The Shmuz

How can a different perspective of speech and my actions sometimes so drastically make a difference between success and failure.
Tact is a careful consideration of the feelings and values of another so as to create harmonious relationships with a reduced potential for conflict or offense. It is a virtue. It is the ability to induce change or communicate critical and sometimes hurtful information without offending through the use of consideration, compassion, kindness, and reason.
A tactful person can tell you something you don't want to hear and you will be thankful for the information when they are finished.

Why is it so important not to be judgmental of others?

How do you not judge other people's words, ideas and actions even when you don't agree with them?

The trick is knowing when to be judgmental, and when to reserve it for later, and when to not judge at all. Every situation needs an independent evaluation. This ability is key in many areas in life especially in relationships.

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Youre always late. Why cant you ever be neat? You bounced another check, whats wrong with you It seems that whether we are dealing with children, parents, siblings, coworkers or employees, there is so much that needs improvement, that we cant help but comment. In fact, these lines slip out of our mouths so easily, that often we dont even know we are saying them! Of course, we only say them in the hope of influencing behavior and affecting change Yet they never seem to work. For some strange reason, not only dont these comments cause people to improve, they seem to backfire.

In this Shmuz we are brought to focus on the concept that, not only is criticism counterproductive, it actually eats away at the root of all successful relationships- that sense of trust and approval that we humans so crave.