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If you are not at "Action"; if you have been pushed, enticed, guilt tripped, coerced, under duress, pressurised, police involvement or legal process; partner threat to leave and take the children; such things are not necessarily good enough incentives to see you through a Recovery Programme in the longer term.

You must be at "Action" Stage, having got there because you see a need and desire has caught up.  Know the Stages Of Change Cycle.

Get knowledge. Get understanding. Reclaim your life - sometimes  for the first time.

The Kairos Centre Team can help and journey with you.

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The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email [email protected]

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Family Dynamics | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Emotional Regulation Techniques | Resilience Building | Social Support | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Interpersonal Skills | Communication Skills | Trust Building | Vulnerability | Assertiveness Training | Self-Esteem Building | Identity Formation | Self-Reflection | Problem-Solving Skills | Coping Strategies | Stress Management | Relaxation Techniques | Anger Management | Healthy Boundaries | Empathy Development | Self-Acceptance | Compassion | 

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How did Technological Advancement get us here?

Cave men drawings on walls ➡ camera/Erotic paintings, literature, Bath houses  ➡ (1860-1970) Camera images, Porn mags, Picture/cinema house projectors (public)  ➡ 8mm projector in homes  ➡ (1973 to 1990) VCR !interactive videos in private home (over take porn mags)  ➡ (1990 to 2004) WWW, proliferation of porn sites,  dialup, broadband, cyberworld, virtual world, smart phones, lap dance clubs, social networking sites  ➡ 

....and all these are way out of date.

What should have remained our servant, has become the master to many.

You need to get off the slippery slope. It always, always ends bad, even if not for 40 or 50 years!

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Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Family Dynamics | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Emotional Regulation Techniques | Resilience Building | Social Support | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Interpersonal Skills | Communication Skills | Trust Building | Vulnerability | Assertiveness Training | Self-Esteem Building | Identity Formation | Self-Reflection | Problem-Solving Skills | Coping Strategies | Stress Management | Relaxation Techniques | Anger Management | Healthy Boundaries | Empathy Development | Self-Acceptance | Compassion Cultivation |

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It all starts in the mind. What starts in the mind, is tossed around over and over and over as you get on with your day, your week, your month (because of your cognition), will eventually percolate into your heart.  A mouth full, but did you get it?

People speak the things that are in their hearts. Behaviour (action) will spring forth. That is CBT principles.

Regular, frequent, habitual negative thinking, will eventually lead to behaviour (that is also negative). The corollary is that regular, frequent, habitual positive and wholesome thinking, will eventually lead to good, wholesome behaviour. Getting it?

Keep your heart (protect your heart) with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life.

Let The Kairos Centre help you with the provision of tried and tested tools to interrupt your negative cognition on a frequent and regular basis. So that in changing your Mind, you get to change your Life.

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The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email [email protected]

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Family Dynamics | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Emotional Regulation Techniques | Resilience Building | Social Support | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Interpersonal Skills | Communication Skills | Trust Building | Vulnerability | Assertiveness Training | Self-Esteem Building |

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Sex, Porn, Love Addiction will always cost you way more than you ever bargained. Do yourself a favour.

Put pen to paper and spend a chunk of time reviewing the impact, toll and cost it has reaped from you; in terms of Financial spend, Health toll, Personal Development, Relationships, Self-image, Legal conseqences, Social impact, Physical danger & more.

Weigh them up. But don't stay down and low for too too long. Resolve to reverse the trend.

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The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email [email protected]

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Family Dynamics | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Emotional Regulation Techniques | Resilience Building | Social Support | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Interpersonal Skills | Communication Skills | Trust Building | Vulnerability | Assertiveness Training | Self-Esteem Building | Identity Formation | Self-Reflection | Problem-Solving Skills | Coping Strategies | Stress Management | Relaxation Techniques | Anger Management | Healthy Boundaries | Empathy Development | Self-Acceptance | Compassion Cultivation | Self-Care Strategies | Mind-Body Connection | Lifestyle Changes | Holistic Healing | 

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Consider the exerts form this article written by a woman (Lauren Dubinsky - What I wish I'd Known Before Watching Porn, 2012):

