Life Between the Before and After

A tender exploration of grief, resilience, and discovering new beginnings in the aftermath of loss.

Have you ever had a moment that split your life into a before and an after? The kind of moment that knocks you flat and leaves you knowing things will never be the same?

In this episode, I share one of my own life-altering experiences and what it has taught me about change, loss, and the practice of acceptance. While my story may look different than yours, the thread is the same. We all know the grief of change we did not choose, and we all know how heavy it can feel to keep holding on to what has already passed.

Together, we will explore what it means to soften our grip, to allow acceptance to create a little more space to breathe, and to discover resilience we may not have known was there. This conversation is not about pretending things are fine when they are not. It is about finding flow where there has been friction, and remembering that even in heartbreak, there can be meaning and strength.

What you will learn:

Why change so often feels like grief and why that is normal

The psychology and science behind resistance and why it keeps us stuck

How acceptance can shift our nervous system and create space for healing

Simple practices to help bring softness and flow into heavy seasons

What you will walk away with:

A deeper understanding of why unwanted change feels so hard

Gentle tools to notice resistance and choose acceptance in daily life

Permission to grieve without shame and to see acceptance as part of healing

The reminder that even in the middle of loss, you are not alone and resilience is already within you

Let’s Stay Connected:

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The Silent Weight of Not-Enoughness

The Myth That Shapes Love, Life, and Self-Worth

We live in a world that profits from convincing us we are not enough. Not smart enough. Not thin enough. Not successful enough. Not lovable enough. The list never ends. And while most of us would never say those words out loud, this belief often runs quietly in the background, shaping how we love, how we work, how we parent, and even how we look at ourselves in the mirror.

In this episode, we dive deep into what I call the silent epidemic of our time: not-enoughness. Together, we’ll explore where it comes from, why it takes root so easily, and most importantly, how to begin reshaping the story so it no longer defines us.

What You’ll Learn

The subtle ways not-enoughness shows up in everyday life and relationships

Why this belief is learned, not innate, and how culture reinforces it

How comparison and perfectionism are fuelled by the myth of not-enoughness

What psychology and neuroscience reveal about safety, shame, and self-worth

Why enoughness is not something you earn but something you already hold

What You’ll Walk Away With

A practical tool to loosen the grip of self-doubt and comparison

A reframed definition of “enough” that shifts it from a finish line to a baseline

A simple daily practice to remind yourself of your inherent worth

Fresh perspectives that turn longing into growth rather than shame

A renewed sense that enoughness is your birthright, not a prize to be won

This episode is for anyone who has ever whispered to themselves, I should be more. It’s an invitation to unlearn the lie and step into the truth that you already are enough, exactly as you are today.

Let’s Stay Connected:

If this episode made you feel seen or sparked something inside, consider subscribing, sharing with a friend, or leaving a review. It helps others find the show, and it helps me keep showing up with content that supports you.

You can reach me here for 1:1 coaching and support.You can also subscribe to get my weekly self-love notes, tools, and inspiration delivered right to your inbox by subscribing right here.Or come hang out with me on Instagram where I share more self-love wisdom, nervous system support, and real talk.

Red Flags: The Dating Skills Nobody Taught Us

Recognizing the Early Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Sometimes the biggest warning signs in love aren’t obvious. They’re not the dramatic blow-ups or unmistakable betrayals - they’re the subtle shifts you can’t quite name. A little more tension in your shoulders. A little less of yourself showing up. A gut feeling you quietly explain away.

In this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into the quiet, everyday signals that can tell you something in your relationship isn’t right - even if you’re not ready to call them “red flags” yet.

What You’ll Learn:

Why we sometimes ignore what our instincts are trying to tell us

How familiar patterns from the past can make dysfunction feel normal

The difference between ordinary human flaws and real deal-breakers

Everyday behaviors that can reveal someone’s true character

How to spot subtle patterns of control, disrespect, or manipulation

Ways to trust your gut even when you’re feeling unsure

What You’ll Walk Away With:

A clearer understanding of the signals that protect your heart

Permission to trust your instincts without needing all the proof first

Tools to recognize the difference between healthy imperfection and harmful patterns

Confidence to set boundaries before small issues become heartbreak

A self-loving perspective that keeps you open to real, safe, steady love

Because clarity isn’t about walking away from every imperfection - it’s about knowing when a connection will cost you more than it gives. And that’s one of the most powerful acts of self-love you can practice.

Let’s Stay Connected:

If this episode made you feel seen or sparked something inside, consider subscribing, sharing with a friend, or leaving a review. It helps others find the show, and it helps me keep showing up with content that supports you.

