What are your personal ethics around sex work and matrimony? Why do some people share their interactions with spouses and other people hide them? How to support your partner in sex work? Is it cheating to pay for services? Let’s discuss this with a happily married sex worker, Jessie Sage.

1:00 a spicy viral twitter post

4:00 cancer, and caregiver roles

7:00 what work she’s done in sex

10:00 feedback from her clients

14:00 a public-facing nonbinary spouse

18:00 on blaming the sex worker

22:00 oral sex or we aren’t getting married

26:00 helping sex lives of other spouses

29:00 disclosing to your family that you’re dating a sex worker

34:00 keep it simple and name what is happening

39:00 besties who get weird around SW

44:00 outsiders and misunderstanding 

48:00 addressing their shame 

51:00 how to be a supportive partner article

56:00 @thotscholar, Lorelei Lee writing recommendation

Find our guest on JessieSage.com and Cybelerain.com

Twitter.com/Saptiotextual

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