"I wish that 10 years ago someone had educated me on pornography. What it is, what it does and what it reaches in and destroys in the hearts, minds and bodies of men and women.
I wish that someone would have told me that researchers have suggested it sabotages your sex life.
I wish someone would have explained how dopamine.... drives you to return to what provided that feeling.....
I wish someone would have told me that the kind of pornography you're most turned on by is usually linked to a corresponding hurtful event in your life, further injuring your brokenness.
I wish someone would have told me pornography would normalize things I wasn't emotionally or physically ready to handle......
I wish someone would have told me I would begin to objectify men, build up images in my mind and think of sex day in and day out.....
I wish someone would have told me it would make me feel less valuable to men and bring up insecurities for years in the bedroom.
I wish someone would have pointed out pornography can establish your sexuality completely apart from real-life relationships....
I wish someone would have explained what "sexual anorexia" was and that countless young men are unable to get erections because they've been watching porn since they were around 14 years old.
I wish someone would have told all the men I've dated that the porn they are watching is keeping them from being turned on by me....
I wish someone would have told me that the dopamine and oxytocin being released from my watching certain types of pornography would cause me to question my sexual orientation.....
I wish someone would have told me it would subtly create a "victim" mentality in my mind....
I wish someone had talked about how women watch it too....
My "I wish" list is nowhere near complete...."

Thought it would all look differently for females? Naaah! Not at all.

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Porn-blockers: The best that a porn-blocker can be is that of being "a delay". They cannot truly block that which a person is determined to view. Delay can, however, get you through to another day of sobriety.

The Kairos Webinar Video-on-demand and its Webcam Recovery Programme is all about "The Couple Recovery". A partner should rightly say " ...and what about me."

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Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Trust Building | Vulnerability | Explicit Content Blockers|  Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Trust Building | Vulnerability |  Couples Support | Technology Awareness | Relationship Goals | Pornography Discussion | Recovery Tools | Online Safety Measures | Coping Skills | Psychoeducational Materials | Relationship Enrichment | Supportive Interventions | Digital Health | Healthy Technology Use | Emotional Connection Strategies | Relationship Maintenance | Trust Restoration Techniques Couples Support | Technology Awareness | Relationship Goals |

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One such action to take (amongst other Relapse Prevention Tools) is to write a "Goodbye Letter"  after achieving one year sobriety anniversary. Personify Sex, Porn, Love Addiction as a real person with whom you have been in a real affair. Your partner has not had you 100% to themselves and has shared you with this other person.

In the letter addressed to Mrs Sex, Porn, Love addiction, tell the behaviour about the good times that you had together; how it was a friend when you needed her comfort. It was such an important friend. Then tell the behaviour how it did not tell you the entire truth and withheld some of the facts from you; that you have now found out the full truth and continue to discover more.

Mention the betrayal; how it caused you to keeping returning for more; but how it was increasing your SHAME (which caused you to stay hidden); how it played on NARCISSISTIC tendencies (which you denied as being any part of you and belonged to others); the DETTACMENT/ATTACHMENT issues experienced by you in relationships with others; the heartaches and casualties you have experienced; how you have ended the relationship.

Say "Goodbye"......forever.

Contact The Kairos Centre for a model template letter.     

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Remember the Stages of the Change process:

Pre-contemplation→Contemplation→Preparation→Action→Maintenance→Relapse

We are firmly at the Relapse stage, because you now have reached a minimum of one year of sobriety. It is all about what you need to be doing to ensure the rest of your life is sober. Here are some tools to facilitate that long term permanency of sobriety.

Look to your future. See it. Envision it. Dwell on it. Milk it. If you can see it, you can have it!

We are full circles back to basic CBT principles. Whatsoever you are habitually, regularly, repeatedly dwelling on, will eventually become your behaviour. You will gravitate toward that which is the cognitive process in your mind. Supplement that thinking with solid Relapse Prevention Tools. 

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The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email [email protected]

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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They are insidious, don't play by the rules and definitely don't play fair. We are talking about Cognitive Distortions. What are they?

They are your thinking, telling you untruths to enable you to justify acting out and therefore relapse. You stay on the cycle of sex addiction:

Cycle of Sex Addiction

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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CBT
Cognitive →Behaviour
Your thinking →Behaviour
Thinking  = Behaviour

Get it!

Whatsoever you are habitually, regularly, repeatedly, churning around, playing with, dwelling upon, reflecting upon, nurturing in your mind - will eventually (at some point) become the very thing that you will go on to act upon (to do).

If you can change your MIND, you can change your LIFE.
If you can change your thinking, you can literally change your whole life and its trajectory.
It is that stark.

That is you doing your own Therapy on yourself. You are doing CBT.
Add other skills to the mix, such as Mindfulness, Urge Surfing and such techniques and you have a winning and overcoming combination.

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The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email [email protected]

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping Mechanisms | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Mindfulness Practices | Self-Compassion | Inner Child Work | Boundary Setting | Trauma-Informed Care | Psychoeducation | Emotional Awareness | Trust Building | Vulnerability | 

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