The Slumflower Hour by Chidera Eggerue

06.20.2024

THE EXIT PLAN

If you finally feel ready to leave, this episode is for you. In this episode, join The Slumflower as shares tools on how to leave FOR GOOD, and what you can do to fortify yourself mentally...for when the storm...

06.14.2024

ALPHA MEN?

Where is the line drawn between leadership and control? Do 'alpha' men actually live up to their description? Why do women seek such traits in men? In this episode, join Chidera as she explores the myth of the alpha male...

06.07.2024

THE ICK

Is a person redeemable once you develop the ick for them? What does it take for a man to give you the ick? How can you tell when a man has gotten the ick for YOU? In this episode, join...

05.30.2024

SO HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU...

Is that man in a rush to marry you? Would he even make a good husband? Are you desperate to be wifed? In this hilarious episode, join The Slumflower as she chats through why a marriage proposal isn't always flattering...

05.24.2024

DOING IT FOR THE PLOT

Do you justify tormenting yourself for the sake of having a 'good story' to tell? Are you impulsive and adrenaline-driven in your dating decisions? Have you found yourself living in the architecture of your own demise? Featuring TWO saucy stories,...

05.16.2024

DATING FOR LOOKS?

Are you easily swayed by a man's appearance? Do you find yourself being easily governed by the coochie flutters when you come across a cute man? Are you unknowingly giving away your power by putting emphasis on how attractive that...

05.10.2024

DATING DEPRESSED MEN...

Has that man become the sad cloud in your sky? Do you find yourself coasting along in this relationship out of guilt rather than choice? Do you feel responsible for this man's wellbeing? Baby...it's time to lift that burden and...

05.03.2024

WHEN HE FINALLY SWITCHES UP ON YOU...

So the switch-up has finally happened...he's stopped texting you the way he used to; he's not really making plans to take you out anymore; you've had your first argument and he's surprisingly chilled and NONCHALANT?! *blocks your hand from hitting...

04.25.2024

WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MARRIED MEN...

This episode was voted for by my patrons on Patreon! After what started out as a simple evening of sharing some anonymous insight from sex workers about the hidden reality of married men, the conversation snowballed into an Instagram stories-based...

04.18.2024

ARE YOU MAKING EXCUSES?

Is 'that's just how I am', your default response to being called out for certain behaviours that might be holding you back? Or is 'that's just how he is', your way of justifying that man's irresponsible behaviour towards you? Being...

04.12.2024

WHAT IF THIS IS IT?

What if the love you seek has already found you? Is self-love really the best love? Based on the awful reputation they have created for themselves, is there a limit to which we can involve men in our deepest dreams...

04.05.2024

DATING MULTIPLE MEN

Are you a 'one man' type of lover but you're curious? Has your boyfriend pissed you off beyond repair? Has the world convinced you that you're 'greedy' for dating more than one dude? If any of the above questions jump...

03.29.2024

THE UNFORGIVING WOMAN

Are you a woman who struggles to forgive men? Do people make you feel like you hold grudges for too long? Are you a recovering pushover? If any of the above questions resonate with you, pay attention to this episode!...

03.22.2024

ARE STRAIGHT WOMEN OKAY?

Why are straight women so helplessly bound to their heterosexuality? How can straight women gain more from their attraction to men without losing themselves? What do straight women keep doing wrong to further reinforce their suffering? In this episode, Chidera...

03.15.2024

ABOUT 'BLACK LOVE'...

Do Black women benefit from 'race first' solidarity in their dating decisions? Is Black women's appreciation of Black men reciprocated? Are we moving towards a society where interracial relationships are becoming more popular as a form of Black women's resistance...

03.08.2024

SHOULD YOU POST YOUR MAN?

In an age where we feel compelled to prove we are loved, is sharing pictures of your boyfriend on social media a risky move? Do we jinx it by claiming men in public too soon? Do men benefit from us...

03.01.2024

HOW MEN CONTROL YOU

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! In an age where women seem to not grasp that men are swindling them for sex, what can we do to raise our awareness of the ways men passively...

02.23.2024

ARE YOU TOO GULLIBLE?

Are you easily swindled by a man's enthusiastic advances? Are you in a hurry to believe what a man says if it means you can have a relationship to claim? Do you need to mentally fortify yourself with the strength...

02.16.2024

HOW TO FALL OUT OF LOVE

Are you emotionally stuck in your attachment to him? Does it feel like you are cutting off a limb by cutting him off? Do you need to be talked off the ledge of over-investment in this man? Gather round the...

02.09.2024

STORYTIME: MY MILLIONAIRE SUB

In this fun storytime, join The Slumflower as she spills the details of her encounter with a rather generous submissive man... ;) Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep...

