The Shmuz

You want an amazing marriage…

You Know Rabbi Shafier’s Best-Selling Book Would Help.

Just One Problem.

You’re Not Really A Book Guy (Or Gal)…

*Introducing…The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book!*

After a long, tiring day it’s hard to pick up a book and learn. Your brain is craving relaxation and entertainment. Sound familiar?

*The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book* gives you a marriage manual in a set of short, upbeat animations that are fun to share together.

Watch on the couch with your spouse or when you’ve got a spare three minutes.

Now you can unwind AND learn something worthwhile at the same time. Take that, yetzer hara!

Learn more here: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/10-really-dumb-mistakes
 

Deep Meaningful Conversations is a podcast for frum women by Alex Fleksher and Rivki Silver. In this episode they discuss Rabbi Shafier's best selling book, The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make. Mrs Kayla Levin builds upon some of the principles of the book as well as offering some of her own insightful thoughts on shalom bayis.

“I just love it when my carefully laid plans go completely haywire”

Said no one ever.

If you sometimes get frustrated, irritated or down right angry when things don’t go your way, welcome to the club of being human. Want to know what to do about it? Listen to this.
 

Missed Wednesday’s Marriage Seminar? You can still get the replay by registering at theshmuz.com 

We are all familiar with the characteristics of the arrogant man. He’s argumentative, obnoxious, judgemental and small minded. In this class, Rabbi Shafier explains another hallmark of someone who is haughty- their deep unhappiness and dissatisfaction with life. You see, a baal gaiveh constantly has sunburn on his ego- he is forever seeing himself as slighted, dishonored disrespected.

In contrast, a humble man is free to enjoy this world. He can appreciate simple pleasures, get along with people and maintain happy, fulfilling relationships. Ok, so you know which one you want to be. How do you get there?

Whilst removing arrogance from our hearts may be a lifetime job, in this essential shiur, Rabbi Shafier explains where to start. Listen now to get the motivation to attain genuine humility and live a life of meaning and satisfaction.
 

If you’re one of the 15,000 people who have read The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes you know that Rabbi Shafier is very insistent about not trying to change your spouse. Not satisfied with that? He’s the one technique he does recommend.

This is from The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book! Check it out on TheShmuz.com!
 

You’ve told yourself this so many times:

“Hashem loves me”

“Hashem wants my success”

“Hashem is doing this for my good”

Just one problem: How can I bridge the gap between knowing… and really feeling it? Listen now for the answer.
 

Feeling like the post-Shabbos clean up never ends? This short clip can help you reframe.

Have an amazing week!
 

Here’s your erev Shabbos reminder that you’re not in control…and that’s ok.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!
P.S. If you would like to receive the replay of the first part of the Marriage Seminar, go to www.theshmuz.com to register your email. 

Session 4: Life Brings Humility

In previous classes, we learned how the cornerstone to all middos is humility. In Life Brings Humility, Rabbi Shafier builds upon this fundamental principle by exploring the devastating influence of arrogance. We all agree that arrogance is ugly, but our mesorah goes further: arrogance will inevitably lead a person to forget Hashem. Afterall, when we’re so sure of our own competence and independence, we don’t need a Master.
We are in this world to serve Hashem, but when we are consumed by gaaveh, our avoda is ruined, because our intentions define every action. Arrogance will make us hated in this world and empty in the World to Come. It’s the essential work of a lifetime to rid our hearts of it completely, but where do we start? In Life Brings Humility Rabbi Shafier gives us practical tools that are guaranteed to cut through our illusions of grandeur, maintain our sense of self and reconnect to our ultimate Master and Benefactor.