You can reach me here for 1:1 coaching and support.You can also subscribe to get my weekly self-love notes, tools, and inspiration delivered right to your inbox by subscribing right here.Or come hang out with me on Instagram where I share more self-love wisdom, nervous system support, and real talk.

Think “fake it till you make it” is just fluff?

Think again.

If you’ve ever felt like a fraud while trying to show up with confidence, or wondered how to be real and still grow into your next level, you’re not alone.This episode is here to flip the script.

We’ll unpack the psychology behind that infamous phrase and show you how “faking it” isn’t about being fake, it’s about rehearsing the truth before it fully takes root.

With insights from neuroscience, identity theory, and nervous system regulation, we explore how the brain actually rewires itself through repetition, imagery, and emotion.

You’ll walk away with:

* Science-backed tools to rewire fear into self-trust

* A warm reframe of imposter syndrome

* Real-life ways to practice belief before the evidence shows up

* A bold reminder that you don’t need to wait to feel ready

This isn’t performance.This is you becoming.And you don’t need permission to start.

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Say That Sh*t Out LoudThe Hidden Habit Running Your Life Without You Knowing

In this powerful episode of The Self-Love Shift, we’re talking about the one habit that shapes our self-worth, our emotional safety, and our day-to-day mindset - and we don’t even know it’s happening.

Our inner voice is always talking.But what is it saying?And more importantly… would we ever say it to someone we love?

We dive into the psychology of self-talk, how thought patterns become automatic through habit loops, and the simple, and deeply transformational, practice of saying our thoughts out loud. Because once we hear what we’re thinking, we can interrupt it. And when we interrupt it, we open space for something new: kindness, truth, and self-encouragement.

If you’ve ever struggled with negative self-talk, perfectionism, or that feeling of “I should know better by now,” this episode will speak to you.

What We Explore in This Episode:

Why we’re often our own worst critics (and how that got wired in)

What cognitive behavioural therapy and neuroscience say about changing thought patterns

How to recognize the inner voice that’s running your emotional life

The power of saying thoughts out loud, even the awkward ones

How to challenge harsh thoughts with one powerful question: Is this true?

Why self-cheering feels uncomfortable (and why we need to do it anyway)

A story about being shamed for self-praise, and what it revealed about cultural conditioning

How repetition creates safety in the brain and can rewrite our inner narrative

A Practice You Can Try Today:

Catch a thought.Say it out loud.Ask if it’s true.Then speak to yourself like someone you love.

If You’ve Ever Thought:

“Why do I keep doing this even when I know better?”

“It feels weird to be kind to myself.”

“My thoughts are exhausting me.”

This episode is for you.

Mentioned Concepts & Influences:

Neuroplasticity: How the brain rewires through repetition

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy): How thoughts create emotional loops

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg: Understanding automatic behavior loops

Byron Katie: Asking “Is this true?” to challenge old stories

Joe Dispenza: “Nerve cells that fire together, wire together”

Let’s Stay Connected:

If this episode made you feel seen or sparked something inside, consider subscribing, sharing with a friend, or leaving a review. It helps others find the show, and it helps me keep showing up with content that supports you.

You can reach me here for 1:1 coaching and support.You can also subscribe to get my weekly self-love notes, tools, and inspiration delivered right to your inbox by subscribing right here.Or come hang out with me on Instagram where I share more self-love wisdom, nervous system support, and real talk.

Until next time:Say it out loud. And let’s keep building a voice inside that actually has our back.

Have you ever said, “I knew it… I just didn’t listen to myself”?

This episode is for the moments you felt that flutter in your stomach, that quiet tug in your chest, when something didn’t sit right, but you pushed through anyway.It’s for the times you looked outside yourself for answers… when the truth was already whispering inside you.

In a world obsessed with certainty, strategy, and algorithms, we’re taught to trust data over instinct.But here’s the truth: no amount of expert advice can compete with the wisdom of your gut.

This isn’t about being mystical.It’s about learning to hear yourself again, scientifically, somatically, and soulfully.Because your intuition isn’t broken. It’s just buried under the noise.

In this episode, we’ll talk about what gets in the way of your inner voice, why it’s so easy to override, and how to rebuild trust with the one guide that knows you best: you.

If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, this conversation is your reminder.You don’t need fixing.You need remembering.

Ever find yourself stuck in the same argument, again? Feeling disconnected from someone you love over something that seems… small, but suddenly feels huge?

You’re not alone.In this powerful episode, we unpack why even the most loving relationships can feel tense, reactive, or emotionally distant—and how two simple but life-changing tools, empathy and curiosity, can shift everything.

Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or trying to love better across friendships and family, this episode will help you:

* Understand the real reason behind recurring tension

* See your nervous system’s role in emotional reactions

* Stop taking things so personally (yes, really)

* Create safety—for you and the people you love

* Learn how to respond instead of react, even in the heat of the moment

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this keep happening?” or “I want to stay connected, even when it’s hard,”—this episode is for you.

Listen in. You’ll leave with more clarity, more compassion, and practical ways to turn conflict into connection.

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Never Waste A Good TriggerThe Self-Love Perspective on Triggers, Trauma, and Nervous System Healing

This episode explores those moments when we think we’ve moved on, only to realize something tender still lives inside us. It’s an honest, compassionate look at what it means to be triggered—and how, with the right lens, those moments can become powerful openings instead of setbacks.

We’re not healing to get better at tolerating pain. We’ve already mastered that. We’re healing so we can receive more joy. Trust calm. Accept love. And allow peace to stay.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why triggers aren’t failures—they’re invitations

What’s really happening in our nervous system when we get overwhelmed

How to spot the “not enough” beliefs at the root of most emotional reactions

A gentle 5-step self-love process for working through a trigger

Why healing is about learning to receive, not just survive

How to shift from reaction to reflection with compassion

You’ll Also Hear:Why emotional flooding happens so quicklyHow triggers are linked to both past pain and present opportunityThe perspective shift that makes room for softness, stillness, and joy

Perfect For You If You’ve Ever Thought:

“I thought I already healed this.”

“Why does this still affect me?”

“I wish I could just stop reacting like this.”

“Why does it still hurt when I’ve done the work?”

Here’s the truth: nothing’s wrong with you. You’re growing. You’re becoming. And your emotions are trying to guide you, not punish you.

Final Reminder:Triggers aren’t the end of our story.They’re the moment we begin telling the truth.

If this episode resonates, consider sharing it or leaving a review. It helps spread the message—and reminds us all that we are not alone in this work.

You can reach me here for 1:1 coaching and support.You can also subscribe to get my weekly self-love notes, tools, and inspiration delivered right to your inbox by subscribing right here.Or come hang out with me on Instagram where I share more self-love wisdom, nervous system support, and real talk.

Not All Flashbacks Need TherapyIn this episode, we’re flipping the script on how we think about memory.

We’ve all had those moments where an old photo, a familiar smell, or a dusty box tucked in the back of a closet transports us to another version of ourselves—one who laughed deeply, loved freely, and maybe hadn’t yet been worn down by life. What if we could use those moments on purpose?

We explore why the brain is wired to cling to painful memories and overlook the good ones—and how to change that. You'll learn why your most joyful memories don’t always resurface on their own, and how to access them with intention, giving your nervous system a dose of healing, connection, and even hope.

This episode is about more than nostalgia. It’s about memory as medicine.As a tool for joy.As a self-love practice.

We talk about:

Why your brain naturally replays pain and how to shift it

The science of memory, emotion, and rewiring for joy

What it means to remember with purpose

How to use good memories as a lifeline during hard seasons

Simple practices to reconnect with your spark, your past, and your power

If you’ve been feeling off, disconnected, or like you’ve lost touch with your own light—this one is for you. Because the past isn’t just behind you.Some of it is still waiting to heal you.

You can reach me here for 1:1 coaching and support.You can also subscribe to get my weekly self-love notes, tools, and inspiration delivered right to your inbox by subscribing right here.Or come hang out with me on Instagram where I share more self-love wisdom, nervous system support, and real talk.

Ever find yourself saying, “I should feel happier …”?

Maybe life looks fine on the outside—you're checking the boxes, showing up, doing your best—yet there's this quiet restlessness underneath it all. A sense of disconnection. A heaviness you can’t quite name.

You’re not alone. And no, nothing is wrong with you.

In this heart-opening episode, we explore why happiness can feel just out of reach—even when we “have so much to be grateful for”—and how one simple, science-backed practice can gently shift our internal state, helping us feel more steady, present, and alive in our own life again.

This isn’t about surface-level optimism or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about using the tools we all have—our breath, our senses, and yes, our gratitude—to gradually reset the nervous system, quiet the mental noise, and reconnect with the moments that actually matter.

We’ll talk about:

* What neuroscience says about happiness (hint: it’s not about chasing more)

* The power of writing things down—and why it works

* How smiling and small moments of connection change your brain and body

* Why gratitude is more than a feel-good idea—it’s a healing tool

If you’ve been feeling flat, foggy, or “happy-ish,” this episode is your gentle invitation to shift your energy—without striving, fixing, or faking it. Just small, steady practices that help us feel more rooted in the life we’re already living.

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