02.01.2024

FIRST DATE 101

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! Do you find yourself panicking on first dates? Does your overthinking breed overcompensation? Are you scared of awkward silences? If you resonate with any of the above questions, this...

01.26.2024

TIME TO QUIT DATING APPS?

Are you still on your digital quest for love? Is the dating app fatigue kicking in? Have you started checking the dating apps more than you check Instagram? It might be time for a breather... In this episode, Chidera speaks...

01.19.2024

DOMINATING YOUR HUSBAND WITH KATHERINE RYAN

In the highly anticipated first episode of SEASON 2, The Slumflower joins forces with the unstoppable comedian: Katherine Ryan! Is having a man's children the ultimate betrayal? Should women dominate their husbands? Are breadwinner wives doomed? It all goes down...

11.10.2023

SEASON 1 FINALE IN CONVERSATION WITH: MISTRESS MARLEY

This is the FINAL episode of The Slumflower Hour podcast's first ever season and of course, we had to wrap this up in style! It is with great honour to introduce to you, MISTRESS MARLEY: the professional dominatrix and sex...

11.03.2023

THE BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE

Are relationships your comfort zone? Are you scared of being alone? Have you spent more time being in relationships, than being single? You may really benefit from this episode if you resonate with any of the above questions! In this...

10.27.2023

ACCEPTING GENEROSITY FROM MEN?

Do you fear that you 'owe' men something in return for their kindness? Are you self-deprecating and unable to see yourself as worthy of receiving? Do you feel bad when men go out of their way for you? If you...

10.20.2023

WOMEN OF THE ZODIAC

As complex and unique as we all are, there are still traits we share in common - depending on what period of the year we were born in! Join The Slumflower as she discusses the weaknesses and strengths of your...

10.12.2023

SEXUAL DISCIPLINE

Is your horniness hindering you? Do you find yourself making more excuses for him because of your sexual attraction to him? Are you giving away so much of yourself and still not getting what you want from him? It may...

10.05.2023

HOLDING SPACE FOR RAGE

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on my Patreon! Does misandry hold the same weight as misogyny? Are men trying hard enough? Are women ever going to be free from patriarchy? In this episode, The Slumflower discusses...

09.29.2023

LOANING A MAN MONEY?

Where do you draw the line of financially supporting a man you care about? Are men more likely to take advantage of generous women? What happens if that man can't pay you back? In this episode, join Chidera as she...

09.22.2023

RAISING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM WHILE DATING

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on my Patreon! In the longest episode so far, join The Slumflower as she talks about raising your self-esteem, through the lens of observing rejection sensitivity, desperation, and comparing yourself to...

09.15.2023

ASKING FOR TOO MUCH OR ASKING THE WRONG MAN?

In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses: what's the difference between ‘being bought’ and being where your worth feels valued? Do you feel comfortable asking men for things or are you scared they will think you're 'fleecing' them? What...

09.08.2023

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!

You waited patiently and it's finally happening...THE SLUMFLOWER HOUR IS NOW ON PATREON! Over at my Patreon page, you can enjoy the following benefits: BONUS MINISODES: 2 x Monthly Exclusive Mini-sodes (15-minute video bites) EXCLUSIVE WORKSHOP SERIES: access to the full...

09.01.2023

SO YOU CAUGHT HIM LYING...

Are men trustworthy? Are there times when it's okay for a man to lie to you? Are you too honest with men? In a rather hilarious episode, Chidera unpacks the reality that the man you love will at some point,...

08.25.2023

BUT WHAT ABOUT LOVE?

Is a straight relationship devoid of love if the woman employs critical thought and strategy in how she shows up in the partnership? Can love and money co-exist? Has this generation missed out on what 'real love' truly means? In...

08.17.2023

WHY YOUR BOUNDARIES AREN'T WORKING

Are you flimsy with your boundaries? Are you too forgiving of men? Do you find yourself being too agreeable and malleable? In this episode, Chidera discusses the idea of creating penalties when men hurt your feelings yet automatically expect forgiveness,...

08.11.2023

SO YOU FUCKED HIM TOO SOON...NOW WHAT?

When is considered 'too soon' to sleep with a guy? Do men value it when you tell them 'I don't usually do this'? Are your sexual impulses sabotaging you? In this hilarious and anecdotal episode, Chidera discusses how a one-night-stand...

08.04.2023

COMPROMISE VS SETTLING

Would you rather settle or compromise? Have you explored the difference between settling and compromising? Are you his dream girl or are you his intermediary space-filler while he uses you to get good enough for his dream girl? In this episode, join...

07.28.2023