The Shea Way

I know, you’ve probably heard the word “boundaries” more times than you can count and you’ve heard the speeches about protecting your peace and upholding boundaries with others and yes, I’m sure you get it by now. But what about our boundaries with ourselves? Are those healthy? Are we practicing upholding and honoring our own boundaries with ourselves? Are we calling ourselves out when we engage in toxic behavior and patterns? Are we giving ourselves what we need? And if not, are we doing anything about it? Sometimes we are the problem. Sometimes we are the reason bad patterns repeat. Speak up for yourself but also to yourself. Know and take action on what you need. Say to others “if I expect it from you it’s because I expect it from me.” Take accountability. Maybe you’re upholding their boundaries, but maybe by not upholding our own, we’ll never really be the healthiest, happiest versions of ourselves we can be. When you look in the mirror, who do you want to see? Someone who made their own choices and changes or someone who just gave up and let it be? ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

An object in motion will stay in motion unless acted upon by an outside force…or, until we call ourselves out! F1 drivers push their cars to the limit, going around and around the tracks at hundreds of miles an hour, often times with mechanical issues that go unfixed purely for the sake of the race until an issue becomes so severe they have to stop or be stopped in the pits. We’re not so different. We get so wrapped up in living at a hundred miles an hour, getting so caught up in mindless monotony, we often don’t stop to check ourselves or call ourselves out. That is, (usually) until an outside force. Thank you to my outside forces. And to myself and everyone else in the pits, it’s okay to be in progress. It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to be a little bit broken and lost. But we all come out of the pits eventually. We’ll come back better than ever and off to the races again soon. ~ xoxo. s.

“Understanding that I am too much for most, does not mean that I have to accept less. When we were children, reaching for the monkey bars, they did not lower them to make it easier to obtain. We were told to climb. That is how, I too, am earned. Meet me where I’m at, or stay behind. As a mountain, why should I shrink for those who refuse to climb?” ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

“Same ship, different cabins” ~ Gina Mackey’s father. This is the best way to sum up today’s topic on mental health and the pros and cons of community with my guest, Gina Mackey. Join us as we discuss our own mental health journeys and the role communities (birth irl and virtual) have had in our and in other’s healing process. (Gina was able to be my special guest in this podcast as a reward for being a part of the highest tier subscriber on my Patreon, if you’d like to check it out, find “The Shea Way” on Patreon and join the family!) ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

This is a sneak peek into a Q&A segment on my Patreon (www.Patreon.com/thesheaway) - this podcast is in response to one member’s (Jennifer’s) question about my inspirations! And my thoughts on whether it’s healthy to have one person to look up to vs having many to look up to for all different reasons, every day. Check it out, check out the Patreon and come meet some fellow members, soon-to-be-friends and we can all inspire each other! ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

How often have we seen our friend need support and thought, “Someone else will do it.” Or “They’ll understand if I don’t. They’ll be fine.” Probably more times than we would like to admit. But, how often do we realize, while we wait for someone else to show up for our friend, no one actually does show up for them. In this episode I discuss having awareness about showing up for yourself and showing up for your friends. We all know about haters. But how often is it discussed just how painful it is to feel a lack of loud and proud support from your own friends? This is something I personally have been in pain over for quite sometime but felt I shouldn’t really say. So, let’s discuss. How have you shown up for your friends lately? Have you shown up at all? Maybe you think so. But too often, we don’t know what is going on in our friend’s lives, and we don’t know how much of a difference our inactivity can make in their lives. If your friends have a business, or create something, have you bought from them? Have you shared their work? Or have you sat around, verbally supporting and not backing them up? If you are always waiting for someone else to do the nice thing, and someone else is always waiting for you to do the nice thing, when is the nice thing getting done? Who suffers? Let’s all be more aware of our actions, and take accountability for our lack thereof. Stop waiting for someone else to do what you could for someone else. ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

I know it’s easy to get downtrodden when relationship after relationship (or situtionship after situationship) leaves you feeling like you will never find love. Trust me. I had completely given up. In this episode I talk about my experience with loves & lusts being lessons learned leading up to story time about when, where, how and why I knew when I found the one. Please do not give up on you. Love, and your dreams, are out there waiting for you. So, what are you gonna do? ~ xoxo. s. 🌹

In this episode I discuss days where you just don’t have the energy to get things done. And I discuss the choices you can make for yourself to get closer to your dreams. I took a step towards mine by creating my own Patreon. A place I can be accountable and take action towards my dreams and creating a safe, supportive space for others, AND myself. It’s not about talking the talk, it’s about walking the walk. Be brave enough to suck at something new. You never know what is beyond your fears. Your dreams are out there, ready, and waiting for you. ~ xoxo. s. 🌹