In this episode, we’re breaking down relationships from the ground up—the way most of us were never taught to understand them.

We explore the three foundational relationship states:

dependence, independence, and interdependence, and why so many relationships struggle when codependence gets mistaken for closeness, unity, or unconditional love.

• The relationship ladder

• Why children must be dependent—and adults must grow out of it

• The critical role of boundaries

• Why many health issues mirror relationship issues

• The relationship you can’t skip: you and your body

• Masculine & feminine energy (sacred polarity)

• Roles vs. enmeshment

• The uncomfortable truth that frees relationships

• Why fixing kills connection

• Wounded masculine & wounded feminine patterns

• Unconditional love with boundaries

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In this minisode, we explore one of the most common (and disorienting) experiences inside real personal growth:

Why discomfort can make you question your spirituality, your connection, and even your identity — and why that’s completely normal.

A community member asks a powerful question:

“Growth is so uncomfortable-- is my spirituality slipping, or is this what it's supposed to feel like?”

Together, we walk through:

💠 Time Dilation & the Chasm

💠 Emotional “Reawakening”

💠 Spirituality in Discomfort

💠 Capacity vs. Potential

💠 The Shift 5 in This Moment

💠 Fatigue, Cold Exposure & Listening to Your Limits

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This episode is a little different.

Instead of staying mostly in principles and paradigm shifts, we’re pulling back the curtain on the actual financial HOWs behind our lifestyle: real estate, creative financing, and negotiation — with real numbers, real deals, and real discomfort.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Okay, but how are you actually doing this?”

…this is the episode where we show you.

Chase walks through several properties they’ve purchased, how they structured the deals, how the rent and equity have changed over time, and why want match + surrender matter just as much as the spreadsheets.

Important note: These are our hows, not prescriptions. Your hows and your miracles will look different. The point is to expand your sense of what’s possible, not to copy-paste our exact path.

• Why want match matters more than “good ideas”
• Without a true want match, the discomfort required for growth is usually unsustainable — especially in finances.

• Three real properties and what they’ve actually done financially:

• Entity structure & tax advantages (high-level):

• Creative finance tools you may have never considered:

• The Costa Rica biological preserve negotiation story:

• Location vs. property type specialization

Nothing in this episode is financial, tax, or legal advice. It’s a peek into our story and our hows. Always consult your own professionals and your own relationship with God as you choose your path.

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In this minisode, we coach a young mom through a travel desire many families relate to: Would life be better, easier, or more meaningful with a camper van?

But as always, the real question isn’t about the camper van at all. It’s about want, guilt, sacrifice, and the courage to surrender the how.

This conversation goes deep into the heart of lifestyle design — identifying what you actually want, naming the emotions under the surface, and deciding whether the “expense” of a dream is aligned with the life you’re building.

• The real reason certain experiences call to us
• (hint: you’re chasing a feeling long before you’re chasing an object)
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• How guilt shapes our desires
• Especially when we want something that affects a spouse or family dynamic.
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• Why life is always “expensive”… but in different currencies
• Money, energy, time, identity, and courage.
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• How to identify a true want match
• And why that matters more than figuring out “the right choice.”
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• The role of surrender in lifestyle design
• Miracles don’t feel good in the moment — and that’s normal.
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• How to make aligned sacrifices
• And why intentional sacrifices feel different than forced ones.
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• The power of specificity when asking for what you want
• (Carly’s beautiful reminder: define the wants clearly and let yourself be surprised.)

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Welcome to Tionatam! Today’s episode was recorded in the Dallas Airport after a 5AM flight delay, a missed connection, and a whole lot of built-in opportunities to practice surrender. As always, life gives the perfect metaphors when we’re willing to see them.

This week, Chase and Carly share one of their most-requested topics:

How do you actually travel as a family, stay connected, keep schooling and work flowing, and structure your life so that it feels free rather than chaotic?

And yes… we talk Starlink, taxes, home design, residency hacks, and how to expand instead of contract when everything goes “wrong.”

You’ll learn:

• Why travel is one of the best laboratories for practicing surrender
• (especially when flights are delayed and plans crumble)

• The Starlink miracle story — how a broken dish became a better dish and how expansion leads to unexpected solutions

• Our real travel HOWs:

~BYOI (Bring Your Own Internet)

~Sleep first, always

~Slow immersion vs. rushed vacations

~Building community wherever you land

~Living an inverted lifestyle to avoid crowds + save money

~Stacking rewards instead of increasing spending

• Nomad-friendly healthcare & why self-insurance works in parts of the world

• The connection between desire, agency, and designing a life that works for YOUR family. (Not ours. Not the world’s. Yours.)

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The holidays are usually when we’re least aware… which also makes them the best time to practice awareness.

In this Tionatam episode, Chase uses the holidays as a real-life “lab” for seeing your rules, your neurology, and your triggers around food, money, and family roles. From holiday treats and autoimmune healing to last-minute road trips and unplanned expenses, we walk through how to use the Shift 5 process to find your next aligned step—without needing to control the “how.”

