only a few times in her extensive coaching career. This episode serves as a valuable guide for listeners looking to understand and conquer procrastination, offering fresh insights and tools to overcome this common challenge.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free.

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In this empowering episode of The Self Leadership LAB Podcast, host Laura unveils a transformative strategy for managing worry. Join her as she shares a powerful approach to break free from the grip of worry, a notorious energy suck and stress generator. Laura introduces a simple two-step strategy that can shift your perspective and bring about a sense of calm. 

Through relatable examples and a vivid analogy, Laura guides listeners to reframe their thinking and diffuse the intensity of worrisome outcomes. Discover how this strategy can break the cycle of obsessive worry, empowering you to regain control and focus your energy on more constructive and positive pursuits.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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In this episode, host Laura Dewey explores the transformative power of taking something "off the table" for the time being. Laura reveals the detrimental effects of constantly having unresolved matters hanging in our minds, creating unnecessary mental busyness and draining our energy and attention

Through her guidance, Laura encourages listeners to embrace the practice of consciously setting aside certain issues or tasks and placing them on the shelf until a designated date. By doing so, we free ourselves from the constant mental spinning and self-imposed pressure that comes with feeling like we should be doing something about it.

Tune in to this eye-opening episode as she guides you through the power of setting aside unresolved matters to free your mind, conserve your energy, and gain a renewed sense of focus and clarity.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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What is magic, anyway? In this episode, Laura Dewey invites you to explore the enchanting concept of magic and what it feels like when it makes an appearance in your life. Drawing on a cool analogy that’s sure to leave a lasting impression, Laura breaks down the elements of magic, making it accessible and relatable to all. Whether it’s the unexpected moments of delight, the grace that seems to guide your steps, or the ease with which things fall into place, Laura’s insights will help you recognize the magic that’s already around you and inspire you to invite even more into your life.

Laura also shares a personal story of magical flow and confirmation from the Universe, which happened just yesterday, illustrating how magic can manifest in real and tangible ways. Through her experience, you’ll discover how embracing magic can add a layer of wonder and joy to your everyday existence. Tune in to learn how you can open yourself up to the unexpected delights that life has to offer and start experiencing a little more magic in your own world.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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In this episode, Laura Dewey dives into the pervasive habit of binary thinking and its impact on our emotional well-being. We often see things in black and white, leading to unnecessary upset and suffering. Laura breaks down how this rigid way of thinking limits our experiences and relationships, creating stress and disconnection. She invites listeners to explore the transformative power of adopting a more neutral perspective, which can free us from the confines of all-or-nothing judgments.

Laura shares practical insights and tips on how to shift away from binary thinking, opening ourselves up to a more balanced and nuanced approach to life. By embracing the gray areas, we allow new energy and personal growth to flow into our lives, reducing the emotional turmoil that binary thinking often brings. And for a bit of fun, Laura sprinkles in some wisdom inspired by the ever-optimistic Ted Lasso. Tune in to learn how letting go of rigid thinking can lead to a more peaceful, fulfilling life.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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In this thought-provoking episode, Laura Dewey examines the common tendency to try and control the feelings of others, a habit many well-meaning people fall into. Triggered by a Peloton commercial, Laura dives into the reasons why we often feel compelled to tell others how they should feel and explores whether this approach is effective. She discusses what it looks like when we attempt to manage the emotions of those around us and why this strategy ultimately falls short.

Laura sheds light on why trying to control others' feelings is not only ineffective but also detrimental to relationships and personal well-being. She offers helpful tools and strategies that can be used instead when you feel tempted to guide someone's emotional state. As always, the episode concludes with an engaging experiment designed to help you practice more constructive ways of interacting with others' emotions. Tune in to gain valuable insights to experience less frustration and learn how to foster healthier, more authentic connections.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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Delve into the topic of unspoken expectations in this eye-opening episode of The Self Leadership LAB Podcast. Join host Laura Dewey as she explores the consequences of expecting someone to fulfill uncommunicated desires.

Unspoken expectations are a recipe for disappointment when they are not met and they foster animosity from the person who feels burdened by these silent demands.

Drawing from her expertise in leadership, Laura emphasizes the crucial role of clear expectations in fostering accountability. Without explicit communication, holding someone accountable for unspoken expectations is unjust and can create tension and friction in relationships.

Laura shares vivid examples to bring this concept to life, illustrating the potential pitfalls of unspoken expectations and the importance of open communication.

Tune in today to learn to navigate the complexities of unspoken expectations, and experiment your way to the transformative power of open dialogue and clear communication.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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In this episode, Laura Dewey dives into the complex nature of competition, examining both its exhilarating highs and its potential pitfalls. While competition can be fun and even addictive, it often stems from a desire to prove oneself to others and seek external validation. Laura explores how this relentless quest to win and succeed at all costs can come with significant consequences, including emotional exhaustion, overwhelm, and burnout.

Laura sheds light on the personal toll that competitive pursuits can take, leading to a loss of self and even physical health issues. She invites listeners to reflect on their own motivations for competing and to consider the true cost of constantly striving for external approval. Laura invites you to examine your approach to competition to ensure that your drive to succeed does not come at the expense of your well-being. Tune in to discover how to pursue your goals with a healthier, more sustainable approach.

Laura's Website: HERE

Donations Accepted: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast is a labor of love, providing life changing skills to anyone who wants them. Please consider donating any amount HERE to keep this vital information flowing accessibly and free. 

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