You’ll hear the “This Is Water” metaphor, an honest coaching moment about the cost of a Christmas road trip, and a breakdown of why learning to say no (and being willing to disappoint people) is often the doorway to better health, calmer holidays, and more authentic relationships.

This episode is a practical guide to staying present in your body, clear on what you want, and open to miracles in the middle of holiday chaos.

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In this minisode, we dive deep into one of the most common—and most emotionally charged—areas of family life: travel with extended family and the pressure we feel around it.

This coaching session walks through how to untangle shoulds, uncover what you actually want, and discern the aligned next step without collapsing into people-pleasing or resistance.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment around the stress of trips with in-laws, why preparing and recovering can feel overwhelming, and how to shift your experience by separating three key elements:

~What you genuinely want

~What you think you should want

~What you’re afraid others will feel

We explore the role of nervous-system responses, subconscious rulebooks, and the difference between pressure we feel and pressure anyone is actually placing on us. You’ll learn how to try on thoughts, bring your body into the conversation, and find the version of “vacation” (frequency, energy, boundaries) that aligns with your home, your rhythms, and your values.

This minisode is a masterclass in choosing aligned action over reactive people-pleasing—especially in family dynamics where expectations, routines, and emotional history run deep.

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In this episode of Tionatam, we use home and travel as a mirror for your inner world—and show how your body, house, and health are all speaking the same language.

Chase and Carly unpack the “rule books” you inherited about how a home should look, feel, and function (hello, flat sheets, lighting battles, and antlers on the wall), and connect it to your body: why your circumstances don’t actually create your feelings, and how your interpretation does.

You’ll hear how Carly’s research on home and motherhood revealed that square footage and clutter don’t directly create stress—our perception does. From there, we introduce the “Beam Me Up” Principle: the way matter (bodies, houses, stuff) and energy (feelings, beliefs, nervous system states) constantly beam back and forth to shape your health, home, and relationships.

This is a conversation about putting things back in their proper place—so your home and body become aligned with the life you actually want to create.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why we start with health and the body before talking about home and travel
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• How “home” is actually three things: a physical place, a web of relationships, and a felt experience
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• Funny + real examples of inherited “home manuals” (bed-making, lights, décor, hunting trophies, and more)
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• Carly’s master’s research on clutter, square footage, and why perception mediates how moms feel in their homes
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• The difference between house as matter and home as feeling—and how your brain bridges the two
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• How your nervous system (especially the vagus nerve) responds to the energy of a home and to the people inside it
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• Why we say: your things are a reflection of your inner world, not the cause of it
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• The “Beam Me Up” Principle: using symbolism to move between physical reality and emotional experience
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• The “dishes” example: how redefining what a sink full of dishes means can shift you from shame to connection or delight
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• How the same symbolism applies to the body: symptoms as invitations to connect, not punishments
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How the Shift 5 method applies to it all!

In this powerful coaching minisode, we explore what it really means to surrender while staying open to creation.

When we try to control how a miracle arrives, we close ourselves off from infinite possibilities. But when we release the “how,” trust our body’s signals, and take the next aligned step, life expands in ways we couldn’t have imagined.

You’ll hear a real coaching moment about money, fear, and faith—and how learning to create space (literally, through the breath) invites miracles in every area of life.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why surrender isn’t passive—it’s the most active form of trust
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• How “dictating the miracle” blocks flow and creativity
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• The link between contraction, fear, and shallow breathing
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• How to find your next right step with peace and alignment
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• Why it’s never really about the money (or anything else)—it’s about who you’re becoming

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In this episode of Tionatam, we connect the dots between belief, biology, and behavior. We unpack the placebo effect (and why throwing it out of studies made us miss its power), explore the “Magnificent Matrix” for moving insights from subconscious → conscious, and show how clearly naming what you want lets you direct your body’s chemistry toward healing. Then we turn theory into practice with simple, repeatable tools.

💡 What You’ll Hear

• Why “I want to be here for my family” isn’t enough—and how to name a you-centered health want that your body can act on
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• The placebo effect in plain language (including sham surgeries) and why provider and participant beliefs both matter
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• A fresh frame: belief as energy that shapes physiology (not woo—watch what your nervous system does)
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• The “Magnificent Matrix” (4 quadrants: know/ don’t know × conscious/ subconscious) and how to surface hidden drivers
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• Tacit skills vs. head knowledge: why reading about change ≠ changing (and the practice that rewires neurology)
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• Fight/flight/freeze, vagal nerve basics (ventral vs. dorsal), and the reset you can access today
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• The breath pattern for in-the-moment regulation (two inhales, one long exhale)
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• How clear wants + daily reps leverage placebo toward health, money, relationships—without the zero-sum trap
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• Where this plugs into the Shift 5: Sense Your Body → Honor What You Want → Intentionally Surrender → Fearlessly Expand → Trim the Sails
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🔗 Links & Resources

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